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justxploring's avatar - villiarna
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Posted: January 23, 2006, 1:26 am - IP Logged

"The world ridiculed Jack Whittaker and others who made unwise decisions with their lottery winnings. "  mylollipop

We all have the right to our opinions here, so I'll respect yours. But regarding Jack Whittaker,  he gave away quite a bit of his prize to the homeless and built a church and other charitable groups.  He started a foundation to feed and clothe poor people in West VA and create jobs.  He even bought a house and a car for the cashier who sold him his winning ticket. Mr. Whittaker suffers from alcoholism, but his drinking problem didn't begin when he won all that money, and I certainly wouldn't say he blew all his money on it either. This is a very different situation, since Mr. Whittaker was already worth over a million when he won the PB.  I don't know why I'm defending the man, because he certainly never gave me any money, but his name is brought up every time there's a discussion like this. 

I still don't approve of lying to one's spouse, but if she is so sure her husband wouldn't be responsible with the money, then maybe I shouldn't judge her so harshly. However,  if she does not have her money invested wisely and it's kept secretly from her family, should she become critically ill or die in an accident tomorrow, her children will never benefit from her good fortune and her husband will become a single working Dad with 2 children. If she's so sure he'd blow it all, then I certainly hope she's met with a good lawyer or appointed an executor of her will to manage her money should something unexpected arise.

Maybe her husband or his buddies were listening to the broadcast on his lunch break so her secret's out now!  If she really needed to vent (and she's not making this whole story up) she should have paid a shrink or gone to a priest. At least they're sworn to secrecy!

 

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    I figured that Emily would let someone else answer for her. But still, if it was the other way around, not one of you has answered what you would be saying then. Also, exactly the point I was trying to make as well, when you lie or deceive your spouse and no one knows what you have, if you die tomorrow, you will be the only one that benefitted in the long run, and that is pure selfishness, no matter if she was a male doing the same thing to his family. Does anyone agree (mainly females)? I am not here to bash any female's opinion, just hope your marriages are more trusting than this one.

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      I figured that Emily would let someone else answer for her. But still, if it was the other way around, not one of you has answered what you would be saying then. Also, exactly the point I was trying to make as well, when you lie or deceive your spouse and no one knows what you have, if you die tomorrow, you will be the only one that benefitted in the long run, and that is pure selfishness, no matter if she was a male doing the same thing to his family. Does anyone agree (mainly females)? I am not here to bash any female's opinion, just hope your marriages are more trusting than this one.

      her own words ..."he would give up work and start demanding luxury holidays."

      that really is the only reason i'm sticking-up for her. 

      love to nibble those micey feet.

       

                                   

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        Posted: January 23, 2006, 3:53 pm - IP Logged
        I don't know anything about this woman to say anything for her or against her.  I DO know what I would do in MY situation...and that is to tell my husband.  He's not responsible when it comes to money, but that's one of the many reasons he keeps me around.  lol 

         

        IF and only IF, she's telling the truth, there is an easy way for her to figure out what her man would do.  She needs to tell him that she just won $300K.  See what he does.  If he starts acting like a donkey, then she should leave him and still have her children's future financially secured.  (kinda testing the waters)

         

        I personally don't see where this marriage could end on a good note.  She doesn't trust him enough to be honest.  There is NO future there.  He had a drug problem 15 years ago...so he's either STILL showing signs of weakness...or he's cleaned up his act completely.  Only she knows which way, not us.

         

        Personally, I think she's weak.  Maybe she's in this marriage because it's a habit.  Maybe because she really loves him and he's cleaned up.  Maybe she is butt ugly with one good tooth in her head and even that's falling out.  Who knows?  Either way, she's with him.  She needs counseling, either to help with her self-esteem issues or to help her from being deceitful.  Counseling Counseling Counseling

         

         

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          Posted: January 23, 2006, 9:52 pm - IP Logged

          SILENCE IS GOLDEN...THAT'S A FACT.THERE AREN'T ANY TAXES ON LOTTERY WINS IN THE UK OR ALL OF EUROPE . A BIG PLUS.

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            Posted: January 24, 2006, 11:25 am - IP Logged

            Without knowing the players involved on a personal level, it seems to me that this woman has an issue with control.  I get the feeling that she tucked the money away so he could not spend any of "her" money.  I can understand wanting to hide a large sum of money away from friends, coworkers, and those not in her immediate family, but her husband?  Must be lonely living where she is...

