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You apologize for your body. You are ashamed of it. You change it all you can. How you feel about your body betokens a lot of how you feel about life.

Although your body is really not you, you nevertheless feel its restrictions. You move in it. It goes with you. You go with it. You feel imprisoned in it. At the same time as you disdain, you adore.

Often it is only your body that is seen, and often that is all you see in others. How diminished you feel when that is the case! You feel diminished because it is untruth. The body has nothing to do with the size of you.

Even when you die, you feel embarrassed to leave your body around, as if you are littering. There is such longing in the Human heart to be bodyless. I am not saying longing to die, but longing to be unhampered by a physical form. You do know density when you see it.

The light that is truly you has been formed into a body. The body is easily seen, but the light is not always seen.

Your body gets in the way. It gets tired. It gets hungry. It has to be taken care of. A lot of work goes into maintaining the Human form.

That is the Human condition. You have bodies. You are the turtle who carries his shell with him.

And yet you chose this existence.

And you carry out your purpose. But the body is not your purpose.

Exercise your body. Feed it well. Be not ashamed of it. Be not proud of it. Do not let it hold you back from great things. You must know that you extend far beyond your Human form, that the body is illusion, and is incidental to your bearing.

The physical is only physical.

It is light shaped. It is light contracted. It is light as if it had physical form.

And yet you were meant to have it.

Consider it your conveyance. Your chariot. It will wear out. That's all right. It is not essential. No more than you have to keep the path you walk on do you have to keep to this physical form. It is but a shadow of you. It is something you use for a while and then cast aside.

It is most important to you and yet of no importance at all. It is a vehicle. The one who rides in it is of importance.

The Human body is an invention. It is a conventional thing. But the inventor matters more than what has been invented. The use of the invention matters more. There is great purpose in your being on earth in a Human body. Travel well.

When you bear in mind that your existence is truly in light, you rise to greater heights. Your step is lighter. You begin to embrace the extent of you. When you are aware that you are more that the frame you are presently housed in, you encompass the universe. Your head and heart know the circumference of the universe and reach it. You reach everywhere.

The universe becomes your home. You are not a stranger to the galaxies. You have blessed every star. You have touched every point of the universe. You have circuited the whole of creation and landed in the one form of your body called by a certain name. But you are not your name. You have a greater name than the one you go by. I whispered your name long ago, and you answered.

Heavenletter #2871 Published on: October 4, 2008

If there were no attachment, there would not be suffering. If you could take even death of beloved ones in your stride, where would attachment live? Because of Human attachment, you think something terrible has happened when a loved one dies. You mourn the whole concept of death of the body, as if the existence of the body were everything. I know that death of the body is big for you. I know that suffering is big for you.

Attachment is not the same as love, beloveds. Love transcends attachment. Love does not possess. Attachment is attachment. You have thought to yourself many times: "I cannot live without this person." That is attachment, beloveds.

Attachment makes your loved ones some kind of property, like a treasured gold coin that is your lucky piece. How could you go on without it? Of course, the gold coin is only representative of your good fortune. It is like a placebo. And so it is with your beloveds. You think they are necessary to you. You think they are the cause of your happiness, and in death or in leaving in any manner, they are the cause of your unhappiness. You put too much at stake upon their existence.

Oh, yes, of course, your loved ones are important, and they are important to you. Their being important to you isn't exactly the same as your being dependent on them. Your dependence is a thought you have attached yourself to. It is like luggage you carry. You attached a leash to a suitcase. You attach a chain to a loved one, a golden chain but a chain nevertheless.

Your life is dependent upon you, and your life is dependent upon Me. It is not dependent upon anyone else.

Go ahead and love for all you are worth, and be not attached. Attachment says there is something you HAVE to have. It seems brutal to you to say that you don't have to have your mother or father or husband or wife or son or daughter, yet that is the case. Love is not bounded. Love is not a lasso. Love exists on another plane. Deep inside, you really know that. Deep inside, you know that love is more than worldly. Deep down, you know that love is much more than ownership.

Being connected to a loved one is not the same as being attached. Two souls meet, and if souls had eyes, I would say that their eyes lit up in recognition. The souls lit up in recognition of the blessing each would bestow upon the other. With love, there is no list of demands. Love exacts no requirements. Love does not become attached. Love lets go. Love removes all the cages from the heart of man and the heart of woman. Love removes cages.

The one you love is not to be put in a cage. Your love is to free him. And if your loved one flies away to another country or to another dimension, you give your loved one the gift of freedom. Free as a bird, your loved one flies away to his destiny. Bid him adieu.

