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bipolar's avatar - Yavill
the berry/louisiana
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Posted: December 3, 2006, 12:37 pm - IP Logged

well guys i might be leaving lottery post i know i probably didnt post much here are made any since about any systems i talked about,but i sure did enjoy this website yall have realy had some good ideas and yall are so nice.THANK YOU! you see i had a gambling problem 5 years ago. i gambled 12,000 dollars in one year at the casinos playing slots.I know its not a lot compared to some gambling addicts but it was a lot to my husband! well i never went back once i had to tell him about my gambling problem. Well i went back yesterday with 50.00 dollars and won a jackpot of 1,600. Isaid to my self now what am i going to do? I have to show taxes and he always goes to the CPA so i cant hide it. So ive decided to tell him after christmas so that i wont ruin his holidays. I dont know why i went back after 5 years, i guess out of bordem are because he goes to his camp and leaves me at home most of the time. I know it was wrong and i own up to it! i must realy be sick hu! He will definitly leave me for sure im certain of it. ill get a job i guess and have to make a life on my own. Thank god we dont have kids because i know divorce is hard on kids! well anyway maybe i will be able to afford to still play lotto haha! Yall are probably thinking why did she play any kind of lottery? Well my husband nver wanted me to work and i could never buy much for myself so i thought maybe if i could win a little bit of money sometimes then i would'nt have to ask him for any. I should'nt have been playing with a gambling problem to begin with. It's a shame but we would be married 20 years March 14,2006. I love him with all my heart and always will. I thought about killing myself but im not , Icouldnt do that to my family! just pray for me please!  a word of advise ! if someone thinks they have a gambling problem! get help! And know the consequenses of keeping it secret.....and is it worth losing more than you think not just money!!!!! thanks dawn( Bipolar )

    Kidzmom's avatar - cold
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    Posted: December 3, 2006, 12:54 pm - IP Logged

    Dawn,

    You have my prayers.  Have you been to therapy?  I've been married 20 years also and marriage/gambling therapy may be the way to save yours.  I don't work  addiction patients but being in the medical field, all addiction is the same in one form or another.  You just have to seek the help you need.  I wish the best to you and your husband.

     

    K.

      lottaloot's avatar - AvatarZ56
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      Posted: December 3, 2006, 1:03 pm - IP Logged

      The first step is admitting it & you have done that. 

      I don't think for one minute that your husband will leave you because you realize that you do have an addiction & recovery is an onging process. 

      I do think that he may leave you if you continue to gamble. 

      Remember...one day at a time.  Good Luck in your recovery! See Ya!

      L ttaL   T

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        Posted: December 3, 2006, 1:03 pm - IP Logged

        Bipolar:  I support your decision wholeheartedly and sometimes there comes a point in our lives where we have to do what we have to do to save ouir marriages, lives, etc.  It's good that you can admit it.  Some of us in society with a habit, be it drugs, gambling, alcoholism, etc. cannot admit it.  So I commend you on your decision.  I too like playing the lottery, video slots, scratch off's with hopes of winning the big one and sure my husband wants to know what's happening with my EXTRA $$$ and wants me to account for it, but I refuse to do that.  However, on the other hand, he does not account to me where his EXTRA $$$ goes--and I don't ask, have not asked and has never asked him since we got married 4 years ago.  But I tell you, as long as I pay my share of the household expenses, I feel I can do what I want with my EXTRA $$$ and I must admit, I have had to back off myself as well.  So girlfriend, hold your head up high and don't feel ashamed.  And remember, PRAYER changes things.  Just ask the "Higher Power" (God) to help you through this and saving your marriage, and trust me--He will answer your prayers.

