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Would you loan money to someone to gamble

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Would you Loan money to someone to gamble with?

Yes [ 3 ]  [4.17%]
NO [ 53 ]  [73.61%]
Yes, and it's between me and them [ 6 ]  [8.33%]
Never a borrower or Lender be [ 3 ]  [4.17%]
Yes, and they didn't pay it back [ 1 ]  [1.39%]
Yes, they had a sob story [ 1 ]  [1.39%]
Yes and they paid it back [ 5 ]  [6.94%]
Total Valid Votes [ 72 ]  
Discarded Votes [ 4 ]  
Tenaj's avatar - michellea
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Posted: September 23, 2006, 8:39 pm - IP Logged

What?Would you loan money to someone to gamble with if they had a good sob story.  I loaned money to someone with a good sob story and when I quit loaning them money they quit talking to me.  Do I have the right to ask for that money back?  They said several times that when they got on their feet it will make them feel good to give it back and I told them it would make me feel good to accept it.

The first two times were gifts but it became a habit around the 16th of every month and they were broke until the 1st always asking for money to tie them over, and always had a hard luck story.  Am I wrong to ask for this money back, when I never asked for it back before.  (It was understood that it would be paid back when they were able) 

I feel they were only my friend because I gave them money.  They never did tell me why they quit talking to me, it happened when I didn't cough up any more money.  I had an $800 vet bill, my dog had heart worms and I couldn't give them money to gamble with.  Was I wrong for thinking of my pet before them.  Maybe that's what offended them, now that I think about it.

Am a just mad because they are not my friend anymore or does that not matter because they owe me money.  Don't they owe me money regardless of the feeling involved?  Now they are telling me that it was freely given. 

I loaned them the money that I used to place my own bets and many times I had to make deposits because I had given them half my money. They mentioned that someone else were giving them money to play pick 4s for them, making me think I wasn't the only person.

Whatever you guys say do, leave it alone, tell me how dumb I was, I'm just mad because they kicked me to the curve, whatever, I will take the advice.  I'm tired of tip toeing around them so I asked for the money back.

It was $450.

takeemtothebank

    lottaloot's avatar - AvatarZ56
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    Posted: September 23, 2006, 8:56 pm - IP Logged

    And that's a HELL NO at thatCussing Face

    I just glanced at your ending paragraph....and I have one thing to say

    That was DUMB --You sure you a LEO?  ROFL

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      Tenaj's avatar - michellea
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      Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:00 pm - IP Logged

      You know Leos have kind hearts regardless of how loud we roar. 

      takeemtothebank

        lottaloot's avatar - AvatarZ56
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        Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:01 pm - IP Logged

        I just read the complete post & now I am sorry that you had to go thru that experience. 

        My motto is "I can lose my own money"  and if someone needs to borrow money to gamble then perhaps they should not be gambling.

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          lottaloot's avatar - AvatarZ56
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          Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:03 pm - IP Logged

          You know Leos have kind hearts regardless of how loud we roar. 

          True, but my kind heart becomes super selfish when it comes to money.    Well I'm just telling the truth.

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            JAP69's avatar - alas
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            Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:28 pm - IP Logged

            I voted NO.

            Gamblin is a luxury item in my book.
            And it sounds like from the money they were spending and not winning it was an addiction.
            Did they spend it on gamblin?
            If they Do not talk to you because of the dog I will be talkin to the dog.
            A dog is your best friend.

            You probably will not see the money you loaned but you let them know about it by asking for it back.

            WHATT

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              Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:31 pm - IP Logged

              That really bites that they won't talk to you because you stopped being there bank. My eyes, they still owe you the money. They were suppose to pay it back and that's that. I had a co-worker who was having a hard time and we go through that. She needed money for gas and I filled her tank. I knew I wouldn't see the money so I didn't look for it back. Luckily she never asked for anything else. Sad thing is that she got a transfer to a better paying job(more than me) and it went to her head. She doesn't even talk to me anymore. She forgets it was only last year when she couldn't fill her gas tank to get to work and day care for her kid. I've really had to stop being generous because ppl A. don't pay the money back or B. Forget where they came from when they have some successes.

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                Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:33 pm - IP Logged

                True, but my kind heart becomes super selfish when it comes to money.    Well I'm just telling the truth.

                Must be something in the time of the Leo.. my hubby wouldn't loan you a dollar to buy a coke.. He would pay for your surgery if you needed one.. but he is first to consider each item as a need or not..

                 

                My daughter is a leo.. She would give you her bill money to go on vacation.. Her birthday.  Aug 21

                Hubby's  July 27

                 

                Son is leo too... Aug. 7    He is a lot like hubby..

