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Lottery winner recounts harassment after claiming prize

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Lavender Rocket

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Posted: May 8, 2012, 3:20 pm - IP Logged

Could it be the economy?Lots of people are spending their last dollar on lottery tickets these days.

I'm broke.Maybe I'll win the MegaMillions tonight!!

The economy is killing most of us.  We are broke.  Making it yes, rolling in excess green-age?  no.  so i will go with cletu$2 and am willing to win MM also!

Congrats to the smart winner.  He got the priceless gift of figuring out who is real friends are/were... and the ability to be unemployed and still pay for drinks!

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    Posted: May 8, 2012, 7:06 pm - IP Logged

    Congrats Mr Henshaw!  Sorry some of your "friends" turned out to be golddiggers.  At least you know now.  I still think you should go on a spending spree to really enjoy some of those millions!!

    He looks like a nice normal guy and seems to have good sense.  I do not blame the economy. There will always be people with a  sense of entitlement for any success or luck you have, especially winning the lottery.  The  lottery win just let him find out who was a true friend and who was not.  I worked with a woman many years ago and she used to tell people she would be livid if anyone she knew won the lottery and did not give her 10% at least. I would be insulted if a friend even gave me $1 of their win. I think if I had been in his situation, I would have told off those people and told them to pay off their own debts and given them a lecture each  time....of course, then they would have had a contract out on me as result. 

    PS:  I agree with Ridge...he does need to buy a few nice shirts at least.

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      Posted: May 8, 2012, 7:23 pm - IP Logged

      OMG Ridge, you are too funny!  LOL

      Well thank you, golfer.


                                                   
                           
                                               

       

       

       

       

                                                                                                         

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        rdgrnr's avatar - walt
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        Posted: May 8, 2012, 7:27 pm - IP Logged

        Dang ridge, that one there looks like something rich communists going to Harvard would buy with daddy's money at Goodwill.

        Yeah, and I think what he bought at Goodwill was my Mamaw's old drapes and made a shirt out of 'em.

        I swear that's her old drapes.


                                                     
                             
                                                 

         

         

         

         

                                                                                                           

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          rdgrnr's avatar - walt
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          Posted: May 8, 2012, 7:32 pm - IP Logged

          He looks like a nice normal guy and seems to have good sense.  I do not blame the economy. There will always be people with a  sense of entitlement for any success or luck you have, especially winning the lottery.  The  lottery win just let him find out who was a true friend and who was not.  I worked with a woman many years ago and she used to tell people she would be livid if anyone she knew won the lottery and did not give her 10% at least. I would be insulted if a friend even gave me $1 of their win. I think if I had been in his situation, I would have told off those people and told them to pay off their own debts and given them a lecture each  time....of course, then they would have had a contract out on me as result. 

          PS:  I agree with Ridge...he does need to buy a few nice shirts at least.

          I think we all at least agree on the shirt, Artist.

          I'd like to smell it one time.

          If it smells like moth balls - it's my Mamaw's old drapes.


                                                       
                               
                                                   

           

           

           

           

                                                                                                             

          "The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing"

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            Posted: May 8, 2012, 7:38 pm - IP Logged

            I think we all at least agree on the shirt, Artist.

            I'd like to smell it one time.

            If it smells like moth balls - it's my Mamaw's old drapes.

            ewwww lol  It does look like vintage drapery fabric from the 1940's-50's.

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              Posted: May 8, 2012, 8:03 pm - IP Logged

              Hmm I was thinkin' that it reminded me of the tapestry that we had on the dining room chairs in my parent's home... 

              but now that it has been mentioned...

              i can totally picture it being on a rack in Walmart (which I happen to love - not the clothing, but the store - and i know i will have a lot of people unhappy with me saying that... but its a guilty lil secret... shhhhh)

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                Posted: May 8, 2012, 8:21 pm - IP Logged

                He looks like a nice normal guy and seems to have good sense.  I do not blame the economy. There will always be people with a  sense of entitlement for any success or luck you have, especially winning the lottery.  The  lottery win just let him find out who was a true friend and who was not.  I worked with a woman many years ago and she used to tell people she would be livid if anyone she knew won the lottery and did not give her 10% at least. I would be insulted if a friend even gave me $1 of their win. I think if I had been in his situation, I would have told off those people and told them to pay off their own debts and given them a lecture each  time....of course, then they would have had a contract out on me as result. 

                PS:  I agree with Ridge...he does need to buy a few nice shirts at least.

                What a valiant and lovely post. 

                I agree with you, except on the part of feeling insulted. You shouldn't be insulted if your friend cares about you enough to offer you a slice of the winning, perhaps touched would be better. Will you insist that they keep it and suggest them to invest it, use it on their other family and friends, and blow some of the cash they would give you for something much more fun? Of course! They're your dear friend, regardless if they won the lottery or not, and you only want to see the best of them. Believe me, I would do the same thing if that ever happened to me. (Not that it will, but just saying!) 

