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What do you tell your kids when they see you play lottery games?

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Posted: January 19, 2009, 4:26 am - IP Logged

My daughter watches me buy scratch tickets sometimes, and fill out Powerball slips.

Sometimes she's around when I scratch, and she's a little kid so of course it's exciting for her.  I don't see it as something 'dirty' so I don't see the necessity of waiting until kids aren't around to play lottery.

On the other hand, I don't want her to have cherished childhood memories of the lottery either, and grow up associating it with good times.

I do my best to explain that when you play the lottery, you are probably going to lose.  I also remind her that you have to assume that you're going to lose, and only play with money you don't care about.  I make sure she understands that I am only spending my 'allowance' on these things, and not any money from the family.

Anyone else have something to add to the topic?

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    Posted: January 19, 2009, 5:02 am - IP Logged

    Maybe it's just because it's another new thing to her, but I'd suspect that if it's exciting to her you're already sending the wrong message. Sure, it's exciting when you win, but if you're worried about her future you don't want her to think that playing is exciting. You've basically got to explain vices to her, or get her to stop paying any special attention to it. Maybe it would be a good idea to avoid checking or cashing the tickets in her presence, so that she no longer sees the exciting part. Beyond that, I guess it depends on her age, and how much she  can understand.

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      Posted: January 19, 2009, 5:24 am - IP Logged

      I think you are sending the WRONG message to a young impressionable mind, especially the fact that while you continue to do it you tell her you probably won't win.  I would agree with the other poster that you might want to do it during "your" time and maybe not involve her at all.  You asked.............

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        Posted: January 19, 2009, 9:40 am - IP Logged

        You should be honest with your kids and be honest with yourself. We play the lottery because we're trying to win money. If only the lottery were as honest with us, telling us that lottery proceeds go toward education when in fact it goes into the general fund and every politician has thier filthy corrupt hands in it!

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          Posted: January 19, 2009, 9:56 am - IP Logged

          When my kids were small, I would say "Mommy playing the lottery" "Mommy playing the numbers" or after school for them my favorite thing to say concerning the numbers were "guess what??? mommy hit the numbers, so go in the store and pick out whatever snack you want".  Never regret a moment of it.  They also knew Mom liked to be at casinos. Now that they are grown, I am missing alot because "mommy at the horse track "OTB".  Have a good day!

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            Posted: January 19, 2009, 10:07 am - IP Logged

            It's probably too late now anyway.  Besides, she's a kid...as soon as she stops seeing you do it, perhaps she'll eventually forget all about it.

            You can't protect her from the many advertisements, etc.  Just like drugs, sex & violence...she's going to see lottery advertisements all around.  So you can't keep her completely from it. 

            Just do what you've been doing and explain to her that it's not a good investment and then stop doing it in front of her.  Then go hide in the bathroom and scratch, scratch scratch!!! 

            Good Luck!!!

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              Posted: January 19, 2009, 10:49 am - IP Logged

              My dad used to ask me for numbers when I was little. Often I had to fill out the slips and get it ready for him to purchase while he was cooking. The good old days. He never explained to me the bad side of it, like losing, but I already knew. The idea was keeping it in the dream mode, that this ticket might bring home the jackpot, so that thought is exciting, also the process of number selection.

              Now I am an adult, it is still exciting to me, and I have adobt the game as part of my daily entertainment.

              If you are worrying about your kids turning bad from it, or misuse of the game later in life, then don't do it in front of her. Untill later years when she realized it is a common game for adult. Otherwise play passively.

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                Posted: January 19, 2009, 12:20 pm - IP Logged

                I think as long as you are not smoking a cigarette and drinking a martini while you scratch your tickets, you are OK. Really, it depends on how old the child is and how well you define what you are doing and why you are doing it.  If you are hanging IOU's on the Christmas tree instead of presents, I would say that someday the child will associate your gambling habit with her upbringing in a negative way. Of course if you hit the jackpot and the child becomes financially stable due to your good fortune, you could be viewed in an entirely different light.

                 

                 

                 

                Money is evil...............

