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Woman 'hiding lottery win from husband'

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Posted: January 26, 2006, 3:30 pm - IP Logged

I would think that she could have easily set up some sort of trust, allowing her children (and other family members)  to be taken care, herself having enough to never worry about, AND able sharing it with the husband.  Surely there must be some lawyer who could arrange that. However, she would have to have an interest in sharing!  Personally, I think she used an X-Acto blade to cut the word forgiveness out of all the dictionary's in her immediate area.

See Ya!HAPPY THURSDAY...."CHEWIE".....1/26/2006

I don't understand how you can say:

" However, she would have to have an interest in sharing!  Personally, I think she used an X-Acto blade to cut the word forgiveness out of all the dictionary's in her immediate area."

How is "jane"not forgiving ?? sharing??...She is married to  a Man, who used to have a Drug Addiction..And there is no guarantee, that he, like so many others, will not fall prey to that again at some point. She continues to be his faithful and loving wife.  She is indeed sharing her winnings w/him and her Children. What else should she do?? If she were to reveal her  winnings to him, chances are, he may fall prey to Drug usage again, and do so, behind her back. He certaininly would not announce it to her face to face. He'd just sneak around "using" and seduce her into giving him more and more money to support his habit...It's very hard for former Drug users to back away, from re-usage when temptation strikes(money)....She showed forgivness by staying married to him, she shares it with him, by helping to provide for their home and lifestyle.

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    Forgiving? Still complaining about something he did 15 years earlier.  Not trusting some one 15 years later, which is the justification for hiding the money. Awfully close to being unforgiving. Faithful and loving wife? That is assumption, as valid as her being a woman who screws whoever she wants, just to prove she can.  All this based on the "may" word? That word has the validity of the "if" word. Maybe he will become a druggie again.  Then again, maybe he has become the pillar of their neighborhood.  Maybe she is a shrew, who just found out punishment is easier then forgiveness.  I know ex-druggies who lead a life my Christians lie about living.  Will power is all it takes. 

    Again,  I stilll think a trust would solve the problem, without turning yourself into a decietful person.  Unless of course, that was the goal all along. 

    Cheers

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    I only trust myself - and that's a questionable choice

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      Posted: January 26, 2006, 11:41 pm - IP Logged

      Forgiving? Still complaining about something he did 15 years earlier.  Not trusting some one 15 years later, which is the justification for hiding the money. Awfully close to being unforgiving. Faithful and loving wife? That is assumption, as valid as her being a woman who screws whoever she wants, just to prove she can.  All this based on the "may" word? That word has the validity of the "if" word. Maybe he will become a druggie again.  Then again, maybe he has become the pillar of their neighborhood.  Maybe she is a shrew, who just found out punishment is easier then forgiveness.  I know ex-druggies who lead a life my Christians lie about living.  Will power is all it takes. 

      Again,  I stilll think a trust would solve the problem, without turning yourself into a decietful person.  Unless of course, that was the goal all along. 

      I Agree! 

       And no I'm not related in any way, shape or form to Chewie. LOL

      Chewie has made valid points and you ladies might not agree. But all in all it's not entirely your fault for that way of thinking. I can place a very small amount of the blame on the male gender. Like it has been said before, "all it takes is a few bad apples to spoil the barrel", and that's exactly how your mothers have taught you to view most men. If men make one particular mistake, (in your eyes) men are bound by the heavens to repeat it, "WRONG". Just the dummies out there that don't learn from their mistakes do that! And that's not just held to the men to make the same mistake twice, women do it too just as much as the men do, women just don't get caught as often as the men do! I personally believe, it's because women are the better game players than the men. But how can women not be the better game players, it's because women have done it all of their natural born lives!

      Keep dreaming the impossible dream, it just may come true! Thumbs Up

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        That woman is kool,she loves

        her family and want things 2

        remain normal....because a person with a formal drug problem can easily slip back

        into his or her ways fast.! I take my hat off 2 her 4 her

        being well grounded!!!Approve

                Smart bets...... Equal Phat Pocket$!

