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November 20, 2014, 2:21 amYou know you are getting old when...
November 19, 2014, 10:40 amChronically unhappy people -- Do you fall into this category?
7 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People
I often teach about happiness and what has become exceedingly clear is this: There are seven qualities chronically unhappy people have mastered.
According to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky states: "40 percent of our of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change."
If this is true and it is, there's hope for us all. There are billions of people on our planet and clearly some are truly happy. The rest of us bounce back and forth between happiness and unhappiness depending on the day.
Throughout the years, I've learned there are certain traits and habits chronically unhappy people seem to have mastered. But before diving in with you, let me preface this and say: we all have bad days, even weeks when we fall down in all seven areas.
The difference between a happy and unhappy life is how often and how long we stay there.
Here are the 7 qualities of chronically unhappy people.
1. Your default belief is that life is hard.
Happy people know life can be hard and tend to bounce through hard times with an attitude of curiosity versus victimhood. They take responsibility for how they got themselves into a mess, and focus on getting themselves out of it as soon as possible.
Perseverance towards problem versus complaining over circumstances is a symptom of a happy person. Unhappy people see themselves as victims of life and stay stuck in the "look what happened to me" attitude versus finding a way through and out the other side.
2. You believe most people can't be trusted.
I won't argue that healthy discernment is important, but most happy people are trusting of their fellow man. They believe in the good in people, versus assuming everyone is out to get them. Generally open and friendly towards people they meet, happy people foster a sense of community around themselves and meet new people with an open heart.
Unhappy people are distrustful of most people they meet and assume that strangers can't be trusted. Unfortunately this behavior slowly starts to close the door on any connection outside of an inner-circle and thwarts all chances of meeting new friends.
3. You concentrate on what's wrong in this world versus what's right.
There's plenty wrong with this world, no arguments here, yet unhappy people turn a blind eye to what's actually right in this world and instead focus on what's wrong. You can spot them a mile away, they'll be the ones complaining and responding to any positive attributes of our world with "yeah but".
Happy people are aware of global issues, but balance their concern with also seeing what's right. I like to call this keeping both eyes open. Unhappy people tend to close one eye towards anything good in this world in fear they might be distracted from what's wrong. Happy people keep it in perspective. They know our world has problems and they also keep an eye on what's right.
4. You compare yourself to others and harbor jealousy.
Unhappy people believe someone else's good fortune steals from their own. They believe there's not enough goodness to go around and constantly compare yours against theirs. This leads to jealousy and resentment.
Happy people know that your good luck and circumstance are merely signs of what they too can aspire to achieve. Happy people believe they carry a unique blueprint that can't be duplicated or stolen from -- by anyone on the planet. They believe in unlimited possibilities and don't get bogged down by thinking one person's good fortune limits their possible outcome in life.
5. You strive to control your life.
There's a difference between control and striving to achieve our goals. Happy people take steps daily to achieve their goals, but realize in the end, there's very little control over what life throws their way.
Unhappy people tend to micromanage in effort to control all outcomes and fall apart in dramatic display when life throws a wrench in their plan. Happy people can be just as focused, yet still have the ability to go with the flow and not melt down when life delivers a curve-ball.
The key here is to be goal-oriented and focused, but allow room for letting sh*t happen without falling apart when the best laid plans go awry- because they will. Going with the flow is what happy people have as plan B.
6 You consider your future with worry and fear.
There's only so much rent space between your ears. Unhappy people fill their thoughts with what could go wrong versus what might go right.
Happy people take on a healthy dose of delusion and allow themselves to daydream about what they'd like to have life unfold for them. Unhappy people fill that head space with constant worry and fear.
Happy people experience fear and worry, but make an important distinction between feeling it and living it. When fear or worry crosses a happy person's mind, they'll ask themselves if there's an action they can be taken to prevent their fear or worry from happening (there's responsibility again) and they take it. If not, they realize they're spinning in fear and they lay it down.
7. You fill your conversations with gossip and complaints.
Unhappy people like to live in the past. What's happened to them and life's hardships are their conversation of choice. When they run out of things to say, they'll turn to other people's lives and gossip.
Happy people live in the now and dream about the future. You can feel their positive vibe from across the room. They're excited about something they're working on, grateful for what they have and dreaming about the possibilities of life.
