We don't have a gun problem. We have a society problem. Part 2

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I found this on FB.

I thought it would be better to post a new entry rather than bury it in a reply. It hits the nail right on the head. Please share it if you want. My apologies if any one else has already posted this.

Okay, I’ll be the bad guy and say what no one else is brave enough to say, but wants to say. I’ll take all the criticism and attacks from everyone because you ...know what? I’m a TEACHER. I live this life daily. And I wouldn’t do anything else! But I also know daily I could end up in an active shooter situation.

Until we, as a country, are willing to get serious and talk about mental health issues, lack of available care for the mental health issues, lack of discipline in the home, horrendous lack of parental support when the schools are trying to control horrible behavior at school (oh no! Not MY KID. What did YOU do to cause my kid to react that way?), lack of moral values, and yes, I’ll say it-violent video games that take away all sensitivity to ANY compassion for others’ lives, as well as reality TV that makes it commonplace for people to constantly scream up in each others’ faces and not value any other person but themselves, we will have a gun problem in school. Our kids don’t understand the permanency of death anymore!!!

I grew up with guns. Everyone knows that. But you know what? My parents NEVER supported any bad behavior from me. I was terrified of doing something bad at school, as I would have not had a life until I corrected the problem and straightened my ass out. My parents invaded my life. They knew where I was ALL the time. They made me have a curfew. They made me wake them up when I got home. They made me respect their rules. They had full control of their house, and at any time could and would go through every inch of my bedroom, backpack, pockets, anything! Parents: it’s time to STEP UP! Be the parent that actually gives a crap! Be the annoying mom that pries and knows what your kid is doing. STOP being their friend. They have enough “friends” at school. Be their parent. Being the “cool mom” means not a thing when either your kid is dead or your kid kills other people because they were allowed to have their space and privacy in YOUR HOME. I’ll say it again. My home was filled with guns growing up. For God’s sake, my daddy was an 82nd Airborne Ranger who lost half his face serving our country. But you know what? I never dreamed of shooting anyone with his guns. I never dreamed of taking one! I was taught respect for human life, compassion, rules, common decency, and most of all, I was taught that until I moved out, my life and bedroom wasn’t mine...it was theirs. And they were going to know what was happening because they loved me and wanted the best for me.

There. Say that I’m a horrible person. I didn’t bring up gun control, and I will refuse to debate it with anyone. This post wasn’t about gun control. This was me, loving the crap out of people and wanting the best for them. This was about my school babies and knowing that God created each one for greatness, and just wanting them to reach their futures. It’s about 20 years ago this year I started my teaching career. Violence was not this bad 20 years ago. Lack of compassion wasn’t this bad 20 years ago. And God knows 20 years ago that I wasn’t afraid daily to call a parent because I KNEW that 9 out of 10 would cuss me out, tell me to go to Hell, call the news on me, call the school board on me, or post all over FaceBook about me because I called to let them know what their child chose to do at school...because they are a NORMAL kid!!!!!

Those 17 lives mattered. When are we going to take our own responsibility seriously?

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Comments

Avatar Soledad -
#1
It’s good to talk about feelings. I applaud you for trying to make sense of this. That gun stuff is not funny. I don’t see how you could be called anything except a normal person trying to make sense out of a terrible tragedy, or tragedies. A lot of times people with problems go to people for help, but nothing changes. The bureaucracy of it all. Then when they see that nothing changes they lose faith and look somewhere else. I applaud you for caring, and yes you do make a difference ok.
Avatar Soledad -
#2
I’ll tell ya a funny story. When my daughter was in 2nd grade she had this class trip. Being a parent I was very nervous with my daughter outside without me around. The reason for this was well she used to get lost a lot in school on trips too the year before. So me being nervous I wrote down my phone number for her to have, I explained the buddy system, yo stay with the parents or teachers. But I was really nervous, because she did get lost a lot. So anyways, one of the parents had a cell phone and she put it in her bag and left her bag around the kids while they were having lunch. Turns out my daughter took the cell phone from the parents bag. Well, long story short my daughter was more worried about me worrying and she thought I was telling her to call me when I gave her my phone number. But she didn’t know what to do because she didn’t have a phone to call. Yea I got called in to school, had to sit down with my daughter and the vice principal and discuss what happened. I was stunned by my daughters actions but in no way was I pointing fingers or anything lest I had to point it at myself. Anyways, explaining things more cleary does help. Thought you might like the little story.
Avatar grwurston -
#3
Nice story. You found out back then she will check in to say she's okay when she knows you're worried about her. You taught her well.
Avatar eddessaknight -
#4
A good telling story grwurston Bravo, I applaud you, many are afraid to say same

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