          Rubi 311's avatar - scene sunoverlake.jpg
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          Posted: December 3, 2006, 1:11 pm - IP Logged

          well guys i might be leaving lottery post i know i probably didnt post much here are made any since about any systems i talked about,but i sure did enjoy this website yall have realy had some good ideas and yall are so nice.THANK YOU! you see i had a gambling problem 5 years ago. i gambled 12,000 dollars in one year at the casinos playing slots.I know its not a lot compared to some gambling addicts but it was a lot to my husband! well i never went back once i had to tell him about my gambling problem. Well i went back yesterday with 50.00 dollars and won a jackpot of 1,600. Isaid to my self now what am i going to do? I have to show taxes and he always goes to the CPA so i cant hide it. So ive decided to tell him after christmas so that i wont ruin his holidays. I dont know why i went back after 5 years, i guess out of bordem are because he goes to his camp and leaves me at home most of the time. I know it was wrong and i own up to it! i must realy be sick hu! He will definitly leave me for sure im certain of it. ill get a job i guess and have to make a life on my own. Thank god we dont have kids because i know divorce is hard on kids! well anyway maybe i will be able to afford to still play lotto haha! Yall are probably thinking why did she play any kind of lottery? Well my husband nver wanted me to work and i could never buy much for myself so i thought maybe if i could win a little bit of money sometimes then i would'nt have to ask him for any. I should'nt have been playing with a gambling problem to begin with. It's a shame but we would be married 20 years March 14,2006. I love him with all my heart and always will. I thought about killing myself but im not , Icouldnt do that to my family! just pray for me please!  a word of advise ! if someone thinks they have a gambling problem! get help! And know the consequenses of keeping it secret.....and is it worth losing more than you think not just money!!!!! thanks dawn( Bipolar )

          Bipolar, have you thought about getting some counseling?  It might help you sort some things out and give you some support.  It sounds like there may be something lacking in your life.  I noticed you don't have any children, is there a reason your spouse does not want you to work? Does he freely give you money without asking for it? What makes you think your spouse will want a divorce?  It is common to have a relapse.  It is remarkable that you went five years, which tells me (with help and support) you can get contol over it. I will keep you in my prayers.  Please keep in touch!

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            Posted: December 3, 2006, 1:21 pm - IP Logged

            Bipolar:  I support your decision wholeheartedly and sometimes there comes a point in our lives where we have to do what we have to do to save ouir marriages, lives, etc.  It's good that you can admit it.  Some of us in society with a habit, be it drugs, gambling, alcoholism, etc. cannot admit it.  So I commend you on your decision.  I too like playing the lottery, video slots, scratch off's with hopes of winning the big one and sure my husband wants to know what's happening with my EXTRA $$$ and wants me to account for it, but I refuse to do that.  However, on the other hand, he does not account to me where his EXTRA $$$ goes--and I don't ask, have not asked and has never asked him since we got married 4 years ago.  But I tell you, as long as I pay my share of the household expenses, I feel I can do what I want with my EXTRA $$$ and I must admit, I have had to back off myself as well.  So girlfriend, hold your head up high and don't feel ashamed.  And remember, PRAYER changes things.  Just ask the "Higher Power" (God) to help you through this and saving your marriage, and trust me--He will answer your prayers.

            Hi Bipolar I will pray for you,But i think your family will forgive you,You know it is so many ways we get our selves in Trouble you ,know I am in trouble too,Unlike your problem,mind is Health,Right now i would sell and trade everything i own for my life to be normal again,Do to an addiction i put my life in danger and now have to see Every Specailist out their and at present i am having complications that can lead to amputation,God forbid so i ask that you also pray for me too,But i donot mean to be a selfish person but Honey i wish i was in your shoes,just having to tell my family i had a gambling problem at least at the end of the day I will be Healthy,God BlessBlue Angel you Honey ,i hope everything turns out super for you ,Have a very Merry CHristmas,,,,,,Love Delores247