You send your child off to school, and you blow kisses. And if your child should leave the planet Earth, then it is for you to blow kisses the same.

You can love without attachment, beloveds. When you are without attachment, you will not have losses. Life on Earth will not hit you over the head. You will not have blows in life. There will be goodbyes, but not blows. There will be love extending beyond all borders.

Heavenletter #3978 Published on: October 16, 2011

Enthrall your heart with Mine, and We will dance off the pages of history. We will dance anew on a platform you haven't danced on before. It will seem like that. You will learn new steps, and you will dance as you have never danced before. You are learning new steps now. I am dancing as I have always danced, and now you are on your way to keeping up with Me.

How We dance is of the utmost importance. We have been doing nothing but dancing. You have not always been in step with Me, and now you are beginning to get the hang of it. Love inspires Us to dance across the screen of life. Let Us dance in tandem. Let Us be in step as We dance in life, as We dance in love. Love is the direction We go in. There is no other. Love is the only direction to go in. No other direction exists. You pander to other directions as if they were real. Mistaken perception is mistaken perception.

What if everyone in the world fostered the direction of love and gave no credence to any opposites to love? What direction would the world go in then? Does anyone doubt the efficacy of what I say? What do you imagine has held the world back but all the fussing and fuming of what does not in truth exist? The conceived negativity of the world has occupied much your energy. You have focused on it, this misperceived negativity.

Put your love where you suppose negativity is, and negativity will vanish from the face of the Earth. It was only imagined. What is imagined plays itself out. Love has no ending, however. Beloveds, We dance on a continuum of love.

Love is eternal and infinite. Therefore, love exists. That which is not eternal and infinite exists only in the mind. Your emotions don't exist. Emotions are machinations of the mind. You can know that because of how uncomfortable the emotions you put yourself through are. That which is true is comfortable. That which is untrue is uncomfortable.

Never mind this idea that negativity and anger can spur you on, motivate you. If you want to feel motivated, try positivity. Try love. Love is beyond emotion. The love I speak of is a constant. It cannot be trifled with. It is not insignificant. It is significant. It is the ruling force of life. You can live without all the variant forms of negativity. You cannot live without love. Love is your life-force. If you are alive, you know love. And if you are not alive on Earth, then you know love even better.

Conditions and conditioning on Earth are not true. The whole basis is false. The false basis is that anything but love is true when love is the only Truth. The rest is fiction. Well-done fiction, yet fiction nevertheless. Even in the most dire fiction, love comes through. When the last page is turned, love keeps on going.

Three cheers for love. Why focus on anything else? Why focus on the drips and drabs of discontent, why attempt to prove a basis for discontent, why stick up your nose in the air and pontificate error in the world, why find fault for the miniscule when you can let it go and bring love in? You do everything to keep mud out of your house. You wipe your feet. You may take off your shoes. You may sweep.

And when it comes to the mind, you may bring in the moil and mud and examine and reexamine them. Does this make any sense to you?

Make your mind a mud-free environment. Don't open your mind to that which you don't want.

What if everything in the world is taken care of and you don’t have to worry? What if there is nothing to worry about? What would you do with the time you save, and where would you preserve anguish? If you did not worry, you would be on top of the world. As it is, you hold worry to you like a talisman, like an abacus, like a card up your sleeve, as if worry props you up, protects you, keeps you safe, as if it is a bribe you give to ensure that there will be no retribution, no tragic event, no heartbreak. You hold on to worry like a cross you bear as if it will ward off what your fears portend. All the while, it augments your fears. Worry is like bloodletting, a little at a time. Why would you worry unless you thought it was a good thing to do?

Perhaps you think worry is like a song you hum, and other less desirable songs will not be heard over it. Perhaps you think worry is a palliative, some kind of blessing for you, a mock-up of fear that will bend at your will. Perhaps you worry out of habit. Perhaps it has become a way of life. Perhaps worrying is why you are tense. You wait for the other shoe to fall, even when you don’t know what the other shoe is. You just know you don’t want it, so worry becomes your rosary.

I would have you be done with worry. Worry contracts your blood vessels. Worry is a stricture. It frets your nerve endings. Worry is no good at all.

Worry has no opposite, beloveds. And worry is not your responsibility. You don’t have to take care of it, nourish it, give it cause, find reasons for it, doll it up. Worry isn’t conscientious. To harbor worry is irresponsible. It is getting caught in brambles. It is frittering away your energy, and for what? For the little sigh of relief when what you worry about does not come to pass? Have that relief now. Release yourself from worry.

