Hi PI4M - Welcome to LP! I had some thoughts on your post ...
Often times it is very easy to say that a house or piece of land is merely of the material plane of life and humans should not become attached to material things. I agree with the premise but disagree that it is for every person a simple equasion. It is certainly not for me.
Your post implies you are strong and, yet, leaving a familiar place of nearly 4 decades would certainly take an emotional toll. I think physically moving and leaving behind familiar (and sometimes "safe") ground is a type of psychological trauma that is really only trumped by the loss/death of a loved one. I also believe that it is a time where we consciously/subconsciously seek validation that we've made the right "move" in order to garner our strength and peace of mind.
Under similar circumstances, I'd be asking all along the way for the Angels to help me know I'd made the right decision. I frequently refer to the Twilight Zone myself and definitely can relate; however, it's a good thing! I think you are where you are supposed to be and are being given the best kind of reassurence. You need to start rebuilding now from the stress of it all. I also had the feeling that while this change in your life is going to throw some big obstacles your way, you are going to come out on the other side way better, stronger, more confident. You seem quite surprised by the findings at the eatery - I think a few more good surprises are in store for you.
Congratulations on your move and your new place. I wonder if the Mystical forum's Dream Team might pull a few good numbers out of your post too. We shall see! Jake