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Would you loan money to someone to gamble

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Would you Loan money to someone to gamble with?

Yes [ 3 ]  [4.17%]
NO [ 53 ]  [73.61%]
Yes, and it's between me and them [ 6 ]  [8.33%]
Never a borrower or Lender be [ 3 ]  [4.17%]
Yes, and they didn't pay it back [ 1 ]  [1.39%]
Yes, they had a sob story [ 1 ]  [1.39%]
Yes and they paid it back [ 5 ]  [6.94%]
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Posted: September 27, 2006, 3:46 pm - IP Logged

Anyone who borrows money to gamble can't be trusted and needs help.

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    Posted: September 28, 2006, 12:19 pm - IP Logged

    no I need my own money so I can Gamble LOL!!!

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      Posted: October 29, 2006, 12:37 am - IP Logged

      I would lend small money to gamble. Who knows that person may hit the jackpot and share.

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        What?Would you loan money to someone to gamble with if they had a good sob story.  I loaned money to someone with a good sob story and when I quit loaning them money they quit talking to me.  Do I have the right to ask for that money back?  They said several times that when they got on their feet it will make them feel good to give it back and I told them it would make me feel good to accept it.

        The first two times were gifts but it became a habit around the 16th of every month and they were broke until the 1st always asking for money to tie them over, and always had a hard luck story.  Am I wrong to ask for this money back, when I never asked for it back before.  (It was understood that it would be paid back when they were able) 

        I feel they were only my friend because I gave them money.  They never did tell me why they quit talking to me, it happened when I didn't cough up any more money.  I had an $800 vet bill, my dog had heart worms and I couldn't give them money to gamble with.  Was I wrong for thinking of my pet before them.  Maybe that's what offended them, now that I think about it.

        Am a just mad because they are not my friend anymore or does that not matter because they owe me money.  Don't they owe me money regardless of the feeling involved?  Now they are telling me that it was freely given. 

        I loaned them the money that I used to place my own bets and many times I had to make deposits because I had given them half my money. They mentioned that someone else were giving them money to play pick 4s for them, making me think I wasn't the only person.

        Whatever you guys say do, leave it alone, tell me how dumb I was, I'm just mad because they kicked me to the curve, whatever, I will take the advice.  I'm tired of tip toeing around them so I asked for the money back.

        It was $450.

        Tenaj:

        Did you know the money you were loaning was for gambling?  If you did that was a very bad mistake.  People who do not have the money to lose should not be gambling in the first place.

        Is the total amount you loaned $450 or is that just what was not gifts?

        Let me just say that you cannot buy friendship especially if it is by way of money for gambling.  You run into folks like that all the time at the track and at casinos.  Just wanting a handout and promising to pay you back when they get on their feet.  The problem is they owe everybody, therefore, they are never going to get back on their feet unless some miracle happens and they hit big and the they will conveniently forget who you are anyway.  They just fall deeper and deeper in debt until some bookie or loan shark decides he has had enough and strongly encourages the client to pay by methods not appropriate to talk about here.

        It is possible your ex friend has a gambling problem and does not admit it to himself?

        In any case you stand about a good a chance at collecting your money as I do winning the Florida Lottery outright.  The odds are 24 million to one.  In fact, I may have better odds.

        I think you should give or loan money to people who are in real need.  Help someone who is really hungry, who needs to talk to someone, who is lonely, who needs a place to rest, who needs to find a church.

        One last thing you might also think about is the old saying charity begins at home.  You helped your dog by removing his suffering thats a good thing.  I am an animal lover so you get high marks from me.  You loaned money you really did not have to loan, forgoing your enjoyment of playing the Lottery.  Hey man enough is enough.

        Floridian 

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          Posted: October 29, 2006, 1:06 am - IP Logged

          I already posted on this, but since I just saw it again on the home page, I was reminded of the last time I went to Vegas with my ex back in the summer of '81.  We'd always take a set amount to gamble as part of the vacation expense.  When he lost his share, he always wanted to spend more. I usually said okay. This trip I gave in again and took some money from my purse so he could continue to play poker.  He lost that too.  In October I filed for divorce.

