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February 27, 2008
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I actually found this question pretty interesting....
If we won the lottery, would I leave my husband? I don't know..We've talked about it before and he always says jokingly that the only reason he "hangs out" with me is because we're broke.
I think eventually we would end up getting divorced simply because we'd have the money to go do whatever we wanted to. He'd be wrapped up in his own things, I'd be wrapped up in mine..I don't know...
Maybe being broke keeps up together? We have a common goal that we're constantly fighting for (making ends meet) and that keeps up together.
Interesting question... I understood where the OP was coming from.
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Wow, I read each and everyones reply, and I found them all very interesting. I'm in my 29th year of marriage, my children are grown and gone. We are very happy and I realize that we are so blessed. I would not end my marriage for any reason except for non-commitment.
I feel commitment is so important. If we won the lottery, it would only help us obtain our goals a lot sooner. Be blessed.
CA United States
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I really feel sorry for some of you. Money is a horrible reason to stay married. Usually its the kids, but money? no way. Its seems as though some of you really would have no problem leaving after the lottery but if you don't win you are willing to stay miserable for the rest of your lives? I don't get people. It makes me truly sad.
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Money isn't the reason people stay married, it's the reason they don't split. The reality is that a lot of people can't afford to go out and live on their own. Some of those people are living with their parents after a divorce, and some are people who would get divorced if they could afford it. Even when a relationship is bad it can be hard to leave. Add serious financial hardship and uncertainty and it shouldn't be so hard to see why some people stay.
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Quote: Originally posted by KY Floyd on Feb 28, 2008
Money isn't the reason people stay married, it's the reason they don't split. The reality is that a lot of people can't afford to go out and live on their own. Some of those people are living with their parents after a divorce, and some are people who would get divorced if they could afford it. Even when a relationship is bad it can be hard to leave. Add serious financial hardship and uncertainty and it shouldn't be so hard to see why some people stay.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. People think it's easy to leave a spouse and strike out on their own until they add up the cost. When two people were sharing the bills and just getting by now they will have to foot the bills independently.
For the man this can be even more difficult especially if children are involved and alimony to boot.
I heard somewhere that for people seeking a divorce.
You must put forth every effort to analyze the marriage even more than what went into getting married. And only get divorced if there is no possible reconciliation.
You have to plan for a divorce and find a way to become financially independent of your spouse if you are to succeed in striking out on your own.
Of course this is way easier if you win the big one but thats pipe dreaming.
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Not unless my spouse was a cheater and I was short on money to pay the lawyer. Otherwise, No! Vowed for richer or poorer! LOL$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ all the way to the financial advisors!
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Quote: Originally posted by Tenaj on Feb 27, 2008
And I'll wager that he's not your first marriage either and your grand kids are probably older than your marriage to him. How many times did it take you to get it right? huh? You would have left your first husband without a jackpot. Tell us again about that first husband.
Was he your soulmate Jackpot or just a boxed.
Just keeping it real, tntea.
U gull's are JUST>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>BOXXED>>>>>>>
into<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
POVERTITY(GO go go DIVORICE d man CRAWL'rrrrrrRonyurknes)<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< WHO wan's UR ??BODY anyway??
?????????????????why do ?????? MEN make MOEEEE MONEY?????
vote for HILL cause BILL likes (his TEEN'ager'$$$$)
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Quote: Originally posted by Guru101 on Feb 21, 2008
If your marriage is that miserable, why not leave now? If you get a divorce after you win, the spouse is entitled to at least half. The reason I say "at least half" is because if you hide the fact you won from your spouse and then get a divorce, when the spouse finds out you won and hid the fact, he/she can sue you, possibly ending up with a lot more and maybe even all of it. So seriously, get a divorce now.
thats why you dont get married. its overrated anyway.