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Would you leave your wife/husband?

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Posted: February 27, 2008, 2:19 pm - IP Logged

I actually found this question pretty interesting....

If we won the lottery, would I leave my husband?  I don't know..We've talked about it before and he always says jokingly that the only reason he "hangs out" with me is because we're broke. 

I think eventually we would end up getting divorced simply because we'd have the money to go do whatever we wanted to.  He'd be wrapped up in his own things, I'd be wrapped up in mine..I don't know...

Maybe being broke keeps up together?  We have a common goal that we're constantly fighting for (making ends meet) and that keeps up together. 

Interesting question... I understood where the OP was coming from.

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    Posted: February 27, 2008, 3:47 pm - IP Logged

    Wow, I read each and everyones reply, and I found them all very interesting.  I'm in my 29th year of marriage, my children are grown and gone.  We are very happy and I realize that we are so blessed.  I would not end my marriage for any reason except for non-commitment.

    I feel commitment is so important.  If we won the lottery, it would only help us obtain our goals a lot sooner.  Be blessed. 

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      Posted: February 27, 2008, 11:03 pm - IP Logged

      I really feel sorry for some of you.  Money is a horrible reason to stay married.  Usually its the kids, but money? no way. Its seems as though some of you really would have no problem leaving after the lottery but if you don't win you are willing to stay miserable for the rest of your lives?  I don't get people.  It makes me truly sad. 

      Happiness for sale at 1/2 of $10 million.Love

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        Posted: February 28, 2008, 3:05 am - IP Logged

        Money isn't the reason people stay married, it's the reason they don't split. The reality is that a lot of people can't afford to go out and live on their own. Some of those people are living with their parents after a divorce, and some are people who would get divorced if they could afford it. Even when a relationship is bad it can be hard to leave. Add serious financial hardship and uncertainty and it shouldn't be so hard to see why some people stay.

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          Posted: February 28, 2008, 2:30 pm - IP Logged

          Money isn't the reason people stay married, it's the reason they don't split. The reality is that a lot of people can't afford to go out and live on their own. Some of those people are living with their parents after a divorce, and some are people who would get divorced if they could afford it. Even when a relationship is bad it can be hard to leave. Add serious financial hardship and uncertainty and it shouldn't be so hard to see why some people stay.

          I agree with this wholeheartedly. People think it's easy to leave a spouse and strike out on their own until they add up the cost. When two people were sharing the bills and just getting by now they will have to foot the bills independently.  

          For the man this can be even more difficult especially if children are involved and alimony to boot.

          I heard somewhere that for people seeking a divorce.

          You must put forth every effort to analyze the marriage even more than what went into getting married. And only get divorced if there is no possible reconciliation.

          You have to plan for a divorce and find a way to become financially independent of your spouse if you are to succeed in striking out on your own.

          Of course this is way easier if you win the big one but thats pipe dreaming.

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            Posted: February 28, 2008, 3:07 pm - IP Logged

            I agree you have to choose your battle.

             

            There is a secret to having a conversation with no arguments.

            NEVER>>. I Repeat NEVER>>>>EVER>>>> NEVER

            Start a sentence off with the word "YOU"  Or "BUT"....

            Those are NO NO's....

            Even if you are talking to your spouse, your child, your boss, your neighbor, anyone... NEVER do this.  Try it and see how easy your life becomes.

            You need something done...

            Then say that.... "I need the car moved."   Not,  "You need to move the car."

             

            You know what "but" means.. Right?

            Beyond the Underlying Truth... Think about that...

            takeemtothebank

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              Posted: February 28, 2008, 3:36 pm - IP Logged

              IN A HEARTBEAT.  Id be out the door at 11:01 PM.  So what would you do if you won the big jackpot?

              Destined>>>>>>>>:

              UR a Hoot>>>

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              what Rur'ass ect's

              welcome to the LP the BEST EDUCATION you can GET>>>>>>

              PSYKOMO 

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                Posted: February 28, 2008, 6:23 pm - IP Logged

                the GUILL's>>>>>>>really LUV^^^

                THE FABRIC.....^!^

                  RantLet It All OutJack-in-the-BoxConehead ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Let It All OutConeheadLet It All Out

                LOL>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>GUILL's are Greato!o

                PSYKOMO 

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                  Posted: February 28, 2008, 7:05 pm - IP Logged

                  FORTUNATLY, I'm not married.  If/when I win, IRON clad prenup in my favor.

                   

                  Not only would she get zip/zero/nothing, but she'd have to pay me!!SmileSmileSmile

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                    Posted: March 7, 2008, 1:29 am - IP Logged

                    Not unless my spouse was a cheater and I was short on money to pay the lawyer.  Otherwise, No!  Vowed for richer or poorer!  LOL$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ all the way to the financial advisors!

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                      Posted: March 7, 2008, 2:47 am - IP Logged

                      And I'll wager that he's not your first marriage either and your grand kids are probably older than your marriage to him.  How many times did it take you to get it right?  huh? You would have left your first husband without a jackpot.  Tell us again about that first husband. 

                      Was he your soulmate Jackpot or just a boxed.   

                      Just keeping it real, tntea.

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                      ?????????????????why do ?????? MEN make MOEEEE MONEY?????

                      vote for HILL cause BILL likes (his TEEN'ager'$$$$)

                      LOL

                      PSYKO 

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                        Posted: March 7, 2008, 1:58 pm - IP Logged

                        Since I'm an elderly widow, I don't have a spouse to leave.  But I'll bet if I won the jackpot I'd have a lot of suitors!  Big Grin

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                          Posted: March 9, 2008, 10:35 pm - IP Logged

                          If your marriage is that miserable, why not leave now? If you get a divorce after you win, the spouse is entitled to at least half. The reason I say "at least half" is because if you hide the fact you won from your spouse and then get a divorce, when the spouse finds out you won and hid the fact, he/she can sue you, possibly ending up with a lot more and maybe even all of it. So seriously, get a divorce now.

                          thats why you dont get married. its overrated anyway.

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                            Posted: March 9, 2008, 10:44 pm - IP Logged

                            for me, I'd rather not get married. Its only a piece of paper in writing.

                            A piece of paper in writing that has a lot of consequences.

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                              Posted: March 9, 2008, 10:57 pm - IP Logged

                              for me, I'd rather not get married. Its only a piece of paper in writing.

                              A piece of paper in writing that has a lot of consequences.

                              Marriage is to make your partner your next of kin.

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