          So maybe there's a moral to this story somewhere.  LOL 

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            I already posted on this, but since I just saw it again on the home page, I was reminded of the last time I went to Vegas with my ex back in the summer of '81.  We'd always take a set amount to gamble as part of the vacation expense.  When he lost his share, he always wanted to spend more. I usually said okay. This trip I gave in again and took some money from my purse so he could continue to play poker.  He lost that too.  In October I filed for divorce.

            So maybe there's a moral to this story somewhere.  LOL 

            justxploring

            I resemble those remarks.  The morale is you can never loan money to family or temporary friends it always ends up with someone being hurt and a lot of misery for everyone concerned.

            Floridian

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              Posted: October 29, 2006, 5:43 am - IP Logged

              Yeah,

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                What?Would you loan money to someone to gamble with if they had a good sob story.  I loaned money to someone with a good sob story and when I quit loaning them money they quit talking to me.  Do I have the right to ask for that money back?  They said several times that when they got on their feet it will make them feel good to give it back and I told them it would make me feel good to accept it.

                The first two times were gifts but it became a habit around the 16th of every month and they were broke until the 1st always asking for money to tie them over, and always had a hard luck story.  Am I wrong to ask for this money back, when I never asked for it back before.  (It was understood that it would be paid back when they were able) 

                I feel they were only my friend because I gave them money.  They never did tell me why they quit talking to me, it happened when I didn't cough up any more money.  I had an $800 vet bill, my dog had heart worms and I couldn't give them money to gamble with.  Was I wrong for thinking of my pet before them.  Maybe that's what offended them, now that I think about it.

                Am a just mad because they are not my friend anymore or does that not matter because they owe me money.  Don't they owe me money regardless of the feeling involved?  Now they are telling me that it was freely given. 

                I loaned them the money that I used to place my own bets and many times I had to make deposits because I had given them half my money. They mentioned that someone else were giving them money to play pick 4s for them, making me think I wasn't the only person.

                Whatever you guys say do, leave it alone, tell me how dumb I was, I'm just mad because they kicked me to the curve, whatever, I will take the advice.  I'm tired of tip toeing around them so I asked for the money back.

                It was $450.

                when i read this i can't believe this i mean it had to be a matter of life and death  and i had to know the person very very well. well in this life time people are not like they use to be they take good people for granted but who ever the person are persons are i hope they realize that a good friend is hard to find especially one who lend money. but from now on let the loan company do there job you are putting them out of business................No No

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                  Posted: November 25, 2006, 3:05 pm - IP Logged

                  I can't say that I haven't done it before but now I KNOW that loaning money for gambling is very, very bad business!!  You will never see that money again.  If they want to gamble..do like I do ..WORK OR DO WITHOUT!!  If I have some money to give away, I'll give it to a REAL charity.

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                    justxploring

                    I resemble those remarks.  The morale is you can never loan money to family or temporary friends it always ends up with someone being hurt and a lot of misery for everyone concerned.

                    Floridian

                    I know, Floridian.  I agree to a point, but when you're married the money is usually shared anyway.  I never would say "this is mine and this is yours."  What kind of a marriage would that be?  I mean, if I marry a guy and he wants to use my lipstick and panties.....LOL

                     I had a very good friend whom I loved dearly (and still do in my heart) but he'd never let me touch his "stuff" including his stereo or record albums (huh? what's an album? lol)  I realize that, even when people are together, they both need some privacy, but I've had to learn to say no. However,  I wouldn't hesitate to send money to my sister if I had some and she was needy. Lending money to people for gambling is different.

