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Posted: July 12, 2015, 8:28 am - IP Logged

But this is more about your friends family more friends more family reacting.  I would like to think that I know at this point who matters to me and who does not.  But there still can be concern about having a problem saying no, especially to say friends on fakebook, yep fakebook or any other social media. 

It would just concern me about how many people I would write off, just to keep my winnings. But definitely still playing!

Anyone else thinks about this.

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    Posted: July 12, 2015, 9:49 am - IP Logged

    But this is more about your friends family more friends more family reacting.  I would like to think that I know at this point who matters to me and who does not.  But there still can be concern about having a problem saying no, especially to say friends on fakebook, yep fakebook or any other social media. 

    It would just concern me about how many people I would write off, just to keep my winnings. But definitely still playing!

    Anyone else thinks about this.

    On the Social Media Website: Just Click On: Unfriend & Unfamily...

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      Posted: July 12, 2015, 1:26 pm - IP Logged

      On the Social Media Website: Just Click On: Unfriend & Unfamily...

      That would definitely be the thing to do...

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        Posted: July 12, 2015, 2:19 pm - IP Logged

        But this is more about your friends family more friends more family reacting.  I would like to think that I know at this point who matters to me and who does not.  But there still can be concern about having a problem saying no, especially to say friends on fakebook, yep fakebook or any other social media. 

        It would just concern me about how many people I would write off, just to keep my winnings. But definitely still playing!

        Anyone else thinks about this.

        Yes, I have, a lot and I got the perfect solution while rewatching Fargo a few years ago, confirmed by a CNBC  interview with Cynthia Stafford and ESPN's Broke. Have someone be a buffer between family/friends and your money. Once you make it clear that you don't have immediate and total access to your funds and that all large financial requests have to go through and be approved by your accountant/financial advisor, all the non-stop requests should taper off. In essence, you're getting to say no without having to be the bad guy. 

        If you've ever gone into a store and seen the sign that says the manager does not have access to the safe, same principle. A simple note cut down on hold ups across the country. That's what a financial buffer will do for a winner who wants to cut down on requests. 

        I think the thing to keep in the forefront of your mind (no matter how vilified you are) is all the lottery winners who helped out their family and friends and who were deserted once the money ran out. The same people who got a free car, or mortgage paid off, or business idea backed were nowhere to be found when the person who helped them lost it all. Your priority must be keeping your money safe and whoever doesn't get that doesn't deserve your friendship. Period.

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          Posted: July 12, 2015, 6:41 pm - IP Logged

          I will deactivate social media! haha. no fake family coming for me

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            Posted: July 12, 2015, 6:54 pm - IP Logged

            The solution to this particular problem is quite simple. 

            "I know my friends and my friends know me.  If l don't know you, you are not my friend - Me."

            People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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              Posted: July 12, 2015, 7:25 pm - IP Logged

              Good points.  Keeping winnings safe would definitely be my first priority.  And deactivating any accounts like that would probably be your best bet.  Because doing that shouldn't affect those who are considered real friends, as they would definitely be able to get/keep in touch.

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                Posted: July 13, 2015, 3:24 pm - IP Logged

                "friends on fakebook"

                In case you didn't know, there's a huge difference between friends who are on facebook and people that you've friended on facebook.

                I've got friends, good friends, and really good friends. Give me a jackpot and I'll treat all of them to dinner, but better gifts requires being better friends.

                "Once you make it clear that you don't have immediate and total access to your funds and that all large financial requests have to go through and be approved by your accountant/financial advisor"

                That's a strategy that might work with people who believe that you're stupid enough to relinquish control of your own money. I'm guessing the reality is that even if you've got every dime in an annuity that has no provision for early withdrawal, even the people who think you're stupid will still think you can get your hands on all of it at the drop of a hat. Either way, it really comes down to how many words it takes you to say no.

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                  Posted: July 13, 2015, 8:03 pm - IP Logged

                  "friends on fakebook"

                  In case you didn't know, there's a huge difference between friends who are on facebook and people that you've friended on facebook.

