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Posted: May 28, 2015, 7:29 pm - IP Logged

So I was talking casually to a coworker today and asked him if he was going to buy any tickets since the jackpots were both pretty high. His response was that he never played the lottery nor would he ever, because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

It never occurred to me that someone would rather never be a millionaire for that reason. I told him that at least you'd know who were truly your friends and which relatives really cared. 

Is this a legitimate concern for anyone else? Would you prefer never to win a big jackpot for fear of losing one's friends over your new financial status? 

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    Posted: May 28, 2015, 7:37 pm - IP Logged

    So I was talking casually to a coworker today and asked him if he was going to buy any tickets since the jackpots were both pretty high. His response was that he never played the lottery nor would he ever, because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

    It never occurred to me that someone would rather never be a millionaire for that reason. I told him that at least you'd know who were truly your friends and which relatives really cared. 

    Is this a legitimate concern for anyone else? Would you prefer never to win a big jackpot for fear of losing one's friends over your new financial status? 

    Hell, no! LOL

    Serious illness, education, imminent/actual homelessness - sure, I'll help.   Other than that, all my imaginary $$$ will go to charities.   

    If you havent learned to say no by this age, you are doomed.

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      Posted: May 28, 2015, 7:54 pm - IP Logged

      So I was talking casually to a coworker today and asked him if he was going to buy any tickets since the jackpots were both pretty high. His response was that he never played the lottery nor would he ever, because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

      It never occurred to me that someone would rather never be a millionaire for that reason. I told him that at least you'd know who were truly your friends and which relatives really cared. 

      Is this a legitimate concern for anyone else? Would you prefer never to win a big jackpot for fear of losing one's friends over your new financial status? 

      No way.  My small family and circle of friends would still be here if I won or not.  If I am wrong, then it would be their loss.  I would like to be a millionaire to help them and not just for them but for me.  Giving makes ME  feel good.  With jackpots this high, how much does one person need?

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        Posted: May 28, 2015, 8:00 pm - IP Logged

        I would prefer not to win a big jackpot for so many reasons. Privacy and remaining anonymous would be tops on the list. Maybe I'm paranoid,lol. I would give it all away in a heartbeat to charity.

        Do You Want To Win Today?  http://www.lotterypost.com/thread/286011

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          No, it wouldn't prevent me from playing but I still think one of the smartest things I read here on LP was by whoever said the ideal thing to happen would be for PB or MM to be pumped up and get hit, the winners still hasn't shown up to claim their jackpot, and you hit it at the start point.

          I wish I could remember who posted that.

          Those who run the lotteries love it when players look for consistency in something that's designed not to have any.

          Lep

          There is one and only one 'proven' system, and that is to book the action. No matter the game, let the players pick their own losers.

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            Posted: May 28, 2015, 8:38 pm - IP Logged

            No way.  My small family and circle of friends would still be here if I won or not.  If I am wrong, then it would be their loss.  I would like to be a millionaire to help them and not just for them but for me.  Giving makes ME  feel good.  With jackpots this high, how much does one person need?

            After watching the documentary "Lucky" and hearing about the one guy losing the friendship of people he'd known for decades, not because he didn't give them anything, but because they felt they should have won instead of him, nothing would surprise me, even in a small family.

            I don't think it's about how much you need, it's more about how much someone else feels entitled to.

            I will say that the person I was 4 years ago would have allowed the guilt to get to me. I probably would have felt compelled to give to family even if I didn't want to. The person I am now, will have no problems saying no and not feeling even a twinge if they decide to hate me forever over it. 

            I'll get over missing them in the shoe department at Harrods. Hyper

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              Posted: May 28, 2015, 9:07 pm - IP Logged

              So I was talking casually to a coworker today and asked him if he was going to buy any tickets since the jackpots were both pretty high. His response was that he never played the lottery nor would he ever, because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

              It never occurred to me that someone would rather never be a millionaire for that reason. I told him that at least you'd know who were truly your friends and which relatives really cared. 

              Is this a legitimate concern for anyone else? Would you prefer never to win a big jackpot for fear of losing one's friends over your new financial status? 

              Well that's confusing.  Are they really his friends or is he their 'plan B'?

              Would the guy not build a bomb shelter either for the same reason ( If it wasn't big enough to fit all his friends or family)

              Does he constantly go around worrying what other people want from him or how the feel about him?

              I don't understand his logic.

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                Well that's confusing.  Are they really his friends or is he their 'plan B'?

                Would the guy not build a bomb shelter either for the same reason ( If it wasn't big enough to fit all his friends or family)

                Does he constantly go around worrying what other people want from him or how the feel about him?

                I don't understand his logic.

                That's why this was such a shock to hear and I wanted to know if this was a common thought others might have, because this guy is very A personality, doesn't give a crap what anyone thinks of him, does his own thing kind of guy. He would be the last person I would have expected to have this viewpoint.