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              Posted: January 24, 2006, 11:53 am - IP Logged

               I have a feeling that there is more here than what this woman revealed on this talk show. Women who tend to hide things from their husbands are usually in some form of abusive relationships. They don't always talk to the world about the abuse until it gets out of hand or gets out into the public in some way. They will usually paint a rosie picture perfect marriage, but behind the scene, they are planning the great escape by putting away for a rainy day. I hope she is smart enough to have invested some of her winning in her childrens names and have consulted with their legal system. I also hope that she has provided for the husband incase something happens to her.

              Feeling,  PRICELESS!!!Banana

              Come on Jackpot!!!

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                Posted: January 24, 2006, 5:10 pm - IP Logged

                It's possible in the UK because they have no taxes on lottery prizes, so you really can just stick it in the bank without anyone knowing.

                See Ya!Just think, they don't have to worry about "Uncle Sam" sticking it to them, just before they stick the money into their Bank Accounts......hmmm, must be nice.......

                I do believe her story.....

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                  "The world ridiculed Jack Whittaker and others who made unwise decisions with their lottery winnings. "  mylollipop

                  We all have the right to our opinions here, so I'll respect yours. But regarding Jack Whittaker,  he gave away quite a bit of his prize to the homeless and built a church and other charitable groups.  He started a foundation to feed and clothe poor people in West VA and create jobs.  He even bought a house and a car for the cashier who sold him his winning ticket. Mr. Whittaker suffers from alcoholism, but his drinking problem didn't begin when he won all that money, and I certainly wouldn't say he blew all his money on it either. This is a very different situation, since Mr. Whittaker was already worth over a million when he won the PB.  I don't know why I'm defending the man, because he certainly never gave me any money, but his name is brought up every time there's a discussion like this. 

                  I still don't approve of lying to one's spouse, but if she is so sure her husband wouldn't be responsible with the money, then maybe I shouldn't judge her so harshly. However,  if she does not have her money invested wisely and it's kept secretly from her family, should she become critically ill or die in an accident tomorrow, her children will never benefit from her good fortune and her husband will become a single working Dad with 2 children. If she's so sure he'd blow it all, then I certainly hope she's met with a good lawyer or appointed an executor of her will to manage her money should something unexpected arise.

                  Maybe her husband or his buddies were listening to the broadcast on his lunch break so her secret's out now!  If she really needed to vent (and she's not making this whole story up) she should have paid a shrink or gone to a priest. At least they're sworn to secrecy!

                   

                  See Ya!1/24/2006

                  Happy Tuesday...."Just"

                  I appreciated your posting, as I always enjoy reading them, however...I must share this:

                  1st..You'd be surprised the number of Husbands, who withhold money from their wives and families..Some Men are  expert at holding back money....and doing it w/an innocent smile on their faces.....They'll lie to you in a "heart beat" knowing full well it's all in the wallet. 

                  2nd...Based on "jane's" story, she has obiviously learned a valuable lesson about finances and lifestyle, being married to a "former drug user"..he's already proven how irresponsible he can be. This "win" has given her the prime opportunity to put things right for her family, and I take my hat off to her.

                  3rd....I'm sure she has an  "Iron clad Will" w/an Attorney to back that up...If she's as financially savvy as she apopears to be, her children will never want for anything, no matter what happens to her, in the future.

                  4th...I doubt her husband will ever find out, until she wants him to.  She's come this far..3 years

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                    Posted: January 24, 2006, 5:32 pm - IP Logged

                    Ahhhh love and marrage, based on compromise- NOT.  One person thinking they know whats better then another person about what is best for the other person.  Where have I seen that before?  The person did something the other didn't like, so know they try to control the environment of that person. Why? Because they can - they are superior!

                    1/24/2006

                    oh...yeah amazing,  and many of you "men" out there do it 24-7......so pleessssee give me a break.......thanks .."CHEWIE"

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                      Hey, libra926, you brought to memory a situation that I know of personally.  18 years ago, a man I know was killed in a plane crash.  He was a wealthy construction worker.  He had a wife, three adult children and three grand children.  He provided for his family, siblings, and a few faithful employees.  Then surprise, suprise of AaaallllLLL surprises;  he had a condo right under his family's nose in the city they lived in.  A few months before he was killed in the crash, his wife found out that he had a condo in Las Vegas!  Now that was keeping secretsClown.  We do not know her story, True, but we ALL know that the Perfect Marriage is a fairytale. 

