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My husband's brother won the lottery but hasn't offered to help us out.

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Should lottery winner help his brother?

Yes, he should help his brother. [ 22 ]  [23.16%]
No, he can do what he wants with his money. [ 52 ]  [54.74%]
Maybe he did offer help. [ 9 ]  [9.47%]
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Personally,  l find this story extremely difficult to believe. Not saying it's a lie, just doesn't seem normal. How can they be close without either one asking" so how are you and the family doing? "

..Sorry l don't buy it. 

The husband seems okay with working two jobs to take care of his bills. That's what responsible men do. It's the wife that seems to want the "help." It's unmanly to beg when you can work and earn. I just hope she won't ruin the brothers relationship

That money's gone fo ever

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    The husband seems okay with working two jobs to take care of his bills. That's what responsible men do. It's the wife that seems to want the "help." It's unmanly to beg when you can work and earn. I just hope she won't ruin the brothers relationship

    l understand what you saying, but this story is all Wrong. I mean just take a serious look at a third of the opening lines. Brothers orphaned, brothers moved around through foster care,  living with various family members. Having lived through those times, you mean to tell me those experiences would not resonate with the more fortunate brother? We are asked to believe that these two are still  close and your brother is literally struggling to keep his  head above water while you go about buying this and that, what kind of a brother are you? We are led to believe that the brother with the money has never given his struggling sibling any money, unless the sister in law conveniently left that piece of information out. Is it possible that the brother was given a tidy sum and made bad investment decisions & the wealthier brother needs to the tree that keeps giving?  They did not have a falling out according to the sister in law....they " close".

    The sister in law is a question mark in so many ways.Sorry, can't buy this story as it's presented. 

    People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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      l understand what you saying, but this story is all Wrong. I mean just take a serious look at a third of the opening lines. Brothers orphaned, brothers moved around through foster care,  living with various family members. Having lived through those times, you mean to tell me those experiences would not resonate with the more fortunate brother? We are asked to believe that these two are still  close and your brother is literally struggling to keep his  head above water while you go about buying this and that, what kind of a brother are you? We are led to believe that the brother with the money has never given his struggling sibling any money, unless the sister in law conveniently left that piece of information out. Is it possible that the brother was given a tidy sum and made bad investment decisions & the wealthier brother needs to the tree that keeps giving?  They did not have a falling out according to the sister in law....they " close".

      The sister in law is a question mark in so many ways.Sorry, can't buy this story as it's presented. 

      What don't you see it happening? That two brothers can be cool when one has millions and the other is working? I see it happen all the time. Some people will not take charity. Now if the struggling brother was sick and couldn't afford treatment or homeless then I'd feel different about fortunate brother not helping.

      That money's gone fo ever

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        What don't you see it happening? That two brothers can be cool when one has millions and the other is working? I see it happen all the time. Some people will not take charity. Now if the struggling brother was sick and couldn't afford treatment or homeless then I'd feel different about fortunate brother not helping.

        I posted what my opinion is, that's all. The scenario presented is wacky. There is no way a wealthy Brother will observe a family member struggle as this woman presents it and do nothing.  If you were a lottery winner and you had a sibling that was hooked on drugs and you had it within your power to get that person into rehab, you don't stand idle by and say " how about dropping one or two of your drugs and hopefully you will turn the corner." Like l said, it's possible the brother did give him a portion but since he blew his stash, he may also be reluctant to ask for another gift.

        Once again- an opinion. Approve

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          Posted: August 15, 2015, 3:45 pm - IP Logged

          Hypotetically: If the family of the winner know his brother and wife just will waste away the money, perhaps they do not want to give it away.

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            Posted: August 15, 2015, 4:26 pm - IP Logged

            The brothers are still close after 5 years, so apparently they have worked it out between them.  The wife needs to stay out of it.

            That said, it is strange that the winner didn't give little bro at least a little money.  Or maybe he did and little bro is hiding it till he can break from the wife.  LOL

            You could be right.  She's whining about money even though her husband is working two jobs to support her lazy behind, maybe she should get off it and get a job to help him.

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              You could be right.  She's whining about money even though her husband is working two jobs to support her lazy behind, maybe she should get off it and get a job to help him.

               The story says nothing about her being unemployed, for all we know she could be working two jobs as well. What she did say was "   I think he should help his brother out."  Maybe she does not have a " lazy behind" as you put it RJ.

              Image result for lazy but talented.... maybe not!

              People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                She says 

                " What I don’t understand is how he can stand to see his little brother so stressed and working so hard while he has more money than he could spend in a dozen lifetimes. "

                She doesn't indicate anywhere that her husband is unable to work. Anybody here who works will tell you stress and working hard is normal part of life.  That last line about "dozen lifetimes" betrays her real intentions. She wants that money for no other reason than the fact that she feels her brother in law has too much of it. 