If you have heretofore been a worrier, there is a cure. Stop worrying. When you catch yourself clutching your heart, look up and remind yourself that I AM, and that worry is worthless. It lurks everywhere like a shadow. What takes precedence, do you believe, worry or Me? Which would you bet on? Which would you uphold? You have a choice, beloveds. Choose now.

Has worry been a mainstay for you, a walking stick, a prop for you on the stage of life? If so, it has been a false one, a cane that folds and trips you up. It’s there with you, but it doesn’t support you.

From this moment forth, say “so long” to worry. Stick out your tongue at it. Boo it away. Worry is a bad guy. It sets off false alarms, and gets credit when what you were worrying about does not come to pass. But worry did not save you. It set off a false alarm.

You worry about something that isn’t real. For those things that will come true, worry can’t change them. It is true that someday your body will die. That is no secret. Nor is it a loss. It is just a change.

All your worries are about change. You worry about the wonderful as much as you worry about the awful. Worry says: “What if I have his love, and then he stops loving me? What if I am not equal to his love? What if I am the one who stops loving?” There isn’t anything you can’t worry about. There is nothing you have to worry about. You might as well stop playing the worry game now.

When you feel you must hurry, you can know that you are caught in illusion. If something has to be now, this moment, you are skirting the surface of life. You are kidding yourself that unless you accomplish whatever you have decided you must, some catastrophe will occur. Your premise seems to be that If you don't accomplish on time, you will not have accomplished. I have to ask you What is the urgency? And you must ask yourself that too as well.

Hurry is the cry of modern life. Outward, outward, faster, faster, chug the train wheels of modern life. This must get done. Hurry, hurry. And then there is something else new rushing itself to the forefront, and you race behind time, trying to catch up to this illusive time. It is illusive and elusive. Give time its due. It has already won. You will never catch up to it or get ahead of it. But you can ease yourself from its thrall.

Time is not a genial overseer. It is a slave master with a whip. It is only a trick of time that you must obey it.

Set your own pace. You are not winning a race. You are winning a life. Make yours charming more than rushed.

All sense of urgency comes from a sense of time.

Another name for urgency and its pace of time is drama. Drama is onstage.

Every individual has his own sense of time and timing. One who is a mad dasher sees another as a dawdler. A dawdler may be a dawdler or he may be an ambler. If one dawdles all the time, perhaps he is dragging his feet. Or his mind and heart are elsewhere.

There is no hurry with Me. There is no slowness, for there is no time. It is serene without the urgings of time. Try it some time. There is no ticktock. There is no setting your watch. There is only being, and being has its own rush, as it were, a rush of love.

Why would a child of mine choose to get out of breath in life? Where does anxiety come from but from a sense of what has not been done or that which cannot be undone. Anxiety is residue from a race you have been running.

In order to live life, you have to live it. You can't whiz by it and extract its essence. Be not a flurrier in life. Be a sightseer. Don't gulp down your drink. Savor it. Notice it. Know what you are drinking. The point is not to push past this glass and grab another. The point is to drink it down and know what it tastes like. You are not in life just to skip over it.

What if today you paid attention to the ebb and flow of life and went with it? What if you were a walker in life rather than a runner? Would you miss more or would you gather more?

So I ask you, What is your hurry? What are you racing to? And where did you start from?

What kind of sense does this sense of time make? Yet you have bowed down to it and made it your master. You have made it into a tyrant. And one you can never satisfy, try as you may.

But what if you can step out of time for a while, for a little time not be in it. Not really on the sidelines but just not in the main fray. Perhaps rising above the fray. Being out of the fiction of time, you will have breath, and you will have pause, and you will have life.

Money is a microcosm of the world. It is a great purveyor of the world. It is nothing by itself. It is what people make of it or do with it.

One who has it shares it. Another who has it keeps it to himself. Another takes someone else's. One spends what they don't have. Another duns to collect his debts. Another erases.

Money can be a great blessing. It can also be a great bone of contention. Or the whole issue of money can be denied.

The thought of money makes you happy or sad or bitter or discontent or distressed or hopeful or hopeless.

The holding of money is equated with power. The withholding of it by one who has it also is powerful. Possession of money is dominance. Lack of money is equated with weakness and makes one who has not feel subservient.