                             

                     





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          Posted: January 28, 2006, 8:36 am - IP Logged

          Once guilty, always guilty.  Good, now that is settled, lets make all prisons one way; in no out.  Especially for smoking pot.  Majority opinion is, 15 years later you are doomed to repeat your sins.

          Cheers

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          I only trust myself - and that's a questionable choice

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            Posted: January 28, 2006, 9:02 am - IP Logged

            Majority opinion is, 15 years later you are doomed to repeat your sins.

            Chewie, it sure seems that way for those who don't know the word or the meaning of the word "Forgiveness" and thats an awful/despicable shame!

            Keep dreaming the impossible dream, it just may come true! Thumbs Up

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              Posted: January 28, 2006, 2:19 pm - IP Logged

              Majority opinion is, 15 years later you are doomed to repeat your sins.

              Chewie, it sure seems that way for those who don't know the word or the meaning of the word "Forgiveness" and thats an awful/despicable shame!

              Ya gotta love it.  I keep reading how Christianity is the major religon on this country.  Then I read how decietfulness is the appropriate path, and foregiveness is not.  When in doubt, 15 years later, condem the druggie husband and bless the lying wife.  Heaven must be an interesting place.  Full of liars, but no former druggies.  Ahh, sooooooo glad I'm in the minority.

              Cheers

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              I only trust myself - and that's a questionable choice

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                Majority opinion is, 15 years later you are doomed to repeat your sins.

                Chewie, it sure seems that way for those who don't know the word or the meaning of the word "Forgiveness" and thats an awful/despicable shame!

                we don't know if she forgave him.  smart woman for guardingg their security.

                love to nibble those micey feet.

                 

                                             

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                  Posted: January 28, 2006, 7:30 pm - IP Logged

                  I would think that she could have easily set up some sort of trust, allowing her children (and other family members)  to be taken care, herself having enough to never worry about, AND able sharing it with the husband.  Surely there must be some lawyer who could arrange that. However, she would have to have an interest in sharing!  Personally, I think she used an X-Acto blade to cut the word forgiveness out of all the dictionary's in her immediate area.

                  Yes NodYou have to remember Chewie that we live our always always being.  Meaning that all the experiences and the other stuff we are made of make us what we are always being.  Whether we are shy, introverted, extroverted, trusting, loving, untrusting,  Jeffrey Daumer, etc.

                  We all don't put together information the same, even with the same experience.  The lady could have been uninformed in a lot a things (lack of trust) and it is possible that she was doing the best she c.

                  Everybody ain't as smart as we are.lol  But you would have thunk.

                   

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                    Posted: January 28, 2006, 9:42 pm - IP Logged

                    She lived with the guy for 15 years, after the drug addiction supposedly stopped; and continued to do so when she had the funds to bail. Kept her kids around him during that whole timeline.  That, in itself, tells a story.  She made a decision to do what she did, and that decision resulted in an obvious mistrust.  Live 15, or more, years with some one you don't trust.  Guess I'll have change universes to understand that concept.

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                    I only trust myself - and that's a questionable choice

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                      Posted: January 28, 2006, 10:09 pm - IP Logged

                      Now, that's hitting the nail on the head! That's almost like the age old saying. "Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater" (which has been proved time and time again, over the decades!)

                      Keep dreaming the impossible dream, it just may come true! Thumbs Up

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                        Aaaahhh  Yeah, Chewie...Argue.  You see, there is not a single relationship on planet earth that is ideal.  And the "T" word Trust?  In God, we trust---100%; others we try to believe in 50%.  Those liars, etc. are not in heaven, nor will they go.  They, along with other hypocrits will join the master liar who was kicked out centuries ago along with 1/3 of heaven's population.  You see Chewie, there are those people who do and move on and say their apologies when needed.  Then there are those people who are self righteous hypocrits, throwing stone after stone when they live in glass houses They can not see clearly what they are saying about another person because there is a huge beam in their eyes blocking view of a tiny splinter in the eye of the person they are dumping on.Hit With Stick.  Have you ALWAYS been honest????????