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              Posted: December 3, 2006, 1:46 pm - IP Logged

              well guys i might be leaving lottery post i know i probably didnt post much here are made any since about any systems i talked about,but i sure did enjoy this website yall have realy had some good ideas and yall are so nice.THANK YOU! you see i had a gambling problem 5 years ago. i gambled 12,000 dollars in one year at the casinos playing slots.I know its not a lot compared to some gambling addicts but it was a lot to my husband! well i never went back once i had to tell him about my gambling problem. Well i went back yesterday with 50.00 dollars and won a jackpot of 1,600. Isaid to my self now what am i going to do? I have to show taxes and he always goes to the CPA so i cant hide it. So ive decided to tell him after christmas so that i wont ruin his holidays. I dont know why i went back after 5 years, i guess out of bordem are because he goes to his camp and leaves me at home most of the time. I know it was wrong and i own up to it! i must realy be sick hu! He will definitly leave me for sure im certain of it. ill get a job i guess and have to make a life on my own. Thank god we dont have kids because i know divorce is hard on kids! well anyway maybe i will be able to afford to still play lotto haha! Yall are probably thinking why did she play any kind of lottery? Well my husband nver wanted me to work and i could never buy much for myself so i thought maybe if i could win a little bit of money sometimes then i would'nt have to ask him for any. I should'nt have been playing with a gambling problem to begin with. It's a shame but we would be married 20 years March 14,2006. I love him with all my heart and always will. I thought about killing myself but im not , Icouldnt do that to my family! just pray for me please!  a word of advise ! if someone thinks they have a gambling problem! get help! And know the consequenses of keeping it secret.....and is it worth losing more than you think not just money!!!!! thanks dawn( Bipolar )

              Man!, what a story, I am so sorry for your dilemma.  On the positive side, what I would not give for some more honest women like yourself.  Okay, so you had a problem and worked with it and had great success for five years and now you had a little misstep. 

              I would hope your husband is not so perfect a person as to hold this against you.  You obviously are torn up inside because of it and that ought to be enough punishment. I can not believe you two can not move on especially after 20 years of marriage.  I would, however, try to make sure that this was an isolated incident and not the old gambling feelings coming back again.

              I do honestly hope this whole episode comes to a positive conclusion.  You seem like the kind of person that could really have a positive influence on others who have had and do have problems such as you have described.

              Really good luck to you

              Floridian 

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                Posted: December 3, 2006, 1:47 pm - IP Logged

                Hi Bipolar I will pray for you,But i think your family will forgive you,You know it is so many ways we get our selves in Trouble you ,know I am in trouble too,Unlike your problem,mind is Health,Right now i would sell and trade everything i own for my life to be normal again,Do to an addiction i put my life in danger and now have to see Every Specailist out their and at present i am having complications that can lead to amputation,God forbid so i ask that you also pray for me too,But i donot mean to be a selfish person but Honey i wish i was in your shoes,just having to tell my family i had a gambling problem at least at the end of the day I will be Healthy,God BlessBlue Angel you Honey ,i hope everything turns out super for you ,Have a very Merry CHristmas,,,,,,Love Delores247

                Delores247, I will pray for you also....you are absolutely right! 

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                  Posted: December 3, 2006, 2:11 pm - IP Logged

                  Besides prayer, what you need to do is to tell your husband that you would rather NOT have to ask him for money.  Tell him exactly how you feel when you have to ask him.  Then, get a job and make your own.  I am sure that if he loves you, he will understand how you feel.  Some men think that if their wife works, it means that "they" aren't doing enough to support her.  That is a flasehood...work provides a person with dignity and gives purpose to their life.  I am surprised that you only had a gambling addition.

                  If you know your number is going to hit, have patience and then KILL IT!

                  You never know when you will get another hit.

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                    Hello bipolar... I know what your'e going through I've been married for 18 years and have no children but, I do have a gambling problem also but, my husband always tell me he would never leave me because of it and I truly believe in my heart that your husband won't leave you either. As far as your gambling problem I really don't know what to tell you because, I try to stop and it seems as though I gamble even harder especially when my husband say's he would never leave me but, you know what they say "never say never". You can get a grip it's just going to take time:-) take it slow and try not to force yourself to stop let it come over you gradually I know you can do it. Just constantly talk to your husband honestly about it and I believe you'll start seeing things a lot more clearly. Love can conquer all. Hang in there and I will add you in my prayers. I don't know you but, I want you to know that I love you as a friend that truly understands.