                But take it from me, I used to refuse people who wanted to give me something for a birthday, or even just change, because I didn't want to put the burden on them. But, their faces still dropped and one person said they would have started crying if I hadn't accepted their offer, even though I told them I was thinking of their own finances. The moral of the story is, there are people out there who do actually want to give to the people they love, and when those people refuse them, they are completely heartbroken or they feel like that friend doesn't appreciate their efforts, like their offers didn't matter to that friend even though that is far from the truth.

                I say, if that ever happens to you, Artist77 (or if you won the lottery, even! I wish you good luck), if you do everything in your power to ensure that friend of yours is doing the right thing with his money, but still insists to give you a piece, take it and be thankful for having such a great friend. I'm sure that you being insistent against it will just show them what a valuable friend YOU are to them in return. Smile 

                That being said, I'm so happy for this fellow! He's got a good, sensible head on his shoulders! It's unfortunate he's had to go through what he did, especially being so generous as to even taking his friends out to eat afterward and just trying to celebrate. I'm glad he was able to sort that out and see who his true friends are. I hope his winnings give him nothing but happiness from this point onward. Cheers

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                  Posted: May 8, 2012, 8:25 pm - IP Logged

                  Hmm I was thinkin' that it reminded me of the tapestry that we had on the dining room chairs in my parent's home... 

                  but now that it has been mentioned...

                  i can totally picture it being on a rack in Walmart (which I happen to love - not the clothing, but the store - and i know i will have a lot of people unhappy with me saying that... but its a guilty lil secret... shhhhh)

                  I went to a Walmart once and was not impressed. There was an article about a year ago saying the prices between Target and Walmart were about the same. But  I love Target!!!!!!!!!!  It is really good design. It is interesting though that Walmart is so big $ wise...they have 10X the revenue of Amazon (which I recently learned). And if you have something being sold at Walmart, they blow everyone else away volume wise (often more than all the other retailers combined, B&N, overstock, Target, etc).

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                    Posted: May 8, 2012, 8:34 pm - IP Logged

                    What a valiant and lovely post. 

                    I agree with you, except on the part of feeling insulted. You shouldn't be insulted if your friend cares about you enough to offer you a slice of the winning, perhaps touched would be better. Will you insist that they keep it and suggest them to invest it, use it on their other family and friends, and blow some of the cash they would give you for something much more fun? Of course! They're your dear friend, regardless if they won the lottery or not, and you only want to see the best of them. Believe me, I would do the same thing if that ever happened to me. (Not that it will, but just saying!) 

                    But take it from me, I used to refuse people who wanted to give me something for a birthday, or even just change, because I didn't want to put the burden on them. But, their faces still dropped and one person said they would have started crying if I hadn't accepted their offer, even though I told them I was thinking of their own finances. The moral of the story is, there are people out there who do actually want to give to the people they love, and when those people refuse them, they are completely heartbroken or they feel like that friend doesn't appreciate their efforts, like their offers didn't matter to that friend even though that is far from the truth.

                    I say, if that ever happens to you, Artist77 (or if you won the lottery, even! I wish you good luck), if you do everything in your power to ensure that friend of yours is doing the right thing with his money, but still insists to give you a piece, take it and be thankful for having such a great friend. I'm sure that you being insistent against it will just show them what a valuable friend YOU are to them in return. Smile 

                    That being said, I'm so happy for this fellow! He's got a good, sensible head on his shoulders! It's unfortunate he's had to go through what he did, especially being so generous as to even taking his friends out to eat afterward and just trying to celebrate. I'm glad he was able to sort that out and see who his true friends are. I hope his winnings give him nothing but happiness from this point onward. Cheers

                    Thanks displaced lurker.  But since I have a good job (more than one actually but one is my art career), I would ask my friend to donate any money they wanted to give me to a charity. I would not object to that!  A birthday gift is one thing (a reasonable price) but just handing someone money is another. There are people who could use that "gifted" money far more that me.

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                      Man, this a very classic and expected story. It runs standard with most all people that come into sudden wealth. When you have nothing, nobody wants you or asks you for anything...and this is why it's best to keep it that way even when you've hit it big. May not be a cake walk but, it wouldn't be hard to ward off any suspicions if you have a creative mind. It's terrible that the second people find out that you have "long paper", you now owe them something...you're obligated to do something for them. Well, this is dead wrong from an ethical standpoint. A person should give/help out of sincereity and desire as opposed to pressure and indirect guilt.