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                          Aaaahhh  Yeah, Chewie...Argue.  You see, there is not a single relationship on planet earth that is ideal.  And the "T" word Trust?  In God, we trust---100%; others we try to believe in 50%.  Those liars, etc. are not in heaven, nor will they go.  They, along with other hypocrits will join the master liar who was kicked out centuries ago along with 1/3 of heaven's population.  You see Chewie, there are those people who do and move on and say their apologies when needed.  Then there are those people who are self righteous hypocrits, throwing stone after stone when they live in glass houses They can not see clearly what they are saying about another person because there is a huge beam in their eyes blocking view of a tiny splinter in the eye of the person they are dumping on.Hit With Stick.  Have you ALWAYS been honest????????

                          Hurray!

                          love to nibble those micey feet.

                           

                                                       

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                            Since you brought it up, I don't believe in God, nor do I believe in some super mean guy with horns and black wings.  I have seen too many body bags of people who asked their lord to save them. Never was someone saved by a prayer.  They would have died, or lived, with or without the prayer.  Based on the Bible, the only real proof of a God is his continuous destruction of his creations during temper tantrums. Massive floods, fires, and, lets not forget the slaughter of babies in Egypt.  My favorite is sending them into the theaters to be eaten by lions or chopped into pieces by galdiators.  All this based on something passed down as heresay by people who could neither read nor write.  Sorry, I don't buy into the heaven and hell theory, any more then I buy into day of judgement.  If there is a God, why hasn't he provided any proof of his existance since science started advancing?  Surely, there would be something, a burning bush maybe.  A virgin impregnated by a great warrior dressed in white and flying around with wings?  How about him standing in a house in Texas and telling a woman to drown her children; alla Abraham scenerio?  How about we count up the bodies listed in the Bible?  Ooops, there are too many to count.  Of course it be impossible, too many millions of years of earth were overlooked in the Bible; no room I guess.  How about counting up the dead that were part of religious efforts?  The Crusades of the Christians against the Muslims?  How about today, Muslims killing hundred of thousand in the name of religion?  How about a christian dominated United States, led by a devote religious person, killing hundred of thousands of Muslims?  Where was God when his chosen people were being slaughtered by Hitler?  He would never have let this happen before people could read or write.  Humm, I wonder is there is a connection between that.  Priest, men of God, no longer torture or burn women at the stake?  Could it be that education had something to do with not buying into religious superstitions?  Could be!  Or, maybe, men of God don't have time to stone women to death for adultry, they're too busy in the back room with little boys and their leaders are too busy covering it up.

                            Cheers

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                              I have always wondered why people always start throwing the "Bible" around so easily when they get their butt into tight spots for? Is it because they have no other "Valid" thoughts for a comeback to someone else's view point that have undeniable merit to them? That must be the reason behind it, but who knows why they do it for. 

                              So, in all fairness, lets give the bible thumper a chance to validate their reason for being here! So, I ask this one question of the one person who is throwing the bible around? What are you doing on a site that vacillates or encourages gambling for? I'd like to see a valid answer to that question. And I don't mean your being here as a so call messenger of God, to get us sinners to change our ways either!

                              But as far as I'm concerned, there is no good reason for a bible thumper to be here on this site! So. I'll call it like I see it! Stop throwing stones while living in a glass house yourself! And you are a Self Righteous Hypocrite to boot! Please stop talking out both sides of your mouth, if you wish to have anyone take what you have to say seriously.

                              And just for the record, I do believe in Jesus Christ, not that I owe you an explanation or anything! But I just didn't want to be the next victim of your bible thumping attack!

                              Keep dreaming the impossible dream, it just may come true! Thumbs Up

                                 
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