Money has great world value. What a scorecard it has been made! Insignificant paper is made significant according to what is printed on it. Oh, much value is set on it, on pieces of paper that can be torn up and tossed into a stream as well as intact pieces of paper that are considered gold and circulated throughout the world. Or mere notations of money are also counted and transferred without ever touching hands.

But money that never touches your hand also wields its power. It is in the bank. Or it is in the market. You are up or down with it.

The word "money" is connected to the word for hand. Money was handed around. There was touch connected with money, and the word "touch" is still associated with money. But now, it seems, that money has gotten out of hand.

Who owns the money? What is its great attraction, and what is the drive for it?

And what is it anyway? Certainly, you never want to be without it. You know you don't want to be without it, this microcosm of the world of men.

In the world, money is everything, and yet all know it is nothing. Yet the search for it pursues you. You are driven to possess it, keep it, or spend it. Money is like a demon in Human life when you scratch for it. But it can be an archangel when it benefits the Human screen of life.

What God do you serve with money, Me or ego? Money is not your livelihood. I am. What currency do you pay Me in? There is only one modicum you can pay Me in and that is the heart. The hand is connected to the heart. The hand that receives or gives money is connected to the heart. To what does your heart wish to give? Pray that your heart yearn to give out and not only take in.

Give your heart now. You who can buy now, and pay later, spend your heart now. Do not wait. Do not save your heart for a better day the way you save money for a rainy one. Spend your heart now.

When you have great riches accorded to you, what will your heart do with them? How many purchases will come before a thought of Me? Don't feel bad. I am not scolding you. I am just pointing out where I seem to be on your list. Give yourself credit if I am on your list at all.

Scatter your blessings back to Me, for you know that I am from Whom all blessings flow. I am not exacting a trade from you. I am just telling you how to best live in the world.

The exchange of money is another attempt at wholeness. You really do want to connect with the whole of humanity and be blended in Oneness. However you engage with money, it is your search for Oneness. The good you do comes back to Me.

How warming is a heart of love. Receiving the warmth of love is like sitting before the hearth on a cold winter night. You warm your hands. Your cheeks grow rosy. This is how life is meant to be. Warm.

Everyone would love to receive the warmth of your heart. So then, beloveds, give it. Give your love generously. Let everyone live with the expectation of receiving your love the moment you appear.

When you enter a room, let all eyes turn to you as the nourisher of their hearts.

There are people like this. Whether consciously or not, there are people who love all and are generous with their love, not shy to give it, not shy to call attention to it. All eyes turn to such people. Eyes turn because it is a given that such people know how to give love, and so they give it. Whether in word or deed or in great silence, love is what they give. And those who see them enter the room they are in know that their heart's longing for love is soon to be quelled. And when the person who really knows how to love leaves the room, his love is still warm and vibrant there. It has been passed on.

Let you be one like this who gives the thirsty to drink and fills up the hearts that long for nourishment.

If you must play a role on Earth, then play the role of one who knows how to give love and gives it. Be one who looks to fill the needs of others and not to foil them. Because your love is expected is no reason for you to withhold it. It is My Will, beloveds, that you love, and that means filling other hearts and, therefore, your own.

Be a sower of love. Be the initiator and giver of love. Be like the sunshine that shines for all. The sun simply shines, and it shines for all. All are in the range of the sun. The sun asks for nothing but to shine.

Be like the sun. Let it be your request that you simply shine love. See how well you can step into My shoes. Step into them, you will, but when? But what are you waiting for, beloveds? Today is the day to start. There is no better day than the one right now. It is in your grasp.

Think of a world where you give love generously, and everyone has a heart at ease, knowing that love from you is about to appear. Oh, beloveds, seas will part for you. The whole world will welcome you. You will walk down a sunbeam and shine the light of My love on all.

What else but My love would you like to cast on the world? The world has had plenty of everything except the love it craves. The world waits and waits for more love. It has been left standing at the corner. The whole world is waiting for you. It is waiting for you to come and reveal your love.

It may be that you haven't seen your love. It may be that your love has been hiding even from you. You may have to open your eyes before others can open theirs.

Wouldn't it be lovely if love were a given? Wouldn't it be lovely if everyone today could expect love to come? To come even unbidden. To come from all sides and over and over again. What if everyone today could look forward to heaps of love coming from every which direction? What if everyone could pull out the love from their hearts and distribute it freely?

What if you would?

Look, I have told you to stop finding fault with yourself. Why, then, do you continue faulting yourself? In terms of the relative world and its expectations, in terms of your own expectations, you will never be perfect. There will be a slip-up somewhere. There will be a gap in your performance. Your pirouette will not suffice. Your legs will be not be the perfection you would like. You will make typos on the computer. You will forget something.