                      Sure, any person in their right mind wants to help the less fortunate but, there should be no pressure or hard feelings involved. First of all, if it were me, I would've checked my numbers on my own in privacy...I don't need any alerts going back to the lottery, or, the clerk knowing what's happened. That was the first and only no-no because had he not done it, he would've had time to "set up camp" and things would've been much different with preparation. It's really not his fault, though, because he probably lost sooooooo many times prior (like all of us) that he figured it was nothing. Poor guy...lost all his life long friends over money and harrassement. 

                      Remember what the O'Jay's said about money? It's still playing out to this very moment. If you don't have a plan for a possible windfall of sorts, you might want to develop one. It's much better to have one and not need it, yet, than to get caught with your pants down...because you just never know. Got mine ready, and, has been so for years. Best of luck to every body.

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                        Posted: May 8, 2012, 9:50 pm - IP Logged

                        One thing about winning the lottery, you'll find out very quickly who your real friends are, and those who are false.  Too bad the guy had to go through all this, but at least he now knows who he can depend on & who he can't. 

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                        How to survive winning the lottery:

                        1)  Tell no one (friends, relatives, neighbors, business associates, etc) you've won; do no press interviews.

                        2)  Fight any publicity the lottery attempts to do on you.

                        3)  Change your address, your phone number & your e-mail address.

                        4)  Before you claim your money, develop a lottery winning claiming/investment plan with your attorney, financial planner & accountant.

                        5)  Invest a very large portion of your lottery winnings, and live off a generous allowance created by the lottery investments interest.

                        6)  If you ever waiver about what to do, see numbers 1 through 5 again.

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                          Posted: May 8, 2012, 9:59 pm - IP Logged

                          It'll be nice for him not to have to buy his shirts at Walmart anymore.

                          That's a big plus.

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                            One thing about winning the lottery, you'll find out very quickly who your real friends are, and those who are false.  Too bad the guy had to go through all this, but at least he now knows who he can depend on & who he can't. 

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                            How to survive winning the lottery:

                            1)  Tell no one (friends, relatives, neighbors, business associates, etc) you've won; do no press interviews.

                            2)  Fight any publicity the lottery attempts to do on you.

                            3)  Change your address, your phone number & your e-mail address.

                            4)  Before you claim your money, develop a lottery winning claiming/investment plan with your attorney, financial planner & accountant.

                            5)  Invest a very large portion of your lottery winnings, and live off a generous allowance created by the lottery investments interest.

                            6)  If you ever waiver about what to do, see numbers 1 through 5 again.

                            Okay, #1 is cool...this is just basic damage control because anyone that get's even a sniff of the money will run out and tell at least (1) person. Then, it's over. #2 is even better as you can actually request to be placed in the very back of their lottery publication in very small print where noone else will see...with no picture. As long as "they", the lottery commission has your vitals on file for the payout, no need for a picture or anything else. #3, I wouldn't change a thing as it would spark a high interest, and support, that you're hiding something.

                            The more you can retain your natural way of doing things, the better. Simply deny the big win, and, tell them you'll file suite if they continue to harrass you. They'll leave you alone because they'll already think you've got the dough to do it. Most of all, get it all on a recorder somehow. If you do this the right way, you'll have minimal adjustments to make while still retaining your lifestyle...AND FRIENDS.

                            Preventive maintenance is your best friend. When you have this kind of money, you act as though you don't have it for while, okay. Taking the time to collect one's self is the absolute most important part in a windfall because it's how important decisions are made. At this time, you have both time AND MONEY so what's the rush???? 

                            Chill out and keep it low key. At some point after you've gotten things lined out, you can introduce a "small windfall", or, that you've been working on a business of sorts...anything. You took out a loan or something. Basically, you want to paint the picture that your money will come to an end very quickly if not spent very wisely. In the end, the business takes off, and, you need to invest more i.e. your money is already spent.

                            This doesn't mean you can't help people close to you, it just means you now have control of what they actually think and what you do for them. Make sense? Knowledge is power.

                             

                            L.L.

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                              One thing about winning the lottery, you'll find out very quickly who your real friends are, and those who are false.  Too bad the guy had to go through all this, but at least he now knows who he can depend on & who he can't. 

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                              How to survive winning the lottery:

                              1)  Tell no one (friends, relatives, neighbors, business associates, etc) you've won; do no press interviews.

                              2)  Fight any publicity the lottery attempts to do on you.

                              3)  Change your address, your phone number & your e-mail address.

                              4)  Before you claim your money, develop a lottery winning claiming/investment plan with your attorney, financial planner & accountant.

                              5)  Invest a very large portion of your lottery winnings, and live off a generous allowance created by the lottery investments interest.

                              6)  If you ever waiver about what to do, see numbers 1 through 5 again.

                              Yeah John, I like this plan alot, especially living off the interest. Sounds good.