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My husband's brother won the lottery but hasn't offered to help us out.

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Should lottery winner help his brother?

Yes, he should help his brother. [ 22 ]  [23.16%]
No, he can do what he wants with his money. [ 52 ]  [54.74%]
Maybe he did offer help. [ 9 ]  [9.47%]
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Posted: August 15, 2015, 10:52 am - IP Logged

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2015/08/dear_prudence_my_brother_in_law_won_the_lottery_but_won_t_help_us_out.html

This question was posed to Prudence last week. A lot of the comments are condemning the brother who won the lottery. Do you agree? Do you think the lottery winner should help his brother since they are so close?

I actually thought that maybe the lottery winner did try to help his brother but maybe his brother refused the help. And honestly, I think the wife should probably let her husband handle the situation if he needs help.

"No one remembers the person who almost climbed the mountain, only the person who eventually gets to the top."

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    It's been 5 years since the brother won.  The lady should buy her own lottery tickets for a win.  She doesn't know what her husband and his brother discuss--so she needs to start playing.

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      Posted: August 15, 2015, 11:08 am - IP Logged

      This is the thing that is destorying the united states, GREED.  I would help my family and still live a comfortable life.  Family comes first before any multi-million dollar vacation homes.

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        Posted: August 15, 2015, 11:09 am - IP Logged

        The brothers are still close after 5 years, so apparently they have worked it out between them.  The wife needs to stay out of it.

        That said, it is strange that the winner didn't give little bro at least a little money.  Or maybe he did and little bro is hiding it till he can break from the wife.  LOL

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          Posted: August 15, 2015, 11:33 am - IP Logged

          OR peraps the brother turned down the offer of money, preferring to pay his own way.

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            The brothers are still close after 5 years, so apparently they have worked it out between them.  The wife needs to stay out of it.

            That said, it is strange that the winner didn't give little bro at least a little money.  Or maybe he did and little bro is hiding it till he can break from the wife.  LOL

            I Agree!

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              Personally,  l find this story extremely difficult to believe. Not saying it's a lie, just doesn't seem normal. How can they be close without either one asking" so how are you and the family doing? "

              ..Sorry l don't buy it. 

              People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                Posted: August 15, 2015, 12:36 pm - IP Logged

                Sounds likes a greedy wife that's is more interested in the wealth of his in-laws than her husband is.  If she wants to live off the wealth of another man maybe she should divorce her husband and look for wealthier one.

                 * you don't need to buy more tickets, just buy a winning ticket * 
                   
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                  Posted: August 15, 2015, 1:16 pm - IP Logged

                  I agree with noise-gate, and also, the brother may have helpped, but may-be not enough to make a difference in the brother's life.  I would have made sure instead of having two multi-million dollar vacation homes.

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                    The brothers are still close after 5 years, so apparently they have worked it out between them.  The wife needs to stay out of it.

                    That said, it is strange that the winner didn't give little bro at least a little money.  Or maybe he did and little bro is hiding it till he can break from the wife.  LOL

                    Type wouldn't surprise me

                    but then I believe shes got a case of the green eyed monster and they're probably living beyond thar  humble means

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                      Posted: August 15, 2015, 1:42 pm - IP Logged

                      Personally,  l find this story extremely difficult to believe. Not saying it's a lie, just doesn't seem normal. How can they be close without either one asking" so how are you and the family doing? "

                      ..Sorry l don't buy it. 

                      The fact is these guys been brothers all their lives and before the one won the lottery and the other businesses failed did such questions ever come up, if not why should they come up now that their positions in life are switched.

                       * you don't need to buy more tickets, just buy a winning ticket * 
                         
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                        Posted: August 15, 2015, 1:45 pm - IP Logged

                        There are a few details missing to the article that would be a bit more helpful in making a reasonable reply. I do like Prudence's reply about asking.............. If I had that kind of relationship and going through the hard times as siblings, I personally would make darn sure that my brother got $10 million after taxes. I hope the wife doesn't find out that the brother gave her hubby $$ towards the business that failed without her knowing(some scenario similar to that) 

                        Just my 2 cents

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                           I suggest that she should recommend to her brother in law that he talk with his accountant before making any irreversible gifts. His accountant will know tax laws and how much he can gift another person. Then the brother in law will need to consult with his Certified Financial Planner CFP  and see how this gift will change his plans.

                           This decision will have to be rational and not emotional. 

                           Thank You "That Scary Chick" for this thread.

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                            Posted: August 15, 2015, 2:03 pm - IP Logged

                             I suggest that she should recommend to her brother in law that he talk with his accountant before making any irreversible gifts. His accountant will know tax laws and how much he can gift another person. Then the brother in law will need to consult with his Certified Financial Planner CFP  and see how this gift will change his plans.

                             This decision will have to be rational and not emotional. 

                             Thank You "That Scary Chick" for this thread.

                            We are only hearing one side of the story. Perhaps the rich brother financed the business when he was first starting out. Or maybe the rich brother had asked for help when he was down and out and was turned down. Possibly the rich brother is quite a gambler and the other brother is totally against it for some reason, and would never ask for, or accept, any money that was gained in such a fashion.

                            "You can observe a lot just by watching." Yogi Berra, Hall of Fame baseball player.

                            The numbers will tell you what numbers to play. Pay attention to the numbers.

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                              Posted: August 15, 2015, 2:10 pm - IP Logged

                              Sounds likes a greedy wife that's is more interested in the wealth of his in-laws than her husband is.  If she wants to live off the wealth of another man maybe she should divorce her husband and look for wealthier one.

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