Your worst imperfection is how you find fault with yourself.

Let's face it. You may never run out of faults to find. I suggest you stop finding fault now, this minute. Let yourself off the hook.

Just as I suggest that you focus on the  blessings the world gives, I suggest that you focus on the blessing that you are. The odds are that as soon as you would become 100% perfect, you would then aim for 150% perfect, and you would  be off to the races again.

Perfection is not to be a goal in your life.

Do the best you can always. Two minutes later you may see a better route. Well, then, take that route the next time. Stay off the graveled path that costs you remorse. Give yourself a break from unachieved perfection. Play fair with yourself. Okay, so you took your eye off the ball. You didn't hit a home run today. It's okay.

Think of yourself neither as perfect nor imperfect. You want to improve your record, and I tell you to be content with a passing grade. In My book, you are A+. You are living a life in flux. In some places, the river widens. In some places, the river narrows. In some places you leap like a fish. In some places, you flounder, or you make a belly-flop. It's not the first time. What is the big deal?

Take pressure off yourself, and rest your fault-finding self. Better yet, get rid of fault-finding altogether. Finding fault is clearly living in the past. You know better.

Sometimes you have to write off your errors. Turn over a new leaf. Start a new page.

You went to the super market. You bought many things. When you unpacked your groceries, you found that you forgot the one thing you had to get. And now the store is closed. Find a way to make do. Go next door to  borrow some sugar. Now you have an opportunity to be neighborly, and now you use this opportunity.

You must not put yourself in debt to yourself. You owe yourself a reprieve, not a bill. You do not have to atone. It is not new that you are a human being who forgets things, or drops things, says the wrong thing, doesn't say the right thing. It's okay. There is nothing to forgive yourself for except that you are a human being. Is that what you can't forgive yourself for? Forgive yourself ahead of time. Condone the fact that you are not error-proof. It comes with the territory.

Will you remember once and for all that you are My beloved child and that I made you in My image? Then you must, as I do, let bygones be bygones. No longer hold the microscope or telescope up to yourself. You live in a body in the relative world. Stop examining yourself. Move on. Be the ship of a prow that sails through whatever furrows it plows through. Give the prow of the ship some leeway. Be kind and forgiving.

I am true to your heart. Your heart knows Me very well. Connect yourself to the love and wisdom of your heart, and you will be diving into the depths of Our mutual connection. We are intimately connected. We are entwined. We are indissoluble. For greater awareness of Our Love, just join Me in your awareness.

It is like I am the engineer of your heart. There is so much to see and entertain on this train of life that you are enrapt in the sights, and you forget the Engineer who keeps everything going.

Remember Me now. Enclasp Me in your vision. In your imagination, pull Me toward you, or rush to meet Me. That we are One is not imagined. It's just that you may have to imagine it in order to conjure your awareness. Welcome Me into your heart and life. Move over for Me.

Consider Me your spine that holds you straight. Consider Me your chin that goes ahead of you. Consider Me your legs. Your legs seem to move you physically, but I am the Mover. Consider Me your fingers that reach and touch. Consider Me that which your fingers reach and touch. Grasp Me wholeheartedly. Feel the completeness of Our Oneness, this unified Oneness, this Oneness beyond Itself, this Oneness of Entirety, this Oneness of Love Supreme, this Oneness that stills the heart at the same time it makes it beat.

I am located nowhere if not within you. I am not faux. I am located everywhere, even though space does not exist. I am for all time, even though time does not exist. The two big concepts you hold real in earth life are faux. To even think of this, you feel your moorings slip away, but time and space are not your moorings. I am your mooring, and you are Mine, and We cannot slip away from each other.

When a woman on earth is pregnant, she carries a child. She carries it for Me. It is I Who conceived the child. Human involvement is only the carrying out. It is said that the mother gives birth to the child, but she is merely the carrier. She did not make the child nor did she give it life. This is My doing. This is My miracle. You are a conveyance of miracle.

All of this earthly life that seems to come through you is given to you. You are gifted to experience this grand design. If all of life were really up to you, you would feel sequestered and alone. You are a great being in the Universe, and you do great things, you play a great part, but there is One God of the Universe. God does. Whether you concur or not, you follow along.

There is a Lodestar, and aren't you glad? Would you prefer to have nothing to go by? Do you really want to be the inventer of life?