Obviously none of us are perfect. We're all going to swim in negative waters once in a while, but what matters is how long we stay there and how quickly we work to get ourselves out. Practicing positive habits daily is what sets happy people apart from unhappy people, not doing everything perfectly.
Walk, fall down, get back up again, repeat. It's in the getting back up again where all the difference resides.
November 11, 2014, 12:17 amHonoring all who served
I salute all that served in defense of this nation.
November 10, 2014, 10:25 amThe President-From a Canadian Perspective
The real problem with Americans and their disrespect for Obama—according to a Canadian
Written by William Thomas
There was a time not so long ago when Americans, regardless of their political stripes, rallied ’round their president. Once elected, the man who won the White House was no longer viewed as a Republican or Democrat, but the president of the United States. The oath of office was taken, the wagons were circled around the country’s borders, and it was America versus the rest of the world, with the president of all the people at the helm.
Suddenly President Barack Obama, with the potential to become an exceptional president, has become the glaring exception to that unwritten, patriotic rule.
Four days before Obama’s inauguration, before he officially took charge of the American government, Rush Limbaugh boasted publicly that he hoped the president would fail. Of course, when the president fails, the country flounders. Wishing harm upon your country in order to further your own narrow political views is selfish, sinister and a tad treasonous as well.
Subsequently, during his State of the Union address, which is pretty much a pep rally for America, an unknown congressional representative from South Carolina, later identified as Joe Wilson, stopped the show when he called the president of the United States a liar. The president showed great restraint in ignoring this unprecedented insult and carried on with his speech. Speaker Nancy Pelosi was so stunned by the slur, she forgot to jump to her feet while clapping wildly, 30 or 40 times after that.
Last spring, president Obama took his wife Michelle to see a play in New York City and Republicans attacked him over the cost of security for the excursion. The president can’t take his wife out to dinner and a show without being scrutinized by the political opposition? As history has proven, a president in a theater without adequate security is a tragically bad idea. (Remember: “Apart from that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you enjoy the play?”)
At some point, the treatment of president Obama went from offensive to ugly, and then to downright dangerous.
The healthcare debate, which looked more like extreme fighting in a mud pit than a national dialogue, revealed a very vulgar side of America. Obama’s face appeared on protest signs, white-faced and blood-mouthed in a satanic clown image. In other tasteless portrayals, people who disagreed with his position distorted his face to look like Hitler, complete with mustache and swastika.
Odd that burning the flag makes Americans crazy, but depicting the president as a clown and a maniacal fascist is accepted as part of the new rude America.
Maligning the image of the leader of the free world is one thing; putting the president’s life in peril is quite another. More than once, men with guns were videotaped at the healthcare rallies where the president spoke. Again, history shows that letting men with guns get within range of a president has not served America well in the past.
And still the “birthers” are out there claiming Barack Obama was not born in the United States, although public documentation proves otherwise. Hawaii is definitely part of the United States, but the Panama Canal Zone where his electoral opponent Senator John McCain was born? Nobody’s sure.
Last month, a 44-year-old woman in Buffalo was quite taken by president Obama when she met him in a chicken wing restaurant called Duff’s. Did she say something about a pleasure and an honor to meet the man, or utter encouraging words for the difficult job he is doing? No. Quote: “You’re a hottie with a smokin’ little body.”
Lady, that was the president of the United States you were addressing, not one of the Jonas Brothers! He’s your president, for goodness sakes, not the guy driving the Zamboni at “Monster Trucks On Ice.” Maybe next it’ll be, “Take Your President To A Topless Bar Day.”
In President Barack Obama, Americans have a charismatic leader with a good and honest heart. Unlike his predecessor, he’s a very intelligent leader. And unlike that president’s predecessor, he’s a highly moral man.
In president Obama, Americans have the real deal, the whole package, and a leader that citizens of almost every country around the world look to with great envy. Given the opportunity, Canadians would trade our leader—hell, most of our leaders—for Obama in a heartbeat.
What America has in Obama is a head of state with vitality and insight and youth. Think about it: Barack Obama is a young Nelson Mandela. Mandela was the face of change and charity for all of Africa, but he was too old to make it happen. The great things Obama might do for America and the world could go on for decades after he’s out of office.
America, you know not what you have.
The man is being challenged unfairly, characterized with vulgarity and treated with the kind of deep disrespect to which no previous president was subjected. It’s like the day after electing the first black man to be president, thereby electrifying the world with hope and joy, Americans sobered up and decided the bad old days were better.