                That money's gone fo ever

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                  She says 

                  " What I don’t understand is how he can stand to see his little brother so stressed and working so hard while he has more money than he could spend in a dozen lifetimes. "

                  She doesn't indicate anywhere that her husband is unable to work. Anybody here who works will tell you stress and working hard is normal part of life.  That last line about "dozen lifetimes" betrays her real intentions. She wants that money for no other reason than the fact that she feels her brother in law has too much of it. 

                   " What I don’t understand is how he can stand to see his little brother so stressed and working so hard while he has more money than he could spend in a dozen lifetimes. " 

                  That's just frustration, envy, jealousy, talking out loud because its a " You have what l don't have " situation.

                  l mean come on $50 mil is not enough to spend in a dozen lifetimes unless one lived as a hermit like Ted Kaczynski, the convicted "Unabomber,"  in his infamous.....

                   

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                    Personally,  l find this story extremely difficult to believe. Not saying it's a lie, just doesn't seem normal. How can they be close without either one asking" so how are you and the family doing? "

                    ..Sorry l don't buy it. 

                    I Agree!

                    I was playing a pick-4 system that boxed five combos and hit one of them. A co-worker told me how he would play one of the other boxed combos straight, it hit about 4 months later, and his wife told me I owed him a cut because "he gave me the number". Had I given him a cut and later he won a large jackpot, should I expect a cut from his win too?

                    This story isn't about the brother believing he is entitled to some of his brother's winnings, but about a sister-in-law. It's either a bogus story or the rich brother is waiting for his younger brother to divorce his greedy wife and then give him "a nice cut".

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                      I Agree!

                      I was playing a pick-4 system that boxed five combos and hit one of them. A co-worker told me how he would play one of the other boxed combos straight, it hit about 4 months later, and his wife told me I owed him a cut because "he gave me the number". Had I given him a cut and later he won a large jackpot, should I expect a cut from his win too?

                      This story isn't about the brother believing he is entitled to some of his brother's winnings, but about a sister-in-law. It's either a bogus story or the rich brother is waiting for his younger brother to divorce his greedy wife and then give him "a nice cut".

                      Well Stack, if this couple is from the Bible Belt, stay tuned. l read where that section of the country has the highest divorce rate in the Nation.

                      People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.

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                         The story says nothing about her being unemployed, for all we know she could be working two jobs as well. What she did say was "   I think he should help his brother out."  Maybe she does not have a " lazy behind" as you put it RJ.

                        Image result for lazy but talented.... maybe not!

                        Any grown healthy person who thinks their in-laws should be supporting them financially is lazy or greedy or both period.  I can't think of them any other way.

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                          I know a girl whose mom won millions in the lottery. The last time I saw her, she was still working at a gas station. She told me that her mom will not give her or her brother any money because she does not like how their spouses "blow through money". This left me scratching my head, wondering which came first, the chicken or the egg. She said the mom now travels frequently to Vegas, Hawaii and the Carribean with different men. Yikes!!!.

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                            I know a girl whose mom won millions in the lottery. The last time I saw her, she was still working at a gas station. She told me that her mom will not give her or her brother any money because she does not like how their spouses "blow through money". This left me scratching my head, wondering which came first, the chicken or the egg. She said the mom now travels frequently to Vegas, Hawaii and the Carribean with different men. Yikes!!!.

                            Did she tell you because you asked as a friend of did she just want you as a customer to know her personal business?

                             * you don't need to buy more tickets, just buy a winning ticket * 
                               
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                              I know a girl whose mom won millions in the lottery. The last time I saw her, she was still working at a gas station. She told me that her mom will not give her or her brother any money because she does not like how their spouses "blow through money". This left me scratching my head, wondering which came first, the chicken or the egg. She said the mom now travels frequently to Vegas, Hawaii and the Carribean with different men. Yikes!!!.

                              If you knew that your kids spouses did not see the value of money and had the " spend, spend spend " attitude, you better believe that they would be pigs at your trough asking for handouts on a pretty regular basis if you were a lottery winner. My Father once told me this "You cannot help being born into the family you now have- BUT you sure as heck can make sure you know beforehand the family you intend to marry into. "

                              As for the Mother travelling to Vegas etc etc- well its her money for one. Two, she doesn't have to worry about the " blow through money" crowd tagging along. If her current partner/partners are blow through money characters, at least his/they are only one extra hungry mouth to feed at a time.

                              People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it- George Bernard Shaw.