Any tenseness you may have tells you that you are holding on. You are holding on to something. There is something you think you must need. There is something that you fear that, if you don't have it, you will be lacking. You are afraid that you won't amount to much unless you have it.
Whether it is money or a loved one that you feel dependent upon, you are intact. You are whole. Come to believe in yourself. You are a Divine Being solidly in My heart. Can this not be enough? At Thanksgiving time, you want all the trimmings with your turkey. I am telling you that We are complete. All else that you have held onto are trimmings. You may even value the trimmings more than Truth.
Trimmings are not essential. They are nice, yet not essential. There are two essentials. They are you and they are I. That's it. We are in it together for the long haul. We are the turkey and not the trimmings. It is not incumbent upon you to have the trimmings. Trimmings are, after all, only trimmings. Enjoy them when you have them, and enjoy just the same when you don't have them. Nothing outside you is the making of you. Outside matters may bolster you. They make you feel good, nevertheless, they are not the making of you. Or they may make you feel bad, and, still, they have nothing to do with you.
You don't need all the things you think you need. You do not need them. You can have them, but you don't need them. You and I are the making of you. You don't need all supports you feel you would be at a loss without.
Holding on is attachment. Attachments have to be let go of. The physical object you cannot let go of, you can keep, only you have to let go of your hold on it. You don't need it. You may depend on it, yet you don't need it. The same is true for people. Keep those dear to you at the same time as you let them go. Your loved ones are free agents, and so are you. Freedom is better than attaching. When you attach, your heart will get broken. What else would break your heart? Freedom does not. It is your attachment that you have to break, not your heart.
To be free, you must set others free. The more you release others from your clasp, the freer you are. You are freed from your own clasp.
Either you have attachment, or you don't. Half attached is still attached.
Attachment doesn't mean love. Holding on doesn't mean love. When you let go of being attached, you can love more. When you are attached, you may call your attachment love, yet love is not attachment. Attachment is not love. Attachment is a poor excuse for love.
So what is all this attachment to attachment you experience? You must think it serves a purpose. What purpose can attachment serve but to separate you from yourself? When you attach to another, you are forsaking yourself. You are holding on too tight to another. You have a strangle-hold on the one you presume to love. When you attach, attachments will break. Better you break off the attachment now and find easy-going love to give instead.
When you are attached, you become desperate. You become desperately in love. You become dependent upon holding on when, what you must do, is let go and become unattached. You do not need to ride on anyone's back. You are not a child who has to hold on to his mother's skirt or leg. When you are attached, you must let go so your loved ones can each be a free-wheeling being in their own light and you a free-wheeling being in your own light.