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You Hit The Lottery - Spouse plans to work Full Time Still

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Posted: September 19, 2007, 2:10 pm - IP Logged

You Just hit the Lottery and your spouse loves their job and wishes to work full time for years to come. Your plans are to play, travel ,relax and injoy life to the fullest and not be at home at 5 with dinner done and the yard prunned and the house freshly painted. Whats the pro'sBig Grin Angel and cons Evil Smileand possible out come when one mate wishes to keep working and the other the retired and fun life style. Now please view it both ways as if one way the husband wants to keep working and the wife wants to enjoy, compard to the wife working and the husband wishing to enjoy?  Never seen a post as such? What would you do ? Some would feel that they could be contained from enjoying life more than they wish waiting on their mate to get off work and waiting to travel with them when they decided to take vacation from work .... could be a hard adjustment..Lets hear it from you??Smile 

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    Posted: September 19, 2007, 4:44 pm - IP Logged

    If wife wants to keep working just make sure she gets a post card every other day.................................

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      We've had a thread like this that I started but I used the word "obligated" and thus the discussion went down a lot of rabbit trails. Let me try this again:

       

      The one that wants to keep working is only thinking of themself and should free the jobup for someone who really needs the income.

      Along with that, as has been said by some sage, no one on their deathbed ever said, "Gee, I wish I had spent more time at the office."

      On top of that, the one that wants to go have some fun is probably going to, with or without the spouse. Think about it- you have millions and you have to wait for the weekend (or whatever their days off) because your spouse won't give up a job.

      Bang Head

      Remember that song in the movie Mash when they were taking Frank Burns away....

      The time has come for us to say sayonara...

      Those who run the lotteries love it when players look for consistency in something that's designed not to have any.

      Lep

      There is one and only one 'proven' system, and that is to book the action. No matter the game, let the players pick their own losers.

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        Posted: September 19, 2007, 6:42 pm - IP Logged

        I've thought about this, cuz I'd be the one wanting to play.  The SO would have to be willing to allow me to travel if the relationship were to work.  I'd want to spend 8 or 10 weeks per year traveling with my BFF.  One concession I'd make is I'd ask the SO to choose 2 or 3 cities we want to see together for the first time, and I would avoid traveling to those until SO was available to accompany me.

        I think it would take alot of trust for this to work.  I'm not sure I could deal with SO leaving for 4 or 5 weeks at a time with his BFF if the roles were reversed.  But I'd sure try to understand.  I'd try to trust unless it became really obvious that I shouldn't.

        I'd find hobbies that I can engage in close to home for the rest of the time.  I'd hire house cleaners, landscape people, etc. to do all the grunge work while I'm off having fun during the day, then I'd probably be home most nights to make dinner for the SO, take walks, etc.

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          Whether your spouse wants to keep working or not isn't the important point. It's whether or not you both have similar ideas about how much free time you need and how to spend that free time. It's important to have common interests, but I can't imagine not havingsome interests  of your own, as well.

          One of our mutual interests is travel, and with more money for travel we'd both go away more often. My wife is more of a homebody than me, so if we win the lottery she'll be staying at home during some of my trips, because I'll be going away more than she wants to. Some of those trips will be ones she isn't that interested in anyway. Others will be things she likes, but may not want to do as often as I do.  Other times I might go for three weeks, while she would come home after two. I already spend at least a couple of weeks a year on trips that she doesn't go on, and she typically spends about a week away on trips where I don't go along.  I'd probably spend another few weeks on trips that she doesn't go on and she'd probably spend another week or two on her trips if the budget allowed for even more travel. There are a lot of things where the trip is much better when you already have a companion, though, so one of the reasons to want more than just enough to get by comfortably would be to have enough to bring along some of my friends who like some of the same things that I do.

          If my wife wanted to keep her job despite winning the lottery then I'd definitely be going away without her for at least 6 or 8 weeks a year. Of course if we had such a fundamantal difference in our outlook on life  I think we'd have bigger problems than whether or not to go away alone.

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            Coin Toss I think there's a difference between a low wage job and a career that you love and is meaningful.  So each situation is different. 

            I think if 2 people trust & love each other they can probably work things out, but not only wealthy people run into this problem. 

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              Coin Toss I think there's a difference between a low wage job and a career that you love and is meaningful.  So each situation is different. 

              I think if 2 people trust & love each other they can probably work things out, but not only wealthy people run into this problem. 

              Yeah, I was going to say that in that scenario we were talking blue-collar or white-collar type jobs.

              All too few people have jobs they can't wait to get to. 

              Most people don't get to rally think or be creative, most jobs are learned and then done by rote.

              Here's an interesting statisitic- most heart attacks among working people in America occur on Monday monrings during the early morning commute hours- people so dislike going back to their job that their body actually shuts down on them.

              Here's spmnething else to think about folks-

              If a doctor told you you had six months to live, do you like your job so much you'd keep workoing?  (We're not talking finances here, just job like or dislike).

              If you say yes, good for you,because not that many people have jobs they like enough that they'd say yes.

              Now- if you said no- well, do you think you're immortal?

              Those who run the lotteries love it when players look for consistency in something that's designed not to have any.

              Lep

              There is one and only one 'proven' system, and that is to book the action. No matter the game, let the players pick their own losers.

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                A lot of winners say that, but I guarantee that will never last.

                "Greed makes people do strange things."

                -classic Peanuts cartoon strip

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                  "If a doctor told you you had six months to live, do you like your job so much you'd keep workoing?  (We're not talking finances here, just job like or dislike)."