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                      You know am not sure as to how to respond but, i vote yes to your dog, i too have a dog and i love my dog.  i'm  not sure as to who is borrowing money or why but, my motto is that if i give someone money to gamble with, i will lose mine (old myth but so what), my pet peeve is that some people want put a $ on any number but, when there is a win their hand is the first to be out and this just p'ssss my off.  when the 000 fell on mid day in ga i was telling a neighbor to put a dollars on them for a few days.  her response was (girl i don't waste my money like that), she happens to be in my home when i hit the 000 for 10,000.00, she quickly responded girl can i borrow 2,000.00  (want say what i said)  but some of it was girl am helping my kids and paying off a bill.  Now sometimes i run very low on cash, i simply don't play but am blessed to say that my bills are paid.

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                        Posted: November 25, 2006, 4:25 pm - IP Logged


                        I am the BORROWER

                        And here is what I say

                        You were my friend or you wouldn't have loaned it to me

                        I am still your friend---until you decide to make the money more important----

                        If my friendship is/was not worth the $450 (in your case)

                        then I have not contributed enough to the relationship to set the value above that amount...

                        I will probably never pay it back---unless one event happens---

                        I will pay when I get a nice"HIT" which may never come--

                        but if it does-----you won't get your part if you're not around or near me for me to share it.

                        I am a gambler and you knew it........you did in fact jeopardize the relationship when you loaned me the money-----BUT whether a gambler or not-----the relationship was at risk the minute you loaned the money-----Money is loaned, and relationships are lost every day.

                        Your only protection was to loan money without expectation of its return---keep the friend----if he's not worth the total loss of the money---he isn't that good a friend---and DON'T make the loan.

                        Gamblers are mostly perpetuel borrowers---and who else can they borrow from other than friends and family? 

                        I have even given myself a nickname:

                        "If I know ya, I owe ya!"

                        I guess I am just a better borrower than I am a Gambler

                         

                        You can maintain the "You owe me money" relationship without ever losing the one's you want to keep.....If they continue to expect ongoing loans just remember that you have reached the "comfort-zone" where you have every right to refuse, and they simply will not expect you to loan them any more.

                         

                        Maybe the borrower/gambler has burned your valuable relationship too by taking your $450---when at sometime in the future he will have a desperate need for thousands---and where you may have easily given it...

                         If you're a friend --stay close---I have more to offer than the money---AFTER ALL--I will always OWE you----Money---and favors and whatever.....I'll always be obligated---as long as you don't "ride" me about it......

                        Money is the easiest part of any relationship to replace 

                        I hope you got a little insight into the borrowers side.......I found it somewhat theraputic to express my own point of view...pardon me if I made it even more unpleasant.

                         

                        Bill 

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                          To borrow money in order to gamble is a sure sign of a gambling problem.  To use a relative's Social Security money to gamble is also a sure sign of a gambling problem.  People living on Social Security are living below the poverty level and to "borrow" money from them to gamble and lose is not cool.

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                            Posted: November 25, 2006, 5:35 pm - IP Logged

                            People who ask to borrow money to gamble are not asking for a loan but rather a stake.  The best you can hope for is that they win enough to pay you back, if they lose you lose too and that's what usually happens.  If they were interested in getting a loan (money that had to be repaid), they would go to one of those places that make short term loans.

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                              Bill (bnorcutt) has a valid point, although I don't totally agree with him.  I am not sure if the money given to these members was strictly a loan to help a friend or an agreement. From what I can tell, these moochers ripped the others off by using their money and not paying it back after winning. To me, that's a type of stealing. In any case, it's unethical. I would never take money from a friend unless I was hungry or couldn't pay my rent. Tonight I will spend my usual $4 on Lotto. If I didn't have it, maybe I would borrow the $4 until payday since I've never missed a drawing in 12 years. However, if I won I'd definitely pay back the $4 and a heck of a lot more!

                              However, on the other hand I do understand what he's saying.  I got myself into a few messes with some people years ago, and when I look back now, I can see that my eyes were wide open. I just didn't care. I met men who were "bad" but they were a lot of fun so I looked the other way. Some other relationships that soured I simply wasn't prepared for, like having a close friend who became bitter and jealous of me. I sold her some furniture and never got the full amount she owed. So I suppose we have a choice..be happy & move on or look at the world with a jaundiced eye and trust no one.