President Obama may fail but it will not be a Richard Nixon default, fraught with larceny and lies. President Obama, given a fair chance, will surely succeed, but his triumph will never come with a Bill Clinton caveat—“if only he’d got control of that zipper.”
Please. Give the man a fair, fighting chance. This incivility toward the leader who won over Americans and gave hope to billions of people around the world that their lives could be enhanced by his example just has to stop.
Believe me, when Americans drive by the White House and see a sign on the lawn that reads, “No shirt. No shoes. No service,” they’ll realize this new national rudeness has gone way, way too far.
November 6, 2014, 12:42 amThe Prophesy
November 4, 2014, 9:26 amExercise your right and vote
November 3, 2014, 5:48 pm"Power is the enemy of new ideas"
Senate races hot on accusations, light on ideas----Everyone is talking loud and saying absolutely NOTHING!
Even with control of the Senate at stake, serious discussions about deficit spending, climate change, immigration, Social Security's long-term future and other knotty issues rarely emerged.
Republicans overwhelmingly devoted their campaigns to criticizing President Barack Obama's leadership and governing style. And Democrats, while sometimes forced to wanly defend "Obamacare," often caricatured their opponents as throwbacks eager to limit women's reproductive rights.
To be sure, superficial debates and 30-second attack ads have fueled U.S. political campaigns for years. But even by that measure, political veterans say, this fall's elections were remarkably light on policy and ideas.
"I'm struck by how not any of the significant issues that Congress has to deal with — immigration, infrastructure, a grand bargain on taxes and spending — are playing out in this election," said Steve Elmendorf, a former top Democratic congressional aide.
Some Democratic lawmakers weren't excited by a "Families First" agenda that party leaders wrote for the 1996 elections, Elmendorf said. "But we felt we had to have a policy umbrella to give to members."
"I don't think either side has done that this time," he said.
Campaign strategists say it's no surprise. From the start, Republicans centered their campaigns on tying their opponents to Obama's sinking popularity. As months passed, nothing reversed Obama's fortunes, and most Republicans saw no point in stirring things up with new proposals.
"When your opponents are destroying themselves, let them," said Texas-based Republican consultant Matt Mackowiak.
He said Republican leaders suppressed a request from some candidates for a party-wide platform or "contract" to highlight various ideas.
"When you do that, you give your opponents something to bash," Mackowiak said. "The strongest card we had to play was to run against the president."
Iowa's close Senate race was one where personal attacks and clever TV ads greatly overshadowed any discussion of how to tackle the nation's most pressing needs.
For Republicans, the breakthrough moment was a TV ad in which state Sen. Joni Ernst cheerily said she castrated hogs as a farm girl. The wink-wink reference to knowing how to "cut pork" propelled her to the GOP nomination and national attention.
For Democrat Bruce Braley, the biggest moment was a leaked video from a Texas fundraiser in which he warned lawyers that a farmer would chair the Senate Judiciary Committee if Republicans control the Senate. The apparent snub of six-term Republican Sen. Charles Grassley of Iowa played badly in the farm-heavy state.
It was fitting, perhaps, that the Iowa contest's final weekend featured arguments about whether retiring Democratic Sen. Tom Harkin — whose seat is in play — made sexist comments about Ernst. That's what Republicans alleged after Harkin said many people find Ernst "really attractive, and she sounds nice."
Harkin continued, "I don't care if she's as good looking as Taylor Swift or as nice as Mr. Rogers, but if she votes like Michele Bachmann, she's wrong for the state of Iowa." Harkin apologized for the remarks Monday.
This year's issue that got the most campaign lip service was the president's 2010 health care overhaul, which Republicans call "Obamacare." Discussions, however, sometimes involved "a level of dissembling that's almost jaw-dropping," said congressional scholar Norm Ornstein.
He cited Republicans who vow to repeal the entire law while somehow restoring popular parts, such as requiring insurance companies to cover new customers who have serious health problems. Health officials say that pick-and-choose approach won't work, because it strips away revenue essential to pay for the popular features.
Democrats pressed congressional Republicans to spell out a plausible alternative to the health law. But GOP leaders, including House Speaker John Boehner, nixed the idea, leaving most Democrats to defend "Obamacare" without a competing plan to compare it to.
Ornstein said it might not matter much. America's voters are so divided, and so motivated by fear and anger, he said, "that whatever you say about issues isn't going to matter."