Fortunately you are guided in life, and I guide you. The closer you come to Me in your awareness, the more you follow in My footsteps. It is not that you ask Me for permission of where to go and what to do. It is that you find the impulse in your heart. It is My impulse you register. And your heart says, "Ahh."

Would you really like to go it alone?

In the world, you look for a companion to share life with. I, the Silent Partner, I am the One Who brings you together. I have sent you everyone who comes into your life. They did not stray there. And they were given to you to inspire you and so that they may reap your inspiration.

You will find that inspiration in your heart. You are pregnant with inspiration I have planted. Come close to Me now, and find My heart deep within yours.

Practical is never enough. It is practical to tie your shoes, but that goes without saying. Practical does not fill your heart. Perhaps you need red laces or to go barefoot and to be impractical as well. On the surface, what is practical about flying a kite? or wishing upon a star? or laughing?

Folding sheets is practical. Laundry is practical. Washing dishes is practical. All these things you know. Do them with love, and your practicality is holy.

But also place stars in your heart. Be rambunctious. Delight in delight for no reason at all.

And yet, when all is said and done, there is nothing more practical than joy. Joy will sustain you. Laundry will not.

Cotton is practical, but silk is too. It is practical to fill your heart with softness and beauty.

Hard facts have their place. Soft truth does too.

It is fine to count numbers, but that is not enough for you. Numbers must also be entwined with inspiration. The heart and the soul of the one who fingers the adding machine must also be counted.

How practical is it for a child to give you a dandelion? What are you going to do with it? And yet the gift of the dandelion is a beautiful act of love. Your heart never forgets when the sun was given to you by a little hand with a crushed dandelion in it.

How practical are colors? Yet a life must be filled with color. How practical is music? Yet it is a necessity. Your heart must fill itself with loveliness. Loveliness goes a long way.

Let your heart be beautiful. Lighten it with joy. Laden it not with duty.

Perhaps there is value in stepping in puddles.

How important is a dance? Yet life must be filled with it. Fill your life with tango as well as waltz.

Read a book for the sake of it. It does not have to be for gain. Let reading a book be a way to get into the heart of another. This way you give your consent to their being on earth and sharing themselves with you. You embrace their spirit and surge your own.

Today do something for no reason at all. Let no reason be your reason. See where this takes you. It will take you to new fields. I remind you that you are an adventurer on earth. Adventurers set out. They go somewhere they have never been before. They seek something. They do not follow yesterday's footsteps.

You may try to keep things the same, but you cannot pound life into the ground. Life will not stay still. Life is ever urging you forward. What joy that brings.

All right, are you now sold out on the idea of letting go of practicality for a little while and substituting it with something not expected of you? not even expected by yourself. That is what you are to do today — surprise yourself. What will it be?

You will do something wonderful today that makes your heart happy. Perhaps you will find crayons and draw a picture. Perhaps you will do a somersault. Perhaps you will surprise someone else. Surprise is the unexpected. Imagine what you can do today to add sparkle. Even thinking about it has value. One surprise leads to another.

Write down Surprise in your calendar today. Make it a part of your day. Surprise can never become routine. What surprise lies in store for you today? Call it to you.

There may be greater or lesser intensity to anger, yet anger is anger. Something makes your blood boil. Even though you well know that anger is not worth its salt, you still have it. First there is upset, and then upset bare its teeth and becomes downright anger. Odds are the anger seems to be caused by a relationship, some kind of communication barrier.  You do not feel you are being heard. Whether the apparent cause is an insensitive customer service representative, your wife, an employee, a traffic jam, or obtuse bureaucracy, you feel stymied, as if you are up against a stone wall. You do not know how to make yourself heard. At these times, you are forgetting yourself, beloveds.

Whether you simply feel the rushing anger in your physiology, or you grit your teeth and clench your fists and keep silent, or you explode, the damage is done. There is no anger without damage. Leashed or let loose, your sense of anger has gone out into the environment. A message has been sent. It is a message that says war is justified. It doesn't matter if it is a war only between you and one other individual -- it is still war.

You may think there is a righteous cause for your pure anger. The ultimate cause is that you do not love yourself enough. The situation becomes a federal case because you are not being heard, and, therefore, by, your interpretation, not being valued. Because you do not yet value yourself, you have not yet learned to shrug your shoulders and put out the fire of anger. Talk to yourself a different way before anger begins. Give yourself reasons not to be possessed by anger rather than all the justification for anger.

Naturally, you do not want to feel angry. You never did.

