Quote: Originally posted by Diana Elaine on Feb 5, 2009
Hiya, I'm new here today ... would really appreciate your opinions on a situation.
I know that you all might have a different opinion, and that's ok, would just be interested to see how others would look at this.
My sister has come into a winning of 1.5 million.
I have 2 other sisters, so there are 4 of us.
My sister bought a house, gave her 'only' child $100,000 and a new loaded car. She also bought 'one' sister a new car and gave me and my other sister $1,000.
She paid bills, gave money to church, helped some friends.
To my present situation: I have read over and over, how winners help their closest family members first, and especially since she's not married, has only one child, and her sisters are her closest and only family for the most part. Our parents are gone, and so are most aunts and uncles.
I decided to ask her for a 'loan', so I could feel independant ... to help me out with my car, that's on it's last legs, it's OLD ... and to pay off a very small loan at my credit union .. just so I could get a bit ahead. I'm on SSI because of Lupus and other health issues.
Her answer? "I won't say yes and I won't say no, I want us to spend more time together first, see how that goes and then I'll decide."
First, that really hurts me ... second, I'm insulted, because why is there a 'condition' to helping out a sister who REALLY needs it, after you've just bought the other sister a brand new car???
She KNOWS me all ready ... and how much 'time' does she mean? It's like she's dangling the 'money' in front of me, as she 'spends time with me'. I'm just really hurt and confused.
Your thoughts?
Nice to meet you all!
Diana