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                  Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:35 pm - IP Logged

                  That really bites that they won't talk to you because you stopped being there bank. My eyes, they still owe you the money. They were suppose to pay it back and that's that. I had a co-worker who was having a hard time and we go through that. She needed money for gas and I filled her tank. I knew I wouldn't see the money so I didn't look for it back. Luckily she never asked for anything else. Sad thing is that she got a transfer to a better paying job(more than me) and it went to her head. She doesn't even talk to me anymore. She forgets it was only last year when she couldn't fill her gas tank to get to work and day care for her kid. I've really had to stop being generous because ppl A. don't pay the money back or B. Forget where they came from when they have some successes.


                  That is sad...

                   

                  I , too, have helped co-workers from pay check to pay check. 

                  One need money to keep her house.  Her hubby had been out of work sick for some time.

                  I took my winnings and gave it to her.  There was no hurry for it back since it was money won..

                  Took her over a year but it finally came back.

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                    justxploring's avatar - villiarna
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                    Posted: September 23, 2006, 9:38 pm - IP Logged

                    I voted a flat out "NO!"  Funny that you brought up this subject, because I was just telling someone about a former friend who once said to me when I was on my way to the store to get lottery tickets "pick me up 5 okay?"  My answer was "Where's your $5?"  I then explaned that if I got 5 QPs and they came up, the money would be mine. She said she had her own numbers. I said the money would still me mine unless she gave me the $5 bucks. She got very angry at me.

                    Regarding payback...a loan is a loan is a loan.  A gift is a gift is a gift.  If someone I know needs food I do not expect a payback. If a neighbor needs a ride, I don't expect gas money if I offer.  If someone asks me for a loan, I expect to be paid back no matter what the reason.

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                      Posted: September 23, 2006, 10:12 pm - IP Logged

                      No, absolutely not.  If you do they'll only come back for more for the same purpose and it will never end til you shut them off, then they'll be very resentful towards you. If you're lucky, you'll never see them again.

                      When I worked in casinos, I saw this once:

                      A player ( a tourist) was 'on a roll' and had a nice bunch of chips in his rail on a crap table. One of the regulars, a 'skid' (Las Vegas for bum, mooch) sees this, and when the guy leaves to go to the bathroom, follows him in. A couple of dealers overheard the conversation:

                      "You got a little lucky and my daughter is getting out of prison today and I need gas money to drive down to Jean and pick her up, blah blah blah..", a real sob story.

                      They both come back out on the game, and the tourist gives the skid about $150 in chips. The skid doesn't even bat an eye and immediately puts the chips into play on the crap game. so much for sob stories.

                      There are many, many stories like this, the only difference is the amount of money, the story is always the same. 

                        truecritic's avatar - PirateTreasure
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                        Posted: September 23, 2006, 10:59 pm - IP Logged

                        Judge Judy would say someone owes you $450.00

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                          Posted: September 23, 2006, 11:15 pm - IP Logged

                          Tenaj-You should have confronted this person when it became a problem with depending on your handout every month.  They are obviously not your friends.  You got used by someone who you associates with you.  I got taken for what I consider a large amount of money in 2004 by someone who I am related too.  I trusted in his word that he would pay back and so far he has only paid a fraction of what he borrowed.  So I now owe every month on his bill.  I learned a good lesson over the last two years do not help people you know.  More than likely if you help people they will take you for all you are worth.  The world is full of scammers and I happen to be related to a few of them.  One other thing you can confront the person if you want to make yourself feel better inside but that does not mean the person will pay.  My good old relative has yet too pay anything and it has been almost a year now.-weshar75

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                            Posted: September 23, 2006, 11:41 pm - IP Logged

                            No. And if you're borrowing money for the purpose of gambling, then you need to find help, FAST!

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                              Posted: September 23, 2006, 11:51 pm - IP Logged

                              I said flat out NO! I don't loan money to anyone for gambling! I agree that gambling is a luxury! A person is only to gamble if they can afford that luxury! And if they can't, I'm sure as heck not going to foot the bill so they can gamble! As a rule, you only gamble money you can afford to lose, otherwise you end up deeper in debit in more ways than one!

                              Please stop walking on egg shells around the lowlifes, stand up for yourself and tell them to own up to their obligations and to pay up. Face it, you were never friends in the first place, you were nothing more than acquaintances, because a friend doesn't do that type of thing to a friend, if they were truly friends in the first place! Then later on (like a few days) demand the money back that you have loaned them and if they say no, then you have one last recourse, take them to small claims court! This way they will know that you mean business about them paying up the money that you had loaned them.

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