                      There is no gender-ism here.  If a man knew his wife would blow the earnings on drugs due to proven past irresponsibility, he would be foolish to open his wife back up to temptation! 

                      Would you give an alcoholic a bottle of vodka?  Would you?  Especially when you know the alcoholics' history?  Too much money in the hands of the wrong people WILL destroy.  I hate to go back to the tragic Whittaker family, but the added wealth was the final point for that family.  The exposure from the Christmas Day winnings helped to destroy that family.  The grand daughter's habits changed and led to the demise of a friend, then finally her.  Yes, Mr. Whittaker did good  and the publicity helped to destroy his good.

                      She has a secret, but she is NOT selfish with her winnings.  He benefits just the same!!!!  She tells him that she has a raise.  Have you self-righteous critics forgotten the fact that hubby dear is not being deprived?

                      Jus. 'cause you are married does not equal happiness.  Stop lying ya'll.  Who has not lied in marriage.  Haven't you faked it to make her "think" she is doing what you like to encourage her to do more of the same?????  And yeah, ya'll know women fake it to stroke your egoes or 'get it over with' if you have the "PROVERBIAL HEADACHE" at the time...  Big Grin Angel A lie is a lie is a lie for whatever the reason.  And let the one who has NEVER told a lie to be the first one to write another negative comment about this woman's WISE decision to protect her family.  I hope she has gotten good legal  and financial counseling.  And Honey, keep your mouth shut until you so desire.  Your hubby might be reading USAMEGA and figure it out....Embarassed  When and if he does find out,  have your house in order! Group Hug

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                        HI "MY"  ...1/25/2005See Ya!....2nd posting....addendum

                        It pleases me to see someone  else on this topic, thinking exactly the way I do on it......It also shows how "naive" some of us really are......so many posting here, wanted to make "jane " out to be a dishonest shrew....but I never saw it that way....She has essentially taken over the role of "provider" and "caretaker" in her family.  She could have thrown her husband out years ago, but instead she stayed w/him...."for better and for worse, in sickness and in health"...she respected her marriage vows, and never turned her back on him....  Many a woman would have gotten rid of him, the minute they "struck pay dirt" w/the Lottery, but "jane" didn't...She chose to keep her family together....and her winnings intact.  He's benefitted, as much as the Children......whats more, she never lied to him about it.....she simply didn't tell him she won..."Don't ask, Don't tell".........

                        Furthermore, as I stated in my initial posting, there are thousands of Men, who have money, stocks, investments and other properties....they "never" tell their wives about.  And, it's not because she's got an addiction of any kind....It's because it makes them feel powerful, to be in control of so many assests, that they can hold them back, as long as they like, or share them with whom ever they like...."Whats mine is yours" is nothing more than 'cliche'....It really means, whats mine is yours, "IF" I decide to share it with you......I said earlier and I'll say it again, having read "jane's " story, I take my hat off to her.....she never lied to him about that prize money, he never asked her.....however, she's helping to make a wonderful life for her family.

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                          I can't judge this women because I have never been a victim of marriage.  Winning the lottery gave her a chance to make choices and it doesn't matter what other people who can't make choices think as long as she was satisfied with the choices she made.

                           * you don't need to buy more tickets, just buy a winning ticket * 
                             
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                            I can't judge this women because I have never been a victim of marriage.  Winning the lottery gave her a chance to make choices and it doesn't matter what other people who can't make choices think as long as she was satisfied with the choices she made.

                            1/25/2006

                            See Ya!This has been a very "hot topic".....as there are now 73 postings on it......I do believe the story is real,  however, reading thru some of the opinions, gives one  a good indication of how people would handle the same situation if they were living it.

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                              I would think that she could have easily set up some sort of trust, allowing her children (and other family members)  to be taken care, herself having enough to never worry about, AND able sharing it with the husband.  Surely there must be some lawyer who could arrange that. However, she would have to have an interest in sharing!  Personally, I think she used an X-Acto blade to cut the word forgiveness out of all the dictionary's in her immediate area.

                              Cheers

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