"It's like the ebb and flow of every relationship," Aniston says. "It'shard; it gets easy; it gets fun again. What's hard to sustain is someideal that it's perfect. That's ridiculous. What's fantastic aboutmarriage is getting through those ebbs and flows with the same person,and looking across the room and saying, 'I'm still here. And I stilllove you.' You re-meet, reconnect. You have marriages within marriageswithin marriages. That's what I love about marriage. That's what I wantin marriage. It's unfortunate, but we live in a very disposablesociety. Those moments where it looks like 'Uh-oh, this isn'tworking!'—those are the most important, transformative moments. Mostcouples draw up divorce papers when they're missing out on an amazingmoment of deepening and enlightenment and connection."
   
     She sighs heavily and turns away to light a Merit cigarette."That's not Brad's view of it," she says, glum again. "We believe indifferent things, I guess. You can't force a relationship, even if it'syour view of how you would like it to be conducted. Obviously twopeople leave a relationship because there's a different thought patternhappening. My goal is to try and achieve a very deep, committedrelationship. That's what I'm interested in, but it's someone'sprerogative to be or not to be in or out of a relationship.