                I might wake up early and go running.  I might also wake up and win the lottery.

                The odds are about the same.

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                  After watching the documentary "Lucky" and hearing about the one guy losing the friendship of people he'd known for decades, not because he didn't give them anything, but because they felt they should have won instead of him, nothing would surprise me, even in a small family.

                  I don't think it's about how much you need, it's more about how much someone else feels entitled to.

                  I will say that the person I was 4 years ago would have allowed the guilt to get to me. I probably would have felt compelled to give to family even if I didn't want to. The person I am now, will have no problems saying no and not feeling even a twinge if they decide to hate me forever over it. 

                  I'll get over missing them in the shoe department at Harrods. Hyper

                  Lol harrods shoe dept. sure sounds good to me. Hahahahaha.

                  I would like to see that show Lucky.  I have seen firsthand how families fight over money, inheritances etc. and it never ceases to amaze me the things people will do.  Not something I will have to worry about at this point in my life lol.

                  If I was a winner and my family was jealous of my winning because they didnt win, then that is on them.  I hopefully, would have done what I felt was right.   I am a homebody, getting older i dont want the drama, just a peaceful, financially secure life until I am called home.  After I am gone let the fireworks begin if they dont like how the trust was set up. 

                  Actually, I remember one California woman who won the lottery with a group of coworkers said she lost her childhood friend when she won.   The friend had the issue with her win so I guess you are right.

                  Just let me win and I will try to deal with it lol.  Good luck all who play, regardless of the jackpot.

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                    Posted: May 28, 2015, 9:31 pm - IP Logged

                    That's why this was such a shock to hear and I wanted to know if this was a common thought others might have, because this guy is very A personality, doesn't give a crap what anyone thinks of him, does his own thing kind of guy. He would be the last person I would have expected to have this viewpoint.

                    Does the guy drive a bus in case all his friends and family want a ride?

                    I suppose it also tells you how he really feels about his "friends".

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                      Posted: May 28, 2015, 11:22 pm - IP Logged

                      because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

                       

                      Ya gotta cull the herd sooner or later, and losing them over a huge amount of money seems like a delightful way to do it IMHO.

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                        Posted: May 28, 2015, 11:59 pm - IP Logged

                        So I was talking casually to a coworker today and asked him if he was going to buy any tickets since the jackpots were both pretty high. His response was that he never played the lottery nor would he ever, because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

                        It never occurred to me that someone would rather never be a millionaire for that reason. I told him that at least you'd know who were truly your friends and which relatives really cared. 

                        Is this a legitimate concern for anyone else? Would you prefer never to win a big jackpot for fear of losing one's friends over your new financial status? 

                        I have no fear of being left alone or abandoned by friends or even family if I won

                        a huge amount of money. It's a lonesome condition. Things and people change.

                        You said he's a type A personality. Is it possible he's a subcategory type A?

                        He might need the friends more than the money and friendships unchanged

                        by jealousy or contempt might be of more value than a monetary sense of security.

                        Money they say talks but in a different sense than communication between two

                        or more people. Money can"t give compliments, praise and it can't give you anything

                        you're not in control of it giving you. 

                        It's a fact things will change no matter how much you give or buy for someone else.

                        Friends will cross the line of no return and some will resent you or imagine YOU changed.

                        Family will behave in certain ways...usually things are left unspoken but there is a feeling

                        you can't quite shake that something is different. And it is: YOU have money and THEY don't.

                        I can understand why the guy wouldn't want to win at the expense of losing. It's easier to go

                        on business as usual than to experience the discomfort and loss of a current situation where

                        no one has to stoop to a level above begging or spill their guts because you have what they need.

                        It's all so.......regretable actually. Respect is reduced, anticipation is increased. Maybe he's made 

                        the best choice for himself. At least he won't have to find out who his real friends are due to

                        instant riches - that will change even those who you thought would never change.

                        Now as for me...I don't need who is not worth needing. Give me the money!

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                          Your co-worker might be right. I know someone that loaned his friends thousands of dollars and no one answers his calls. Also his family sold all his stuff when he went to jail. The only thing my friends would get is beer.

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                            Ive heard this saying before " rich people dont go to heaven" , thats my biggest concern really.

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                              because with that much money he'd lose half his friends and half his family because they would probably expect a cut.

                               

                              Ya gotta cull the herd sooner or later, and losing them over a huge amount of money seems like a delightful way to do it IMHO.

                              Skeptical I'd almost agree with you HLK

                              I'd think your real family and friends would stick around for the roller coaster ride and save thar snide remarks for the reading of one's will if thar was anything left of the money or estate thar of

                              but I say if they are gonna hold you to being thar plan B... to blazes with them and good riddance