                  I've got friends, good friends, and really good friends. Give me a jackpot and I'll treat all of them to dinner, but better gifts requires being better friends.

                  "Once you make it clear that you don't have immediate and total access to your funds and that all large financial requests have to go through and be approved by your accountant/financial advisor"

                  That's a strategy that might work with people who believe that you're stupid enough to relinquish control of your own money. I'm guessing the reality is that even if you've got every dime in an annuity that has no provision for early withdrawal, even the people who think you're stupid will still think you can get your hands on all of it at the drop of a hat. Either way, it really comes down to how many words it takes you to say no.

                  I have a fervent belief that absolutely no one, except perhaps your spouse, should know how you manage your money. Even so, I'm pretty sure my really close friends wouldn't buy me relinquishing control of my money, but if they were that close to me I probably would have given them financial assistance after the win and had the Buffer explain the limit and terms of any future requests. If they weren't happy with what they were given and if they had a problem with not getting more, then hasta la vista, baby. Via con Dios.

                  My situation is different because the recession allowed me to find out who my true friends were. There were people who I would have given a kidney to, we were that close, who turned out to be phonies. Friends and family who'd used me like a revolving door piggy bank were MIA when the recession hit me hard. I even got cursed out for daring to request payback for loans I'd given. It was painful and shocking and the best financial education I've ever received to date. Now I know and I also know how to spot warning signs.

                  The Buffer works best for people one isn't very close to. If I've been friendly but not actually friends with coworkers, book club members, fellow churchgoers, Facebook buddies who come looking for $$after a win, they can be referred to The Buffer.

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                    Posted: July 15, 2015, 5:11 pm - IP Logged

                     a  friend  in need  is  a  friend  indeed?????????????????

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                      Posted: July 18, 2015, 8:54 am - IP Logged

                      I'm sure there will be a lot of them "in need". That even goes for family.  I have family that I havent been in contact with for years, but I'm sure winning numbers would change that...

                      Take Risks: If you win, you'll be happy.  If you lose, you will be wiser...

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                        Posted: July 20, 2015, 6:32 am - IP Logged

                        If you have the fact you won on Facebook, you already have done something VERY VERY WRONG

                        2014 = -1016; 2015= -1409; 2016 JAN = -106; FEB= -81; MAR= -131; APR= - 87: MAY= -91; JUN= -39; JUL=-134; AUG= -124; SEP = -123; OCT= -84  NOV=- 73 TOT= -3498

                        keno historic = -2291 ; 2015= -603; 2016= JAN=-32, FEB= +12 , MAR= -86, APR = -77. MAY= -48, JUN= -29, JUL=-71; AUG = -52; SEPT= -43; OCT = +56 NOV = -33 TOT= -3297

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                          Posted: July 20, 2015, 8:24 pm - IP Logged

                          I haven't put any of my wins on FB...Friends don't even know I play.

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                            Posted: July 20, 2015, 10:28 pm - IP Logged

                            Yes, I have, a lot and I got the perfect solution while rewatching Fargo a few years ago, confirmed by a CNBC  interview with Cynthia Stafford and ESPN's Broke. Have someone be a buffer between family/friends and your money. Once you make it clear that you don't have immediate and total access to your funds and that all large financial requests have to go through and be approved by your accountant/financial advisor, all the non-stop requests should taper off. In essence, you're getting to say no without having to be the bad guy. 

                            If you've ever gone into a store and seen the sign that says the manager does not have access to the safe, same principle. A simple note cut down on hold ups across the country. That's what a financial buffer will do for a winner who wants to cut down on requests. 

                            I think the thing to keep in the forefront of your mind (no matter how vilified you are) is all the lottery winners who helped out their family and friends and who were deserted once the money ran out. The same people who got a free car, or mortgage paid off, or business idea backed were nowhere to be found when the person who helped them lost it all. Your priority must be keeping your money safe and whoever doesn't get that doesn't deserve your friendship. Period.

                            I got the perfect solution while rewatching Fargo a few years ago

                            Put them in a wood chipper?