When you feel love and loved, you think someone caused you to feel love. Someone or something stirred the love that is already yours. Just so with anger. Your anger was already there within you waiting to burst forth, beloveds. You are the source of your own anger.

Anger has to do with control. Anger gets you by the throat and brings out the beast in you. I said beast not best. You become a haughty boss of life because you do not know your true power, and you feel helpless, and so you feel angry.

Do not think I am oversimplifying. If you loved yourself enough, you would not feel the need to react.

I know a lot is said in the world about how you must express your anger. But here's the rub:

No matter what a nice person you are, no matter your usual way of operating, when you become angry, you start operating in a bully mode. You feel forced to control. You are going to make something happen. You are going to change things. You become selfish, and so you yell. In one way or another, and you want to beat up on the seeming cause of your anger. Bullying was never honorable, beloveds. Saying what you feel is one thing, bullying another.  Anger does not give you the right to bully one other Human Being.

When you feel yourself getting angry and justified for your anger, stop right then. Say, "Whoa." 

When anger overrides you, find a way to get rid of it that does not hurt you or another. Pound nails, run two miles, play squash ball. Write a nasty letter, if you must, and tear it up. Find a way that works for you. Have a plan for when you become angry. Get the anger out of your system as quickly as possible without taking out your anger on those around you.

You do not have to vent your anger. You do have to get rid of it.

It is never all right for you to yell or scream at anyone. Yes, of course, you will kiss and make up. Kiss and make up now, and leave out the yelling.

Anger flares up when your perceived right to control is affected. Anger is always a control issue, beloveds.

Someone should not have done what they did, nor say what they did, nor step on your lawn. They should do as you see fit. Maybe they really should, yet why are you so hot under the collar? 

If you had no need to control, you would not steam yourself in anger. If you had no need to control, why then would you see red when something isn't the way you would choose?

That you would not get angry doesn't mean that you would lie down and love everything that is presented to you. It just means that heat would not rise within you. It doesn't mean that you would not protest or that you wouldn't express. Not at all. You will express better without anger. Without anger, you will prevent wars. With anger, you will escalate war.

This doesn't mean you wouldn't object to something. Objecting and anger are not the same. Protesting and anger are not the same. I don't need to tell you what anger feels like. You already know that too well. It is one thing to object to and correct a child's misspelling, for instance, and another to be irate about his misspelling.

Even if a great offense is done to you, what is the advantage in raising your blood pressure? What exactly has been taken away from you that you have to erupt in anger or have a slow burn? If someone or something sears your heart, what is gained by your raising your temperature?

Anger is never wonderful.

Speaking up is another thing. Asserting yourself is another thing.

Anger is always hostile. You may be absolutely correct, and the offending party absolutely incorrect A situation may have to be changed, Still, rage is not your friend. Rage undermines you.

If you really do want to have more jurisdiction over your life, then no longer accept anger. You do not have to be controlled by anything that is said and done. However, when you want to control a situation,  so you rise to the bait and you rise in anger, and you lose control of that which is yours to have some say over.

You cannot choose for other people. You cannot make them say or do what you think they should, no matter how right you are. They are not puppets whose strings you can pull.

You may well accuse someone else of bossing you around. They really are bossing you around, and it offends you. When you want to tell them off, what are you doing but wanting to boss them around, the very thing that ticked you off. You don't like anyone telling you what to do. You don't even want your employer to tell you what to do. And, so, you must not tell others what to do or how to think.

No matter how perturbed you feel, no matter how unfair someone's treatment of you may be, it is for you to go higher. Otherwise, you are left with a tug of war. That's what skirmishes amount to.  "Yes, I can. No, you can't."

When you see children doing that, you know better. Know better when it is you.

There are a million items that you can feel angry about. There are million times you don't like the way something is done. Yet it is your need to control that makes you break out in anger.

You get angry with your computer. You get angry with your friend, your mother, your wife, your husband.

Instead of yelling, talk softly. Be kind. React as you would like others to react.. Be respectful. Be respectful first.

Remember that guilt is not a high vibration. It is not honorable to feel guilt.

It hurts your heart that some go hungry while you waste food. There is a tug here, and yet it is incumbent upon you to digest the food you eat. You do not help another when your stomach is heavy with indigestion or your heart is heavy with guilt. Guilt is itself a kind of indigestion.

Money is not your consciousness. Money is not the cure. Consciousness is. You cannot appease guilt with money. You cannot atone.

Everyone on Earth deserves prosperity. Everyone on Earth does not presently have it.

