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Losing friendship over not joining a lottery pool. .thoughts anyone?

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Posted: October 21, 2015, 12:14 pm - IP Logged

One of my close friends just started working at a tech company about two weeks ago and was approached by a few co workers in joining in the company lottery pool. When he told them he frowned on the idea but preferred going Solo, he said that he immediately felt ostracised. I said that he should have joined in in order to " go along,  get along" at this point and maybe when his been there a while- simply quit.His take was " they expecting $10.00 per week/ $5.00 for MM- $5.00 for PB, and he plays $2-$5.00 max per week."  Could l have added more clearer advice?

Thoughts anyone, esp those who have experience in dealing with pools?

Have a Great Hump Day everyone & stay Healthy People. 

People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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    Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:32 pm - IP Logged

    Your friend is playing within HIS budget and has the courage not to be bullied into exceeding it.

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      Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:35 pm - IP Logged

      Real friends respect your decisions, even when they disagree.

      Did you exchange a walk on part in the war ?

      For a lead role in a cage?

       

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        Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:38 pm - IP Logged

        I wouldn't consider his co-workers "friends".

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          Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:41 pm - IP Logged

          I wouldn't consider his co-workers "friends".

           apart from feeling  a chump if they ever win. He should alt least ask how its setup, who runs it, are there  copies of purchased tickets handed out and a clear   distinction off all eligible pools members. what happens of someone is off work  do they get covered? are they technically still in who decides? whats the possibilities of lawsuits? 

          answer all that and ill consider joining if im happy with the answers

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            Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:51 pm - IP Logged

            I wouldn't consider his co-workers "friends".

            I Agree! Especially after being in the employ of the company only two weeks.

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              Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:52 pm - IP Logged

              Your friend is playing within HIS budget and has the courage not to be bullied into exceeding it.

              I Agree!.... l guess his trying to be amiable with these guys Z.

              People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:57 pm - IP Logged

                One of my close friends just started working at a tech company about two weeks ago and was approached by a few co workers in joining in the company lottery pool. When he told them he frowned on the idea but preferred going Solo, he said that he immediately felt ostracised. I said that he should have joined in in order to " go along,  get along" at this point and maybe when his been there a while- simply quit.His take was " they expecting $10.00 per week/ $5.00 for MM- $5.00 for PB, and he plays $2-$5.00 max per week."  Could l have added more clearer advice?

                Thoughts anyone, esp those who have experience in dealing with pools?

                Have a Great Hump Day everyone & stay Healthy People. 

                His co-workers probably do lots of things that don't involve everybody, playing the lottery is just one of them.  They wouldn't expect him to join them at their place or worship or hang out with them at the local bar after work, why would this be any different?

                 * you don't need to buy more tickets, just buy a winning ticket * 
                   
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                  Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:57 pm - IP Logged

                  Real friends respect your decisions, even when they disagree.

                  Yes Sully,  these strong arm tactics don't sit well with him, that's the reason he told me how he felt.l wanted   to tell him that if they pissed off by little things like getting someone to join a pool, what happens if they win- more headaches? 

                  People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                    Posted: October 21, 2015, 1:59 pm - IP Logged

                    I wouldn't consider his co-workers "friends".

                    I Agree!..that's why l posted  " my friend ".....his " co workers". The term Friendship is a loose definition when discussing this scenario. 

                    People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                      Posted: October 21, 2015, 2:09 pm - IP Logged

                      His co-workers probably do lots of things that don't involve everybody, playing the lottery is just one of them.  They wouldn't expect him to join them at their place or worship or hang out with them at the local bar after work, why would this be any different?

                      I Agree!.  they probably thought he would go along with their suggestion. I did not delve too much into the discussion because he just brought it up offhand. 

                      People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                        Posted: October 21, 2015, 2:14 pm - IP Logged

                        One of my close friends just started working at a tech company about two weeks ago and was approached by a few co workers in joining in the company lottery pool. When he told them he frowned on the idea but preferred going Solo, he said that he immediately felt ostracised. I said that he should have joined in in order to " go along,  get along" at this point and maybe when his been there a while- simply quit.His take was " they expecting $10.00 per week/ $5.00 for MM- $5.00 for PB, and he plays $2-$5.00 max per week."  Could l have added more clearer advice?

                        Thoughts anyone, esp those who have experience in dealing with pools?

                        Have a Great Hump Day everyone & stay Healthy People. 

                        I agree w/your go along get along idea, being new on a job it's the best way, could have been a test.

                         

                        I've run/been in pools but there's never been any pressure either way.

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                          Posted: October 21, 2015, 2:37 pm - IP Logged

                          He should do what he wants. If he wins he won't see them anymore. If they win they won't see him anymore.

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                            Posted: October 21, 2015, 3:42 pm - IP Logged

                            I agree w/your go along get along idea, being new on a job it's the best way, could have been a test.

                             

                            I've run/been in pools but there's never been any pressure either way.

                            I Agree!..It's the Pressure thing that bothers him.Kinda sounds like a hard & fast rule. Ten Bucks or else...

                            People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                              Posted: October 21, 2015, 3:48 pm - IP Logged

                              To be honest, I think the real problem is... he is the new guy that just started...

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