Some Virginia Republicans might unhappily agree. GOP Senate nominee Ed Gillespie, seen as trailing Democratic Sen. Mark Warner, was among the few Republicans nationwide to offer a comprehensive alternative to "Obamacare."
Gillespie's plan would no longer obligate people to obtain health insurance, but it would provide tax credits to help buy it. The proposal received modest attention in a contest dominated by TV ads that either accuse Warner of involvement in backroom political favoritism, or accuse Gillespie of being a profit-driven lobbyist.
John J. Pitney, Jr., a political scientist at Claremont McKenna College, says neither party is likely to produce policy proposals as long as they think the presidency or the House or Senate majority is within reach.
"Power is the enemy of new ideas," he said.
November 1, 2014, 12:35 pmEarly voting in Dekalb County was outstanding!
South DeKalb is showing up at the polls big time.
At 5:45 this evening on the last day of early voting at the Gallery at South DeKalb, the wrap around line to vote was long and thick. Reminded me of the 2008 Presidential Election when folks showed to elect Barack Obama. Sweet to see!! Now on to Tuesday. Yeah!
October 30, 2014, 4:16 pmYou can't believe everything that you read
Poll: Perdue Soars to 8-Point Lead Over Nunn in Georgia
Wednesday, 29 Oct 2014 09:36 PM
Businessman David Perdue has galloped to an 8-point lead over incumbent Georgia Democratic Sen. Michelle Nunn, a poll released Wednesday shows.
Read Latest Breaking News from Newsmax.com http://www.Newsmax.com/Politics/David-Perdue-Michelle-Nunn-Georgia-Senate/2014/10/29/id/604025/#ixzz3HdvtTwMb
This is why one can’t believe everything that they read. Michelle Nunn is not an incumbent Senator nor is she a Senator. In my opinion, this was a Freudian slip. Newsmax is incompetent in their news reporting. Perdue has never had an 8-point lead. Latest polls show that they are neck and neck with Nunn having a slight edge thanks to her father's endorsement, the former Senator Sam Nunn, who is very popular in Georgia politics. He was a conservative Democrat. Yes we have them too. Surprise!
October 24, 2014, 12:00 amThe Bradley Report
Stoned Rush Limbaugh Makes Hypocritical History
By Demanding Harsh Penalties For Other Drug Users
See the link below. It speaks about Rush's hypocrisy when concerning others that was hooked on drugs.
October 23, 2014, 2:37 amDonald Trump to Mitt Romney: Don't Even Think of Running
Donald Trump to Mitt Romney: Don't Even Think of Running
In an interview Tuesday, Trump also expressed his disappointment with Romney's performance in the final four weeks of the 2012 campaign against President Barack Obama.
"No. I don't think he should run. He had his chance and he blew it," Trump told Breitbart News. "He had a great chance of winning. He should have won. That was an election that, frankly, should have been a much easier election than the probable 2016 candidate Hillary [Clinton]. That was an election that should have been won by the Republicans."
Earlier this month, speculation mounted that Romney might make another presidential bid after a visit to Iowa to campaign on behalf of GOP Senate candidate Joni Ernst.
According to The Washington Post, confidants have said they think Romney is grappling with whether he would take up the challenge should the party draft him, while multiple GOP donors have pleaded with him to throw his hat into the ring.
"I'm not running and I'm not planning on running. I've got nothing to add to that story," he told supporters earlier this month while on the campaign trail in Georgia.
In two separate interviews last week, Ann Romney also ruled out a possible run.
"Done," she told The Los Angeles Times. "Completely. Not only Mitt and I are done, but the kids are done," she said, in reference to their five sons. "Done. Done. Done."
She also made similar comments during an appearance on NBC's "Today" show.
Meanwhile, a Washington Post/ABC News poll out earlier this week found that Romney had the highest support among likely voters of any potential 2016 candidate, with 21 percent.
Specifically, 44 percent of likely Iowa voters said they would support Romney, compared to 43 percent who said they would back Clinton.
October 16, 2014, 11:58 pmWhere does most of our energy come from?
October 16, 2014, 3:23 pmSo you think you had a bad day, huh?
October 15, 2014, 11:55 pmThis says it all...
Everyone is not impressed with the repubs. Counting your CHICKENS before the eggs hatch can lead to disappointing results. Stay tuned once again.
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