                                                                                          Love numbergirly

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                      Man!, what a story, I am so sorry for your dilemma.  On the positive side, what I would not give for some more honest women like yourself.  Okay, so you had a problem and worked with it and had great success for five years and now you had a little misstep. 

                      I would hope your husband is not so perfect a person as to hold this against you.  You obviously are torn up inside because of it and that ought to be enough punishment. I can not believe you two can not move on especially after 20 years of marriage.  I would, however, try to make sure that this was an isolated incident and not the old gambling feelings coming back again.

                      I do honestly hope this whole episode comes to a positive conclusion.  You seem like the kind of person that could really have a positive influence on others who have had and do have problems such as you have described.

                      Really good luck to you

                      Floridian 

                      I Agree!

                      Waiting until Christmas will eat you up on the inside. Feeling quilty about something that you did and holding it in for a period of time creates alot of stress that you are placing on yourself. It can make you sick.

                      Let your husband read your confession that you shared with us here. Then follow it with a discussion as littleoldlady posted. Your husband has come through the losing issue 5 years ago with you. This was a small set-back, but a winning one( although that doesn't make it right). 

                      I hope you two can resolve the problem without going through the extreme solution of divorce. Good luck

                      litebets

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                      Come on Jackpot!!!

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                        Posted: December 3, 2006, 2:46 pm - IP Logged

                        Just tell "Hubby" you have $1600

                        and plan to give it to a good CHARITY or CHURCH in your local

                        area..................if you don't  have one that you really know ....

                        contact The Salvation Army, soon as possible & before XMAS!

                        Sounds like the right thing to DO in a situation like YOURS and

                        no better timing if YOU truly want to HELP yourself & others too.

                        ALSO...........NO TAXESSSSSSSSS..............& let Hubby deduct IT!

                        "MARY XMA$" HatSmiley SantaSantaSnowmanPuke

                        PSYKOMO 

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                          I Agree!

                          Waiting until Christmas will eat you up on the inside. Feeling quilty about something that you did and holding it in for a period of time creates alot of stress that you are placing on yourself. It can make you sick.

                          Let your husband read your confession that you shared with us here. Then follow it with a discussion as littleoldlady posted. Your husband has come through the losing issue 5 years ago with you. This was a small set-back, but a winning one( although that doesn't make it right). 

                          I hope you two can resolve the problem without going through the extreme solution of divorce. Good luck

                          litebets

                          Dawn,

                          I like Litebet's advice.  If you were my wife I'd forgive you. 

                          Let him read your post.

                          Very moving...I wish you and your husband all the best.  Hang in there. 

                          Posted 4/6:  IL Pick 3 midday and evening until they hit:  555, 347 (str8).


                            kkkathleen's avatar - yocco
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                            Dawn, I'm so so sorry for your dilemma. We all make mistakes, and you've been clean for 5 years. I really feel you need to pray for guidance for you and your husband.I've been in a few dilemmas well more than a few and the lord has seen me through. Pray to the lord and he will guide you. I think being alone a lot has probably compounded your situation. Counseling for you and your husband would definitely help. But there are some men who just won't go. It would probably help you even if you went by yourself. If your worried about the expense see your priest or preacher they won't charge you anything. Working would help, but if he is dead set against it Do Volunteer work. I'll remember you in my prayers.Coffee P.S I think the sooner you get it over with the better

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                              I agree with what everyone says: your husband will forgive you if you just come to him about it.

                              I remember someone mentioning extra cash...where do you get that? I haven't seen a dime of my own money since I got married...and I am the only one in the house that works!! :)

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