Quote: Originally posted by Harve$t Moon on May 5, 2010
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Thanks, radicalmommy, for sharing your story! I feel your pain. It is very big of you to put your mother's name on this honor wall. I commend you for that! You have compassion for a person who was unloved as a child by her own mother. She only does what she knows how to do and learned from her role model.
Please put your name on this wall, so that we may honor you!!!
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Below is what I was going to send to your mailbox / private message, but decided that your story can help others by posting it here. I hope that is okay with you.
Just letting you that I'm not Oprah or Dr. Phil.
What it feels like to me is that, your mother has treated you, like she was treated as a child. Can you imagine how she suffered so much from her unkind and unloving mother? To me, she is modeling what she was taught. We know that is not right, but it is all that she knows how to do, because her pain is in her fiber and in her heart. I feel that there is a hole in her heart that she doesn't know how to heal. All the talking you do with her or all the books she reads, isn't going to change a thing. She has to find a professional, who can help her heal and change. She has to want to do it herself. That may never happen as she is probably set like stone in her ways. She may never change. So it is up to you. So you have to change. You have to want to change. You have to feel the unconditional love of motherhood. When you change, your whole world, also, changes. It can't stay the same. Everything effects everything else. Everything moves everything, bit by bit. I am not suggesting that you open your arms to your mother. I am suggesting that you secretly send her healing pink light, love and prayers from your heart to her heart. Do it often and do it in secret. Then let go and let God's magic happen. It will happen. Don't watch the clock or calender. Change will happen.
Now that you have exposed her with the light of awareness, you can focus on being the best mother for your children that you never had. I know that your babies are spoiled rotten with love!
Focus on what you want to do with your life. Don't focus on the lottery. Your help may come to you from unknown sources and in unknown ways, but you have to FIRST know what you want. Make plans. Write them down. Put time lines on them. You must expect to receive what you desire. Ask for it! Select it! Project it! Expect it! Claim it! When you know what you want, you can recognize it, when you see it. Go after it! Don't let obstacles get in your way!
Please let us honor you and put your name on this Mothers' Honor Wall!
I invite others to join with me and circle you with the love that you never got from your mother. We celebrate that you are a fantastic, wonderful and loving mother to your children and to other children that you meet in your day to day activities! We celebrate that you are free in your heart to love yourself better than any mother ever could! And when you are ready, we invited you to send love and pink light from your heart to your mother, who is suffering beyond belief, for she was once a precious and unloved child! This is compassion! This is healing and loving compassion! This is what you have to give to her. This is from your BIG heart!
Promise that this cycle of anger and misery stops with you now! Let your side of the relationship heal. Give your babies the very best love that you have. May you be blessed many times over!!! May you tap into the flowing universal money streams to assist you in fulfilling all your dreams! May you feel and know the love that vibrates in the core of your heart!
Blessings!