Human asks: "How can it be that God leaves some without food and others with plenty? There is an imbalance."

Yes, there is an imbalance in the world.

Only consciousness can right wrongs.

Yes, and those who have are to help those who do not have. And yet such help is a stop gap. The boy in Holland could keep his finger in the dike for only so long. His finger in the dike was a temporary measure. So is feeding the poor a temporary measure.

Listen to Me carefully here. The circumstances of birth are not an accident. All circumstances are to grow from. Someone in opulence certainly seems wealthier than someone in hunger. If you were born spoiled, you have to rise from that. If you were born poor, from that you too have to rise. Each person born on Earth is born to rise from the circumstances he finds himself in.

When one is in a hot desert, it is too easy to say: “You must find water.” And yet each man must find water for himself. And if you are in the desert, and you have a flask of water, of course, you share it. You share your water, and yet you do not foster dependence in another upon your water.

If you are a thirsty man in a desert, how are you going to find water for yourself when you believe that others must come to your aid? It is true that all are brothers, and all help one another, and yet each man must help himself.

If you are thirsty and you see no solution but another’s coming to your aid, then you have limited your possibilities. If you are sure there is no other way, you have made it so.

Once upon a time, there were no airplanes. They were not believed in. It took two brothers, so I have heard, to believe in the idea of man’s being able to fly before the airplane could come into being.

Belief is important. If you believe that water has to come to you from someone else’s hand, what water will you find on your own?

It has been said that to him who believes, all things are possible. And to him who does not believe that all things are possible, all things are possible, yet, what has he cut himself off from? I am speaking of lifting consciousness so that all men on Earth are free and independent and no one is needy. Neediness has been believed in. What purpose could neediness serve but to point the way to fulfillment? Neediness is not needed. It is not necessary. It is not inevitable.

The world does not need the have not’s in order to have the have’s. All the bonds of life are false premises, and they are to get beyond.

Discouragement is understandable, yet it is not meant to be a way of life. Discouragement breeds discouragement. Have courage instead. Break the bonds that bind you. Open your heart to yourself. Blame no one and nothing. Rise.

Beloveds, because someone has great powers, does not mean that they are more connected to Me than someone without  great powers. Powers do not mean that someone with them is more connected to Me than you. You are as connected to Me as anyone can be. You are not lacking. It is good to remember this so you are not enveloped under the spell of other mortals who may have observable powers. I adjure you to remember that I walk with you, and you walk with Me. I make you important. You do not need the attention of another, no matter how powerful their attention may be. You do not need their approval. You do not need their glamour. You don’t need them. They may need you and your looking up to them.

Powers are not the indication you may have thought. The marvelous thing about Christ was not that he could turn water into wine. The marvelous thing about Christ was the simple love he poured out, not the wine. Wine is wine, gone in a moment. Christ’s love is My love, and it lasts forever.

There are people with certain powers and talents who may be very sincere. They are not trying to delude you. Only they are not aware of the extent of their individual egos and its dominance in their lives. They do not mean to mislead. They themselves are misled. They do not mean to dupe you. They themselves are duped.

And then there are also those who are aware of their self-interest. Their intent is not pure. From the outside, they may appear sincere and dedicated, but they are dedicated to themselves and their aggrandizement. They are in love with their own powers.

Regardless of intent, the result is the same. In practicality, it makes no difference if you give yourself over to the one who is sincere or the one who is self-serving. You are not to give yourself over. You are not to give anyone the added power of power over you. Keep your own self-power, beloveds. Let not your mind become indentured to another’s mind.

I will compare this to your buying a product. You see something advertised on TV. It is advertised so well, looks so promising, that you start to believe you have to have it. And so you buy the cosmetic or the gadget or the dress because of what you believe the purchase of it will do for you. When what you ordered arrives, your fascination may already be diminished. In any case, sooner or later, what you bought is no longer the wonder you thought it would be. You begin to see it now as mere make-up, mere gadget, mere dress. It is not the answer to all that you were seeking.

And sometimes you do this with people, with programs of study etc. You look for something to be the answer to your life, and you have been disappointed. Beloveds, no matter how sincere you are, you are also looking to be aggrandized.

Will you kindly remind yourselves that you have Me, and you have Truth, and you need no mortal being to puff you up?

You possess all the Greatness in the world, beloved. You are made of it. Learn all you want to learn, but keep yourself intact. Honor the Greatness within you. This is another way of saying, Do not give too much of yourself away. Know who you are, Take care in what you spend your money on, and take care of what your heart kneels down to.