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• Big Joey

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  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  
• JAMORA

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  Lottery tickets don't make a good gift, unless you know they play. I know some very fundamental folks who are offended it exists...lol.

  Live and learn....but don't sweat it....unless it was you're future father in law, then sweat it....

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• grwurston

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  Chalk it up to experience.  If they're going to start a family feud over a couple of lottery tickets, I think they need to lighten up, and just let it go. Now if unbeknownst to you, the guy had a serious gambling addiction that's another story. In that case all you can do is say, Hey I didn't know, and apologize. The rest is up to them.

  Would have been interesting though, to see how they would have reacted if it had turned out to be a jackpot winner.

   

  Everyone picks the right numbers every time. The problem is the lottery doesn't always agree.
• JAMORA

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by grwurston on Jul 20, 2019

  Chalk it up to experience.  If they're going to start a family feud over a couple of lottery tickets, I think they need to lighten up, and just let it go. Now if unbeknownst to you, the guy had a serious gambling addiction that's another story. In that case all you can do is say, Hey I didn't know, and apologize. The rest is up to them.

  Would have been interesting though, to see how they would have reacted if it had turned out to be a jackpot winner.

  True...I'd be like, "Hey so soory, I'll remove this offensive ticket for you"! HA!

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• Cmoore50

  

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  If their offended, oh well. You didn't know. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel bad. They'll get over it. Just let it go and move on.
• cottoneyedjoe

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  The person is over-reacting and needs a lesson in manners. Even if you don't like a gift and will never use it, just say thank you. Unless you knew the person had a gambling addiction, or very strict religious beliefs, you did nothing inappropriate. Lottery tickets are legal and heck, they even advertise scratch-offs as stocking stuffers during Christmas. You don't have anything to feel bad about.
• zephbe

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  Sounds like you gave the tickets to a man and he didn't object--it was the wife who said not to do it again. What does that tell you?  You shouldn't feel bad about it--just don't do it again. 

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• LottoLucy

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  First of all, I am sorry that happened to you.  Secondly, You didn’t do anything wrong —it was a nice gesture and I can understand why you were hurt by the reaction.  I know I would have been. What was wrong was the way you were treated.  That was a pretty crummy way for them to handle it.  For whatever reason they were uncomfortable with the gift they could have acted with more grace.  Plus I don’t understand why the wife emailed you.

  Just out of curiosity would you have felt better if they said thank you but he doesn’t play the lottery because...and given a reason?  Thinking about it I think I would have felt better about if they would have told me why.  I know they don’t owe any one an explanation but it might have softened it a little if there was somewhat of an explanation.

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• rcbbuckeye

  

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  Well, your heart was in the right place. But, sometimes people don't consider that. Only how they happen to feel, instead of your intent.

  In a situation like that, the recipient is the one with the problem. You were trying to be nice, they got offended, they have to deal with it, you should just move on and let it go. I know. Easy to say, hard to do. But don't beat yourself up over it. You had a good heart.

  I do agree with another poster that lottery tickets are not the best gift, especially if the other person isn't a player, mainly because you don't really know how they feel about the lottery.

  It does make me wonder how they would feel if the ticket was a big winner.

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  Quote: Originally posted by Big Joey on Jul 20, 2019

  If you bought lottery tickets for a person as a friendship gift who doesn't play the lottery. And they didn't appreciate the gift, would you be insulted, and offended? Or, was I wrong for spending money on someone I should not have? Even if I wanted to be thoughtful, and nice? The wind got knocked out of my sails, and I feel crummy. Like I did something horribly wrong. I bought lottery tickets for a person who didn't want them, or appreciate them. His wife emailed me not to do it again. He does not play the lottery. Like a family feud has begun.

  

  It's a difficult situation from both sides with feelings of regret all around.
  
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• jjtheprince14

  

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  Well if the tickets were purchased in a "can't win" state, I'd definitely be offended!
• Stack47

  

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  Some people think it's only a gift when they win something while others enjoy scratching with a chance to win something. Would they rather have a package of socks?