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                  Posted: January 19, 2009, 12:27 pm - IP Logged

                  I don't my kids anything...because I don't have any. Wink

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                    Posted: January 19, 2009, 12:38 pm - IP Logged

                    I think as long as you are not smoking a cigarette and drinking a martini while you scratch your tickets, you are OK. Really, it depends on how old the child is and how well you define what you are doing and why you are doing it.  If you are hanging IOU's on the Christmas tree instead of presents, I would say that someday the child will associate your gambling habit with her upbringing in a negative way. Of course if you hit the jackpot and the child becomes financially stable due to your good fortune, you could be viewed in an entirely different light.

                     

                     

                     

                    Money is evil...............

                    I Agree!  to a point, that is.

                    You can't keep your children in a bubble.  

                    On the other hand, when you pay your bills or do anything "adults" do, what do you say?  If a child is very young and might experience anxiety or have nightmares, you don't tell him/her that you might end up homeless or hungry when things look grim.   If your child happens to see or hear you having sex, do you demonstrate?  Of course not.  You only explain what needs to be said at the appropriate time. 

                    As the above post says, a lot of this depends on the child's age.  Having said that, my next door neighbor has a 5 year old and tells her just about everything.   When she was 4, she asked me if I have a Mommy and a Daddy.  I said they were gone and she asked "Did they die?"

                    You can see I don't have a definitive answer..just ruminating.

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                      Posted: January 19, 2009, 12:58 pm - IP Logged

                      My daughter watches me buy scratch tickets sometimes, and fill out Powerball slips.

                      Sometimes she's around when I scratch, and she's a little kid so of course it's exciting for her.  I don't see it as something 'dirty' so I don't see the necessity of waiting until kids aren't around to play lottery.

                      On the other hand, I don't want her to have cherished childhood memories of the lottery either, and grow up associating it with good times.

                      I do my best to explain that when you play the lottery, you are probably going to lose.  I also remind her that you have to assume that you're going to lose, and only play with money you don't care about.  I make sure she understands that I am only spending my 'allowance' on these things, and not any money from the family.

                      Anyone else have something to add to the topic?

                      If your quality time includes things other than scratchers, I wouldn't worry. Little kids imitate whatever they see their parents doing, especially if the parent seems to enjoy it. In that case, they just want to spend time with you. It doesn't matter if it's scratch-off tickets, cleaning the house, growing a garden, changing the car's oil, or learning the finer points of do-it-yourself home repair. The activity is secondary; people remember how their childhood felt, more than anything. As they grow up, they develop their own set of values -- which may be higher or lower than your own standards.

                      Many parents have tried to give their children 'good values' only to be mortified by some later action of that child, once they became an adult (sometimes sooner). I've seen more than one mom of a serial killer, in the paper, asking "what went wrong?".

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                        Posted: January 19, 2009, 1:28 pm - IP Logged

                        "I've seen more than one mom of a serial killer......what went wrong?"

                         

                        Maybe she forced him to eat too many Cheerios!  LOL

                         

                        Oh - wait a minute.  That's cereal.     Never mind.

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                          Posted: January 19, 2009, 1:42 pm - IP Logged

                          Being a single for such a long time.  The "Lottery"  has come through for

                          me and my children.    My children saw me play and win which benefited

                          all of us, paying a bill, and i always made sure they were included in on

                          the winnings, So my 12 year old reminds me mom r you playing your

                          number today?   I don't really think its harmful.  A least not to my bunch.

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                            I have 4 children whom all know i play the lottery it didn't adversely affect them one way or the other  3 of them are grown now, none of them plays the lottery regularly 2 of them buy mega millions tickets once in a while.  

                            When i win they reap the rewards as i take care of them above and beyond what they need or desire. Also they never said no to a vacation we might take when i win pick 4 straights.

                            I don't think gambling is inherited in our children unless it's pushed on them . Like if you insist they play the lottery too, and teach them the inner workings of the lottery and gambling in general. 

                            Most children under the age of ten have no conception of the almighty dollar. Haven't a clue what money is or does except that it buys things.  

                            Big John says. You don't hit the number. The number hits you!!!!

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                              Posted: January 19, 2009, 2:14 pm - IP Logged

                              In addition to what I previously posted concerning my children knowing that Mom plays the lottery.  Now they are both of age to play, my daughter never play or have interest in playing.  My son may have bought 5 scratch tickets, and no numbers game as far as I know.  So if you worried your kids will turn into a gambler when grown because of your actions now, i doubt it. Probably the opposite, I think we use up all the gambling genes and its none left for our kids.