Mike that is such a beautiful message,i try to be nice to everyone but my problem is becoming to attached and too dependent on pleople and it devastates me when these people move on to other things,what i can't understand is even when i treat people as i want to be treated i still get hurt and do nothing wrong,i use to think that maybe i need to change because like you i will give the last i have to a friend or relative but i come to find out it is not me that need changing i need to find people that or as nice as i am and who would make a special friend,but i must say i have actually met some special people here at LP just have not had the Pleasure of meeting them face to face,I wish some day that could be an option,You describe yourself so perfect Mike so you will never have a problem of meeting lots of people and they should like you for you,i know i do that is why i am responding,take care and maybe someday you and your mom will come to an understanding because me and my daughter has because she use to tell me that i would get defensive with her and we would yell back and forth so i see where you are coming from,she actually made me see myself and i thought what a Blessing it is to have a child all grown up and teaching me something so we have a great understanding now and i enjoy her so much when she visits or calls me and i also go and spend time at her place,Time flies so don't wait too long Mike,Thank you for Sharing your STory,,,,Goodnight,,,,,,,Delores247

thanks delores.hope your night is going well.everything well here.

Unhappy or happy - that is a state of mind. We cannot change the people that make us unhappy, but we can change our state of mind.

I am certain you will be happy about your mother in the future. She won't change, but your perception of her will change, depending on what is happening in your life.

When i saw csfb's comment i was amazed at the impact it has on me at present,You know i never thought about it that way,i guess i have been unhappy a lot of times because of others but i will look at it in a different light now because i noticed something while i am wasting all of this precious time letting them make me unhappy they are going on with everyday life,business as usual,I do pray i never become like them,i will continue to treat people with kindness and respect,never sending mixed messages like i am their friend then turn around and pretend they don't exist,Thanks again that is a big HElp to me,Take Care and God Bless

noone can make you unhappy without your permission.

If i may,Lotto mike i would like to address emily's comment,Emily i think that their are people in this world whose prime goal is to meet and make the lives of others miserable and i think that they waste our valuable time and hender us from enjoying life,They are good at what they do and whether we give them permission or not they will defeat us,You know why ?because they are inhuman and feel nothing,unlike us we have feelings and our feelings can be hurt by others,although i hate how people treat me and others like me i don't want to be that person that can't feel because that is what make us Human,Thanks   Delores247

Delores - how you react to those people is your choice. Stay away from that kind of people.

thanks csfb,emily and delores.emily thats what i do.i stay away from those kinds of people and unfortunately that includes my mother which is sad....