                   

                  I wouldn't, Coin Toss, but some people might be working on a special project.  If I were an actor or director, maybe I'd want to finish the film.  If I were a composer, artist or novelist, maybe I'd want to finish my final work. 

                  This might be off topic a bit, but I worked with a woman in her 80s who was financially well off and owned her house, her car and received her late husband's pension and social security check. She was the first to admit she didn't need any more money to have a comfortable life.  At the end of the day she was often worn out, but then she'd show up on her day off just to "beat me" and sell more. It was a miserable place to work and we weren't even on commission!  I have a strong feeling she's one of those people who would continue to show up for work even if she won millions.  It wasn't about money at all, just some kind of obsession.

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                    "If a doctor told you you had six months to live, do you like your job so much you'd keep workoing?  (We're not talking finances here, just job like or dislike)."

                     

                    I wouldn't, Coin Toss, but some people might be working on a special project.  If I were an actor or director, maybe I'd want to finish the film.  If I were a composer, artist or novelist, maybe I'd want to finish my final work. 

                    This might be off topic a bit, but I worked with a woman in her 80s who was financially well off and owned her house, her car and received her late husband's pension and social security check. She was the first to admit she didn't need any more money to have a comfortable life.  At the end of the day she was often worn out, but then she'd show up on her day off just to "beat me" and sell more. It was a miserable place to work and we weren't even on commission!  I have a strong feeling she's one of those people who would continue to show up for work even if she won millions.  It wasn't about money at all, just some kind of obsession.

                    JXP, I think that old bat will be first to the finish line of life - at least we can hope so.

                     

                                                   

                                  

                     

                     

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                      "If I were an actor or director, maybe I'd want to finish the film.  If I were a composer, artist or novelist, maybe I'd want to finish my final work. "

                      When you said that you got me thinking- granted the odds against hiottong a jackpot are tremendous- but can you recall any jackpot winner being in one of the occupations you mentioned? I can't.

                      Now I'm wondering if it's as simple as they don't play because for the most parrt hitting the lotto is the dream of a lot of people who want to escape "the trap", the workworld paycheck tp paycheck jobs they're ine.

                      I think oit was none other than Buddha who said, "Find a way to get people to pay you to do what you like to do and you will never have to 'work' again.

                      Maybe such folks just don't play, what do you guys think? 

                      Those who run the lotteries love it when players look for consistency in something that's designed not to have any.

                      Lep

                      There is one and only one 'proven' system, and that is to book the action. No matter the game, let the players pick their own losers.

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                        Coin Toss, are you asking if the people who have careers that focus on more the more spiritual and artistic qualities of life don't like money or enjoy owning nice things?  I don't think there's a lottery "type" really.  I've watched a group of day laborers getting out of the back of a pickup and wealthy retirees getting out of their new Mercedes at the same time walking up to the lottery counter at the supermarket. 

                        I just was reminded of an ad on TV for the WWE.  People who are teachers, nurses, lawyers and men/women of the cloth introduce themselves and say "...and I'm a WWE fan!" 

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                          Coin Toss, are you asking if the people who have careers that focus on more the more spiritual and artistic qualities of life don't like money or enjoy owning nice things?  I don't think there's a lottery "type" really.  I've watched a group of day laborers getting out of the back of a pickup and wealthy retirees getting out of their new Mercedes at the same time walking up to the lottery counter at the supermarket. 

                          I just was reminded of an ad on TV for the WWE.  People who are teachers, nurses, lawyers and men/women of the cloth introduce themselves and say "...and I'm a WWE fan!" 

                          No, not really about them not liking money, kind of the opposite in fact. But they're in fields that pay them very well so the "incentive" to hit the lottery isn't quite as intense, let's say, because in a way they have hit the lottery!

                          I remember late night talk radio host Art Bell talking about what he did and saying that the clock was still an adversary, but not in the sense of looking at the clock waiting to get off work, but in his case looking at the clock and thinking time n the program was runing out for the night and there was still so much stuff he didn't even get to discuss.  

                          Those who run the lotteries love it when players look for consistency in something that's designed not to have any.

                          Lep

                          There is one and only one 'proven' system, and that is to book the action. No matter the game, let the players pick their own losers.

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                            Yes, Coin Toss.  I see what you mean, but it doesn't just apply to artists or musicians.  I know many people who enjoy gambling, but think the lottery is a stupid way to throw out your money.  The man who manages this property (just a hobby - he's loaded) goes on gambling cruises all the time and takes a ride out to Immokalee to play at a Seminole casino.  He told me he's never purchased a lottery ticket because of the odds. 

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                              Yes, Coin Toss.  I see what you mean, but it doesn't just apply to artists or musicians.  I know many people who enjoy gambling, but think the lottery is a stupid way to throw out your money.  The man who manages this property (just a hobby - he's loaded) goes on gambling cruises all the time and takes a ride out to Immokalee to play at a Seminole casino.  He told me he's never purchased a lottery ticket because of the odds. 

                              Figure this one- when I worked in casinos, the most popular game among the bosses was Keno - with the biggest house edge of any game in ther joint.

                              They'd sit at the bar after work and give the Keno runners a $50 or $100 and a ticket and say play it until it runs out or hits - and often they did hit  (Four, five,and six spots).

                              Those who run the lotteries love it when players look for consistency in something that's designed not to have any.

                              Lep

                              There is one and only one 'proven' system, and that is to book the action. No matter the game, let the players pick their own losers.